The Lord is not making you suffer my friend, He is simply walking through your trials with you. He does not and will not interfere with free will. I my self can and do empathize with you in your sorrow and pain, and your love for Jane. Although it seems at times our feelings are not important because we are not married, we should keep in mind that there are others that are not married and are praying freverantly for the unity and restoration of a relationship between one another. I am walking with you on this journey, and I do understand your need and pain. I too have the one I love that is not ready for what I have to offer, and I am trusting in God and God alone to soften this precious heart to recieve what I have to offer him. I cannot do it, you cannot do it, but our God is so much bigger than our situations, HE CAN DO IT!!!!!!!
So I stand with you and for you in your cries to the LORD GOD, that He may hear us, reconize us, and provide our hearts with our desires, He can do this, and He will do this.
In JESUS NAME WE STAND TOGETHER, AND WE SPEAK THESE THINGS FOR OUR LIVES, IN JESUS NAME, WE WILL HAVE VICTORY IN OUR RELATIONSHIPS, AMEN.