God bless U, Gilbert. When someone is hurt deeply, they tend to be angry, resentfull, unforgiving, etc. So before reconcilation, there must be forgiveness, confession to the offended party, find out why she is resentful towards U. For the word of God says "before U come to God & one is offended, first try to amend with the person. If the person is unwilling, go to a member or even counsel , if that doesn't work then there is nothing one can do.
Gilbert God's deals with truth, we have responsabilty & acountability towards truth. & one another. For it is the truth that sets us free. Father U see the root, & the cause of the resentment of Gilbert's wife, so Father, I pray that each will take responsability. U are aware of the cause, Father, U want her to be heal of her pain, U desire for them to be in unity, I pray that Gilbert will be the first to make peace. Father in your words U also said in James 5:16 that "we should confess our faults one to another, that we may be healed in Jesus name. Father, I pray that Gilbert will submit & be obedient to your words that it will be well with him in Jesus name.