We hear the deep sorrow in your heart, and we join you in bringing this burden before the Lord. It’s clear that this relationship has meant a great deal to you, and the pain of letting go feels overwhelming. We want to first affirm that your longing for peace, love, and mutual respect is not wrong—these are good and godly desires. However, we must also gently examine this relationship in light of Scripture to ensure it aligns with God’s will for your life.
The Bible tells us in 2 Corinthians 6:14, *"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* If this relationship is with someone who does not share your faith in Jesus Christ, it is not God’s design for you. Even if it has been meaningful, an unequal yoke will only lead to greater heartache, as your spiritual paths will diverge. If this is the case, we must rebuke the enemy’s deception that this relationship could ever fulfill God’s perfect plan for you. The Lord may indeed be removing it because He has something far better—a spouse who will walk with you in faith, encourage your relationship with Christ, and build a marriage that honors Him.
If this relationship has involved sexual intimacy outside of marriage, we must address this as well. The Bible is clear in 1 Corinthians 6:18-20, *"Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s."* Fornication is a sin that grieves the Holy Spirit and creates soul ties that can bind you to someone who may not be God’s choice for you. We must repent of this and ask the Lord to break any ungodly ties, cleansing your heart and mind so you can walk in purity.
If this relationship is with someone of the same sex, we must lovingly but firmly declare that this is not God’s design. Romans 1:26-27 states, *"For this reason, God gave them up to vile passions. For their women changed the natural function into that which is against nature. Likewise also the men, leaving the natural function of the woman, burned in their lust toward one another, men doing what is inappropriate with men, and receiving in themselves the due penalty of their error."* Homosexuality is a sin, and any relationship built on it is outside of God’s will. We must repent and ask the Lord to renew our minds and hearts to align with His truth.
If this relationship is with a believer but has not been pursued with marriage as the goal, we must also address this. Courtship should always have the intention of leading to a godly marriage. If you have been in a prolonged relationship without moving toward this commitment, it may be time to seek the Lord’s wisdom on whether this is truly His will for you. Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us, *"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will direct your paths."*
We also notice that your prayer does not mention the name of Jesus, which is essential for accessing the throne of grace. John 14:6 declares, *"Jesus said to him, ‘I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me.’"* It is only through the blood of Jesus that we can approach God with our requests. If you have not yet surrendered your life to Him, we urge you to do so today. Confess your sins, believe in your heart that Jesus died for you and rose again, and receive Him as your Lord and Savior. This is the first step to true peace and healing.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this dear one who is grieving the loss of a relationship that has meant so much. Lord, we ask that You would comfort them in their sorrow and fill the void in their heart with Your perfect peace. We declare that You are the God who heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds (Psalm 147:3). We ask that You would reveal any areas where this relationship did not align with Your will, whether it be an unequal yoke, sexual immorality, or a path outside of Your design. Give them the strength to release this relationship fully into Your hands, trusting that You have something far better planned for them.
Lord, if there has been any sin in this relationship, we repent on their behalf. Cleanse their heart, mind, and body from any ungodly soul ties or impurities. Break every chain that the enemy has used to bind them, and set them free to walk in the freedom that Christ died to give them. We declare that they are a new creation in Christ, and the old has passed away (2 Corinthians 5:17). Renew their mind with Your truth and fill them with hope for the future You have prepared.
Father, we ask that You would guide them as they seek Your will for their life. If it is Your plan for them to be married, prepare a godly spouse who will love them as Christ loves the church. Give them patience to wait on Your timing and wisdom to discern Your voice. Surround them with godly community who will encourage and support them in their walk with You. Strengthen their faith and help them to trust in Your goodness, even when the path is unclear.
Lord, we also pray for the other person in this relationship. If they do not know You, we ask that You would draw them to Yourself and open their eyes to the truth of the Gospel. If they are a believer, we pray that You would speak to their heart and guide them into Your perfect will for their life. May they both find their identity and purpose in You alone.
We thank You, Lord, that You are close to the brokenhearted and save those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). We trust that You are working all things together for their good, even when it doesn’t feel like it (Romans 8:28). Fill them with Your peace that surpasses all understanding, and let them rest in the knowledge that You hold their future. In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
We encourage you to immerse yourself in God’s Word during this time. Meditate on Scriptures that speak of His love, faithfulness, and promises for your future. Psalm 37:4-5 says, *"Also delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord. Trust also in him, and he will do this."* Surrender your desires to Him, and trust that He will shape them to align with His perfect will.
If you have not already, consider seeking godly counsel from a pastor or mature believer who can walk with you through this season. Proverbs 11:14 tells us, *"Where there is no counsel, the people fall, but in the multitude of counselors there is safety."* You do not have to walk this path alone.
Lastly, remember that grief is a process, and it is okay to take time to heal. But do not let this pain harden your heart toward the Lord. Instead, let it draw you closer to Him. He is the only One who can truly satisfy the longings of your heart. As you seek Him, He will reveal His plans for you—plans for hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11). Keep your eyes fixed on Jesus, the author and perfecter of your faith (Hebrews 12:2). He will never leave you nor forsake you (Hebrews 13:5).
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
