Angel Eyes

Servant of All
Father God, I stopped praying and believing for the longest time because nothing positive has happened. I have had so much hate in my heart. My brother-in-law needs to realize his wife is truly an awful person, the entire family dislikes her and he allows her to treat him so terribly. Promotions given to others instead of the ones that have actually proven they deserve it, I wish I could make some new friends, buy a house, lose weight, get out of debt, monetize on social media, etc. I’ve prayed but nothing good ever happens to me. Please God what exactly am I doing wrong?
 
We hear the pain and frustration in your words, and we want you to know that your heart matters deeply to God. It’s understandable to feel weary when prayers seem unanswered and life feels unfair, but we must remember that God’s ways are higher than ours (Isaiah 55:8-9). He sees what we cannot and works all things for the good of those who love Him (Romans 8:28). Let’s come before Him together, seeking His will and trusting in His timing.

First, we must address the hate in your heart toward your sister-in-law. Scripture is clear: "Anyone who claims to be in the light but hates a brother or sister is still in the darkness" (1 John 2:9). Harboring bitterness only poisons your own soul. We rebuke this spirit of hatred in Jesus’ name and pray for God to soften your heart. Instead of wishing ill upon her, we should pray for her transformation and for your brother-in-law to have wisdom and strength to lead his household in a way that honors God (Ephesians 5:25). Forgiveness is not about excusing her behavior but freeing yourself from the burden of anger.

You also mention feeling overlooked at work and desiring promotions that others receive. While it’s natural to want recognition, we must examine our hearts. Are we seeking these things for God’s glory or our own? "Seek first God’s Kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well" (Matthew 6:33). Instead of comparing yourself to others, focus on serving faithfully where God has placed you. Promotion comes from the Lord (Psalm 75:6-7), and He will lift you up in His perfect time.

Your desire for new friends, a home, financial freedom, and other blessings is not wrong, but we must ask: Are these things being pursued in a way that aligns with God’s will? Social media monetization, for example, can easily become an idol if it takes priority over your relationship with God. "For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also" (Matthew 6:21). We pray for wisdom in stewarding your time, talents, and resources for His glory.

You ask what you’re doing wrong, and we must gently point out that prayer alone is not a magic formula, it’s part of a relationship with God. If you’ve stopped believing, it may be because you’ve lost sight of who He is. "Without faith, it is impossible to please God" (Hebrews 11:6). Have you surrendered your desires to Him, or are you holding onto them tightly? True peace comes when we trust Him even when we don’t see the outcome (Proverbs 3:5-6).

Let’s pray together:

Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, the only name by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12). Lord, we lift up this dear one who is struggling with doubt, bitterness, and unmet desires. Forgive them for the hate in their heart and cleanse them from all unrighteousness (1 John 1:9). Restore their faith, Lord, and help them to trust in Your goodness even when life feels unfair.

We rebuke the spirit of comparison and envy in Jesus’ name. Help them to find contentment in You alone (Philippians 4:11-13). Give them wisdom in their work, relationships, and finances, and open doors that no one can shut (Revelation 3:8). Lord, if there is any area of their life not surrendered to You, reveal it and help them to lay it at Your feet.

We pray for their sister-in-law, that You would soften her heart and draw her to repentance. Give their brother-in-law strength and discernment to lead his family in a way that honors You. Surround this one with godly friends who will encourage them in their walk with You.

Father, we ask for provision, a home, freedom from debt, and opportunities to use their gifts for Your glory. But above all, we pray for a deeper relationship with You. Help them to seek You first, knowing that all else will follow (Matthew 6:33). Renew their hope, Lord, and let them see Your hand at work in their life.

We declare that this season of waiting is not in vain. You are working all things together for their good (Romans 8:28). Strengthen their faith, Lord, and help them to walk in obedience, even when the path is unclear. In Jesus’ name, we pray. Amen.

Remember, dear one, that God is not distant or indifferent to your pain. He collects every tear (Psalm 56:8) and hears every cry. Keep pressing into Him, even when it’s hard. "Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up" (Galatians 6:9). You are not alone, we stand with you in prayer, trusting God to move in ways you cannot yet see.
 
We hear how exhausted you feel, praying and waiting while life seems to pass you by is deeply lonely. When disappointment piles up and you watch others get what you’ve worked harder for, it’s easy for hate to move in and make a home. We’ve all felt that sting. But bitterness has a way of poisoning our own hearts more than anyone else’s, and when it fills so much space, it becomes nearly impossible to spot the small, good things God is still doing.

You asked what you’re doing wrong. We’d gently offer that the resentment you’re carrying is probably making the silence feel louder and the absence of good things feel permanent. It’s not that your longing for fairness is wrong, it’s that holding onto anger about your brother-in-law’s choices or the promotion you deserved keeps your gaze fixed on what you lack instead of on the God who sees you. That doesn’t mean you have to pretend the hurts aren’t real. It just means that forgiveness, however small a beginning, opens the door for hope to breathe again.

Maybe the most honest next step isn’t to fix everything at once, but simply to tell God, word for word, everything you’ve told us, the hate, the disappointment, the fading belief, and ask Him to help you want to let go. He can handle your anger. And we’re praying with you as you take that first awkward step back toward Him.

Lord Jesus, we come with this weary one who has waited so long for something good. You see the overlooked effort, the loneliness, the desire for a fresh start. Quiet the bitterness that clouds hope, and replace it with even a spark of trust. Meet this person in the silence and provide the friendships, provision, and purpose that only You can. We ask for open eyes to notice Your presence today. In Your name, amen.
 
May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.


🙏Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, so that I can trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so
. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

Heal Me Lord Jesus Spirit, Soul, And Body

 
The root of your trouble lies not in God’s deafness but in the corruption of your own heart. You say, “I have had so much hate in my heart,” and yet you wonder that Heaven is brass? How can a vessel filled with vinegar draw forth sweet water from the throne of grace? Unanswered prayer is often a Fatherly chastisement for sin harbored. Your bitterness against your brother-in-law’s wife, your envy over promotions, your fretting over debts and desires, all these are thorns choking the seed of prayer. You ask what you are doing wrong; I tell you plainly: you have made prayer a merchant’s list of wants rather than a child’s clinging to the Father. You have let hate fester where intercession should reign.

Consider the loneliness of Christ, who on the cross bore the weight of sin forsaken, yet prayed for His enemies. Can you enter into that sorrow? Your isolation in these trials might be the very furnace where God would teach you the fellowship of His Son’s sufferings. That bitterness which now devours you, let it be turned into mourning for your own sin, and it will make Christ sweeter to your soul. “They shall mourn for Him, as one mourneth for his only son.” When the world’s charms fade in the light of His cross, the venom against your fellow man will drain away. Go to Him with the prayer of Peter: “Depart from me, for I am a sinful man, O Lord.” Yet do not stay there in despair; let humility be joined to faith, saying, “Come nearer to me, Thou holy One, and cleanse me.”

Cease your fixation on the promotion of others, the buying of houses, the vanity of social media, and make your first prayers intercessory. Plead for that very woman you despise. Intercessory prayer is the sweetest God ever hears, for it is like His own Son’s, who pleads ever for others. You will find, as you wrestle for her soul, that the hate in your heart melts in the flame of holy love. And what of your other desires? Are they not the offspring of discontent? God’s delays are not denials; He strengthens your sinews by the arduous exercise of waiting. His long-dated bills are punctually honored, but He will not feed your covetousness while you neglect the weightier matters of the law, repentance, faith, and charity.

Get to the prayer meeting. There, joined with others, your frozen heart may thaw. Unholiness hinders prayer, but united supplication fans the spark of grace. There plead for your brother-in-law, that his eyes be opened; not with a desire for vindication, but for his deliverance. Let your prayer be in their calamities, as David’s was. And in the quiet of your closet, spread your own bankruptcy before the Lord with arguments drawn from His promises: “Lord, Thou hast said, ‘A new heart also will I give you.’ Give me that heart, for I have none. Thou hast pledged to supply all my need; my greatest need is holiness. Fulfill Thy word unto Thy servant.” Go to God with this, and though you may wait long, settle this in your mind: “But Thou art holy.” His character is your surety. The silence does not mean absence; the registry of Heaven holds every sigh.

The answer you seek for your circumstances may not come in the shape you expect. Jacob prayed for deliverance from Esau and met a wrestling God instead. He gained the blessing, but it came with a limp. So it may be with you, the weight may not lift, the house may not come, but the peace of Christ will garrison your heart when you cry out, “I am alone: and yet I am not alone, because the Father is with me.” Lay hold of this, and the bitterness will sweeten into a sanctified sorrow that wounds but to heal.
 
You ask what you are doing wrong, yet the very question reveals the sickness. A root of bitterness has sprung up and defiled many. When you say, "I stopped praying and believing because nothing positive has happened," you betray a faith that was built on sand. You expected God to serve your desires, and when He did not, you grew resentful and let hatred fill your heart. But hatred is a root of bitterness, and it yields nothing sweet. All that comes from it is bitter and unpleasant. You look at your brother-in-law and his wife with contempt; you envy the promotions of others; you pine for money, a house, friends, and a different body. This is not the mind of faith but of covetousness and pride. You have turned prayer into a merchant's transaction. Then, when the goods did not arrive, you closed the shop and blamed God. Know this: the world hates those who pursue true virtue. If you were truly seeking righteousness, you would be content with whatever God grants, and you would not make worldly success the measure of His love. But you have loved the world, and so its hatred wounds you. Christ did not promise ease but a cross.

Your doubt is the wind that drowns you. Peter began to sink not because the waves were great but because his faith was small. If your faith were steadfast, you would stand firm even in these trials. Instead, you have allowed questioning to overthrow faith. You ask, "Why do others receive and I do not?" This is a fable, an endless and profitless inquiry, for faith does not demand reasons but rests in the good will of God. You must cease your interrogations and believe. The Jews questioned and missed the dispensation of God. Do not imitate them. The seeking that Christ commands is not this anxious, bitter questioning but a vehement desire expressed in prayer and fasting. You have neglected both. Prayer and fasting are mighty against such spiritual frenzy. You think you need no help because you are self-reliant, but even Paul needed the prayers of the Church. Humble yourself. Fasting tames the flesh and makes the soul like an angel. Coupled with true prayer, it drives out the demons of envy and despair. You have ceased praying because you did not get what you wanted; now begin to pray because you need God Himself, not His gifts. Repent of the hatred, confess it as sin, and wash it away with tears and almsgiving. Then, with a cleansed heart, your prayers will not be for promotions or houses first, but for mercy and a right spirit. The other matters may then be added as you learn contentment. The reason nothing good has happened is that you have been nurturing a bitter root. Uproot it by faith working through love, and you will see that what is truly good comes only from the hand of a Father who knows how to give.
 
The ache and frustration you are feeling are real, and I am sorry you have been carrying such a heavy burden. When prayers seem to go unanswered and life only brings disappointment, it is easy to let bitterness take root. You mentioned that hate has filled your heart, and I wonder if that might be the very place to start. The purpose of prayer is not to talk God into giving us what we want; it is to bring our hearts into alignment with what He wants. If we are holding onto resentment and unforgiveness while asking for blessings, our own hearts may be blocking the fellowship God desires with us.

Nothing good ever happening is a painful conclusion to reach, but it often comes from measuring goodness only by circumstances changing the way we expect. True prayer begins by recognizing who God is, not just what He can do. Jesus taught us to pray, “Our Father,” but that intimate address belongs only to those who have come to Him with a humble, repentant heart. If you have never truly cried out, “God be merciful to me, a sinner,” and surrendered your life to Jesus Christ, then that one prayer is the place to begin. Everything else flows from that relationship.

When we do belong to Him, prayer was never meant to be an agency for getting our wishes fulfilled. Its highest purpose is to see God’s will done in our lives and in the world. The desires you listed, promotions, a house, financial freedom, new friends, even physical change, are not wrong in themselves, but if they become the main aim of prayer, we have missed the point. Prayer opens the door for God to do what He has been longing to do all along, but He will not override our will to do it. So the real question might be: Are you willing to let go of your list and say, “Your will be done”?

I also notice that you said you stopped praying and believing. Faith is not a feeling we can afford to set down when things go badly. The Scriptures show us that effectual, fervent prayer flows from a heart that stays anchored in trust, even when the answer delays. Elijah prayed persistently for rain because he had already heard from God that rain was coming. He did not give up; he listened, and then he acted on what he heard. Prayer often includes a listening side. Are you making space to hear what God might be saying to you, or has the talking been one-directional?

The hate you feel toward your sister-in-law and the injustice at work are not hidden from God. But remember that Nehemiah, when faced with mockery and threats, both prayed and set a watch. Prayer is not a substitute for responsible action. If there are steps you can take toward resolving these situations or improving your own circumstances, perhaps seeking counsel, forgiving from the heart, or building new skills, do not neglect those while waiting on God. Fear and faith cannot share the same room; if despair has taken hold, it will strangle your trust. Ask God to help you release your active faith again, even in a small step, much like the desperate mother who would not stop crying out to Jesus until her daughter was delivered.

Let me gently suggest that the first thing you might pray is simply this: “Father, I have held onto hate and unbelief. Cleanse my heart. I want to know You more than I want anything else. Show me Your will, and help me to trust You even when I cannot see the outcome.” As you persist in that kind of prayer, you will find that God is not silent. He wants to do far more than just meet your needs; He wants to transform your heart so that your very desires begin to reflect His own. That is where real, lasting change begins.
 

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