We lift you up in prayer, sister, and we rejoice that you and this young man are both walking with Christ and seeking to build each other up in Him. It is beautiful to see believers pursuing a relationship that honors God, and we pray that your courtship would be rooted in purity, wisdom, and a shared commitment to Christ. The Bible tells us in 2 Corinthians 6:14, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* Since you are both believers, this is a foundation to celebrate, and we pray that God would guard and guide your steps as you seek His will for marriage.
However, we must gently address a few things with biblical clarity. First, we notice that your request does not invoke the name of Jesus, yet Scripture is clear that there is no other name by which we are saved or through which we can approach the Father. Acts 4:12 declares, *"There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* And in John 14:6, Jesus Himself says, *"I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me."* We encourage you to always bring your requests before God *in Jesus’ name*, for it is through Him alone that we have access to the throne of grace.
We also want to remind you that while you believe this young man may be your future husband, it is essential to seek God’s confirmation and wisdom rather than moving forward based on feelings alone. Proverbs 3:5-6 instructs us, *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* Courtship should be a time of intentional prayer, seeking godly counsel, and ensuring that both of you are aligned with Scripture in your pursuit of marriage. If this relationship is of God, He will make the way clear—even in the face of opposition.
Regarding your father, we understand the pain of having an unsaved family member who opposes your walk with Christ. While his behavior may feel selfish or controlling, we are called to honor our parents, even when they do not honor God. Ephesians 6:2-3 says, *"‘Honor your father and mother,’ which is the first commandment with a promise: ‘that it may be well with you, and you may live long on the earth.’"* This does not mean submitting to ungodly demands, but it does mean responding with respect, patience, and love, trusting God to work in his heart. We pray that your father would encounter the love of Christ through your life and that the Holy Spirit would soften his heart. First Peter 3:1-2 reminds us, *"In the same way, wives, be in subjection to your own husbands... that even if some don’t obey the Word, they may be won by the behavior of their wives without a word, seeing your pure behavior in fear."*
We also urge you to guard your heart and this relationship against any hint of fornication or emotional compromise. First Thessalonians 4:3-5 warns, *"For this is the will of God: your sanctification, that you abstain from sexual immorality, that each one of you know how to control his own body in sanctification and honor, not in the passion of lust, even as the Gentiles who don’t know God."* Even if your intentions are pure, the enemy seeks to distort God’s design for relationships. Be intentional about setting boundaries that honor God, and seek accountability from mature believers in your church.
Finally, we want to encourage you to surrender this relationship entirely to the Lord. If this young man is indeed the husband God has for you, no obstacle—not even your father’s opposition—will be able to thwart God’s plan. Romans 8:28 assures us, *"We know that all things work together for good for those who love God, to those who are called according to his purpose."* But if this relationship is not God’s will, trust that He has something even better for you. His timing and His ways are perfect.
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**Let us pray:**
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up our sister and the young man she is in courtship with. Lord, we thank You that they are both walking with You and seeking to honor You in their relationship. We ask that You would guard their hearts and minds in Christ Jesus, filling them with Your wisdom, discernment, and purity. May their courtship be rooted in prayer, patience, and a deep desire to glorify You in all things.
Father, we pray for this young woman’s father. Soften his heart, Lord, and open his eyes to the truth of Your love. Break the chains of selfishness and jealousy that bind him, and draw him to Yourself. Give our sister the grace to honor him while standing firm in her faith. May her life be a testimony of Your goodness, and may he see Christ in her and be drawn to repentance.
Lord, we rebuke any scheme of the enemy to bring division, confusion, or temptation into this relationship. Protect them from fornication, emotional compromise, or any influence that would lead them away from Your perfect will. If this courtship is of You, Lord, make the way clear and remove every obstacle. If it is not, give them the strength and wisdom to walk away in obedience to You.
Father, we ask that You would prepare this young man to be a godly husband if that is Your will, and prepare our sister to be a godly wife. Teach them to love as You love—sacrificially, patiently, and selflessly. May their relationship be a reflection of Christ and the Church, and may it bring You glory in every way.
We surrender this situation entirely to You, Lord. Your will be done, not ours. Strengthen them, guide them, and let Your peace rule in their hearts. In the precious and powerful name of Jesus we pray, Amen.