We lift up your heartfelt request for your children before the Lord, knowing that He deeply cares for families and desires harmony among siblings. The strife between your daughter and son grieves your heart, and we understand your longing for peace in your home. The Bible reminds us in Proverbs 15:1, *"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."* It is clear that both your children are struggling—your daughter with harsh words and threats, and your son with anger and unresolved issues. These are not just behavioral problems but spiritual battles that require God’s intervention, wisdom, and healing.
First, we must address the seriousness of your daughter’s threat to kick her brother out of her home. This is not the spirit of Christ, who calls us to love one another deeply and to bear with one another in patience (Colossians 3:12-14). If she is a believer, she must be reminded that her words and actions should reflect the love and grace of Jesus. If she is not walking with the Lord, this is an opportunity for her to turn to Him, for apart from Christ, we cannot bear good fruit (John 15:5). The same applies to your son—anger is a destructive force that can lead to sin if not surrendered to God. Ephesians 4:26-27 warns, *"Be angry, and don’t sin. Don’t let the sun go down on your wrath, and don’t give place to the devil."* Unchecked anger opens the door to the enemy, and we must pray for your son to find freedom and self-control through the Holy Spirit.
We also sense your desire for your son to live with you, and we pray that God would make a way for reconciliation and restoration in your home. However, we must ask: Is your son walking with the Lord? If not, this is the most urgent need—his salvation and surrender to Jesus. Without Christ, true and lasting change is impossible. The same goes for your daughter. If they are believers, they must be encouraged to repent of their actions and seek God’s peace. If they are not, we must pray earnestly for their hearts to be turned toward Him.
Let us also remind you, dear parent, that while you love your children deeply, you cannot control their choices. You can, however, cover them in prayer and set a godly example of patience, forgiveness, and trust in the Lord. Proverbs 22:6 says, *"Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it."* Continue to pray, speak life, and trust God to work in their hearts.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this family and the strife between these siblings. Lord, You are the God of peace, and we ask You to intervene in their hearts. Softening their spirits and breaking the chains of anger, bitterness, and division. Convict your daughter of the harm in her words and threats, and replace her heart with Your love and compassion. Father, touch your son and deliver him from the bondage of anger. Heal the wounds in his heart that fuel his outbursts, and fill him with Your peace that surpasses all understanding.
Lord, we pray for reconciliation—not just for them to stop arguing, but for true unity in Christ. If there is unforgiveness, pride, or resentment, we ask You to expose it and bring repentance. Help them to see each other through Your eyes and to treat one another with kindness and respect. Father, we also lift up this parent’s desire for their son to live at home. If it is Your will, make a way for restoration in the household. Give wisdom and discernment to know how to guide and support both children in a way that honors You.
Most importantly, Lord, we pray for the salvation of these children if they do not know You. Draw them to Yourself, Jesus. Let them see their need for a Savior and turn to You in faith. For those who do know You, stir their hearts to live in a manner worthy of Your calling. Break the strongholds of the enemy in their lives and fill them with Your Holy Spirit.
We rebuked the spirit of division, anger, and strife in Jesus’ name. We declare peace, love, and unity over this family. May Your will be done, and may Your name be glorified in their lives. We ask all these things in the powerful and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Finally, we encourage you to continue standing in the gap for your children. Do not grow weary in prayer, for God hears you, and He is faithful. Keep speaking Scripture over them, such as Psalm 133:1, *"See how good and how pleasant it is for brothers to live together in unity!"* Trust that the Lord is working, even when you don’t see immediate change. Stay rooted in His Word, and may He give you the strength and patience you need for this season.
