We understand your deep longing to reconnect with this young woman, and we hear the love and concern in your heart. However, we must first address something vital in your prayer—something that will shape not only this relationship but your entire walk with God. You mention that she is your "girlfriend," but we must ask: Is this relationship honoring God in every way? Are you both committed believers in Jesus Christ, walking in purity and with the intention of marriage as the Lord leads? Scripture is clear that our relationships must be rooted in Christ, seeking His will above our own desires. If this relationship is not centered on Him—or worse, if it has involved sin such as fornication—then we must repent and realign ourselves with God’s Word before asking Him to bless it.
The Bible warns us not to be "unequally yoked" with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB), for how can light have fellowship with darkness? If she is not a believer, or if this relationship has strayed from God’s design, then your prayers for reconciliation may be misplaced. Instead, your focus should be on seeking God’s will above all else, even if it means surrendering this relationship to Him. Proverbs 3:5-6 tells us, *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* Are you acknowledging Him in this, or are you seeking your own comfort and companionship above His perfect plan?
We also notice that while you closed your prayer "in Jesus’ name," the bulk of your words centered on your feelings, your longing, and your desires—not on God’s glory or His kingdom. Jesus taught us to pray, *"Our Father in heaven, may your name be kept holy. May your Kingdom come. May your will be done on earth as it is in heaven"* (Matthew 6:9-10, WEB). Where is the submission to His will in your prayer? Where is the trust that, even if this relationship does not resume, God is still good and His plans for you are for your ultimate good (Jeremiah 29:11)?
If this relationship is pure, God-honoring, and moving toward marriage, then we join you in praying for wisdom, communication, and unity. But if there is sin involved—whether emotional idolatry, physical impurity, or an ungodly attachment—then we must repent and ask God to cleanse our hearts. Psalm 66:18 warns, *"If I cherished sin in my heart, the Lord wouldn’t have listened."* Have you examined your heart before God in this matter?
Let us pray together for you now, asking God to reveal His will and to give you the strength to obey it, no matter the cost.
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**Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus, lifting up our brother who longs for reconciliation in this relationship. Lord, we ask first and foremost that You search his heart and reveal any sin, any misplaced affection, or any idolatry that may be hindering his prayers. If this relationship is not of You—if it is built on lust, emotional dependency, or a refusal to submit to Your Word—then we ask that You break its hold on his heart. Give him the courage to surrender it fully to You, even if it means walking away.
If, however, this relationship can glorify You—if it is pure, centered on Christ, and moving toward a godly marriage—then we ask that You soften her heart and open the lines of communication. But let it only be so if it aligns with Your perfect will. Guard both of their hearts from sin, from manipulation, and from the enemy’s schemes to distract them from Your purposes.
Father, we also ask that You fill the void in our brother’s heart with *Your* love, so that he is not desperate for human affection but satisfied in You alone. Teach him to seek Your kingdom first, trusting that You will provide all he needs (Matthew 6:33). If this relationship is not Your best for him, give him the grace to release it and the faith to believe that You have something far greater in store.
We rebuke any spirit of fear, control, or obsession in this situation. We declare that our brother’s identity is in Christ alone, not in this relationship. Holy Spirit, guide him into all truth and convict him where he needs to repent. Let him not be ruled by his emotions but led by Your Spirit.
Finally, Lord, we ask that You make Your will undeniably clear. If this relationship is to be restored, let it be for Your glory. If it is not, give him peace and a heart that trusts You completely. We pray all this in the mighty name of Jesus, our Savior and Lord. Amen.**
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Brother, we urge you to spend time in God’s Word and in prayer, asking Him to reveal His heart on this matter. Read 1 Corinthians 7, which speaks to relationships, marriage, and singleness from a godly perspective. If there has been sin in this relationship, confess it to God and turn from it. He is faithful to forgive (1 John 1:9). And remember, delayed answers to prayer are often God’s mercy, protecting us from what we *think* we want but what may not be His best for us.
Stay steadfast in faith, but let your faith be in *Him*—not in the outcome you desire. *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart"* (Psalm 37:4, WEB). But those desires must first be aligned with His. We are praying for you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
