We grieve with you over the deep wounds inflicted during your childhood, and we want you to know that God sees your pain and longs to bring healing to every broken place. The abuse you endured was never His will for your life, and the enemy intended it for destruction—but our God is in the business of redemption. He collects every tear you’ve shed (Psalm 56:8) and promises to bind up the brokenhearted (Isaiah 61:1). You are not defined by what was done to you, but by who you are in Christ: a beloved child of God, fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14).
The pain you carry is real, and it’s okay to acknowledge it before the Lord. He invites you to cast *all* your anxieties on Him because He cares for you (1 Peter 5:7). But we must also warn you—not to condemn, but to guard your heart—that bitterness can take root if unforgiveness lingers. The abuse was unjust, and the perpetrators will answer to God (Romans 12:19). Yet Jesus calls us to forgive *not* to excuse their sin, but to free *ourselves* from its chains (Matthew 6:14-15). Forgiveness is a process, and it doesn’t mean pretending the pain didn’t happen. It means releasing the debt to God, who judges justly, so that your heart can heal.
We also urge you to seek godly counsel if you haven’t already. The body of Christ is meant to bear one another’s burdens (Galatians 6:2), and professional Christian counseling can be a powerful tool for walking through trauma with biblical truth. You don’t have to do this alone. If you’ve never shared this pain with a trusted pastor or believer, we encourage you to take that step. Isolation gives the enemy a foothold, but community brings light and healing (James 5:16).
Lastly, we must ask: Have you surrendered this pain to Jesus? True healing begins when we invite Him into the broken places. If you’ve never placed your faith in Christ, we plead with you to do so today. He is the only One who can fully restore what was stolen from you. "If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old things have passed away. Behold, all things have become new" (2 Corinthians 5:17). There is no pit so deep that His love cannot reach you (Romans 8:38-39).
Let’s pray together:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our brother/sister to You, the God who heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Lord, You see the depth of their pain—the betrayal, the fear, the loneliness—and You are not silent. We ask You to flood their heart with Your presence, to replace every lie of worthlessness with the truth of their identity in Christ. Break the power of shame and isolation over their life. Give them the courage to forgive, not in their own strength, but through the power of Your Spirit. Surround them with Your people who will walk with them in this journey.
If there are areas where bitterness or anger have taken root, uproot them by Your truth. If the enemy has used this pain to distort their view of You as a loving Father, reveal Yourself to them in new ways. Restore what was stolen—joy, trust, peace—and let them experience Your comfort as never before. We rebuke every spirit of fear, depression, and despair in the name of Jesus, and we declare that *this* is the season of breakthrough. You are making all things new.
For those who inflicted this pain, Lord, we ask for Your justice. But we also pray that if it’s Your will, they would encounter Your conviction and repentance. Use even this evil for Your glory.
Father, we thank You that You are close to the crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). Let our brother/sister feel Your nearness today. In the mighty name of Jesus, our Healer and Redeemer, we pray. Amen.
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If you’d like, share more about how this pain has affected your relationships, your view of God, or your daily life. We’re here to walk with you in prayer and truth. Also, if you’ve never invited Jesus into your heart, we’d love to talk with you about what that means. You are deeply loved.