We come before the Lord with you in this time of deep longing and pain, lifting your heart’s cry to the Father who sees all and knows all. Your desire for a godly husband is noble, and we pray that God will prepare you and the man He has for you—a man who fears the Lord, walks in integrity, and seeks to honor Christ in all things. Yet we must first address the state of your heart and the wounds you carry, for Scripture reminds us that a healthy marriage begins with a heart surrendered to Christ, free from bitterness and unforgiveness.
You have asked for forgiveness for your sins, and we rejoice that you seek God’s mercy. The Bible assures us, *"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness"* (1 John 1:9, WEB). But we must also address the anger and desire for vengeance in your heart. You have said, *"Punish those who hurt me,"* yet Scripture commands us, *"Don’t seek revenge yourselves, beloved, but give place to God’s wrath. For it is written, 'Vengeance belongs to me; I will repay, says the Lord'"* (Romans 12:19, WEB). The call to forgive is not optional—it is a command from Christ Himself, who said, *"If you don’t forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses"* (Matthew 6:15, WEB). Forgiveness does not mean what was done to you was right; it means you release the debt to God, trusting Him to deal justly with those who wronged you.
You have also expressed a desire for God to *"remove the leeches"* from your life, and while we understand the pain of being used and mistreated, we must examine whether there is any responsibility on your part for allowing unhealthy patterns to continue. Proverbs 22:24-25 (WEB) warns, *"Don’t befriend a hot-tempered man, and don’t associate with one who harbors anger, lest you learn his ways, and ensnare your soul."* If you have repeatedly found yourself in relationships where you are taken advantage of, we urge you to seek godly wisdom and boundaries. A woman who knows her worth in Christ does not tolerate mistreatment, nor does she place her hope in man—even a godly one—but in the Lord alone.
Your request for a husband is good, but we must ask: Are you seeking a husband to complete you, or are you already complete in Christ? Marriage is a gift from God, but it is not the ultimate fulfillment. If the Lord has called you to marriage, He will provide in His perfect timing. However, if you are struggling with loneliness or a fear of being alone, we encourage you to seek contentment in Christ first. Paul wrote, *"I have learned to be content in whatever state I am in"* (Philippians 4:11, WEB). A godly marriage is built on two whole people surrendering to Christ, not two broken people looking to each other for healing.
We also notice you have not invoked the name of Jesus in your request. There is no other name by which we are saved, and no prayer is heard by the Father except through Christ. Jesus Himself said, *"No one comes to the Father, except through me"* (John 14:6, WEB). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Him, we urge you to do so now. Repent of your sins, believe in His death and resurrection for your salvation, and invite Him to be Lord of your life. Without Christ, no amount of earthly blessings—including marriage—will satisfy.
Regarding your family, we pray for healing and wisdom. If they have treated you unjustly, we ask God to soften their hearts or give you the strength to release them into His hands. Sometimes, the most loving thing we can do is create distance for our own protection, but even then, we must forgive. Jesus said, *"But I tell you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who mistreat you and persecute you"* (Matthew 5:44, WEB). This is not easy, but with the Holy Spirit’s power, it is possible.
Finally, we must address the pain in your words: *"I deserve a husband."* Scripture does not teach that we *"deserve"* anything from God except justice for our sins. Instead, we receive grace—unmerited favor. A godly marriage is not a reward for good behavior but a gift from a loving Father who knows what is best for us. We encourage you to shift your perspective from *"I deserve"* to *"Lord, if it is Your will, prepare me and prepare him for Your glory."*
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we lift our sister before You, knowing that You see her pain, her longing, and her wounds. Lord, we ask that You heal her heart from the hurt of betrayal, misuse, and family strife. Remove every root of bitterness, every seed of unforgiveness, and replace it with Your love and peace. Help her to release those who have wronged her into Your hands, trusting You to vindicate her in Your perfect way.
Father, if it is Your will, prepare her for a godly husband—a man after Your own heart, who will lead her spiritually, cherish her as Christ loves the church, and walk in integrity. But even more, Lord, prepare *her* heart. Make her whole in You, so that whether You call her to marriage or singleness, she finds her fulfillment in Christ alone. Guard her from the temptation to seek validation in man rather than in You.
We rebuke the spirit of loneliness, rejection, and fear in her life. Fill her with Your Holy Spirit, that she may walk in confidence as Your beloved daughter. Give her wisdom to set healthy boundaries and the courage to walk away from toxic relationships. If there are areas where she has allowed herself to be mistreated, convict her and show her how to walk in godly strength.
Lord, we also pray for her family. Soften their hearts toward her, or if that is not Your will, give her the grace to forgive and release them. Protect her from fraud and injustice, and let Your justice prevail in her life.
Most of all, Father, draw her closer to You. Let her find in Jesus the love, acceptance, and security she longs for. If she has not yet surrendered her life to Christ, we pray that today would be the day of salvation for her. Open her eyes to see that no earthly relationship can compare to the joy of knowing You.
We ask all this in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
