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[Chrysostom]

Your soul is in a tempest, and you have allowed the waves of passion to throw you about like a ship without a rudder. Do you not see that giving voice to such unbridled rage and cursing makes you no different from a demoniac, raving and casting off all shame? The mouth that blesses God must not pour forth such bitterness. You speak of the blood of Jesus, yet you hand your tongue over to the enemy by crying out in fury. If you desire victory over Satan, begin by silencing the storm within your own heart. No demon can harm a soul that clings to Christ in humility and self-control.

You are wounded by your daughter’s words, and the pain is heavy. But consider: is it not permitted by God for your testing? As gold is tried in the fire, so faith is purified by affliction. The righteous do not rage against the flame; they give thanks. Did not the Canaanite woman endure silence and what seemed like rejection, yet persevered in faith until she heard, “Great is your faith, be it unto you even as you will”? You too must wrestle in prayer and patience, not in demands and curses. Tell God your sorrow, but do not dictate to Him how He must act or when.

You desire to flee the country as though escaping the hatred of your own household. But our Lord never promised that the world would love us; He promised the very opposite. “If you were of the world, the world would love its own.” The servant is not greater than his Master. If you suffer reproach for doing right, rejoice that you share in Christ’s sufferings. But examine yourself carefully: have you given any other cause for strife besides the gospel? Walk as a sheep among wolves, harmless and blameless, so that those who revile you may be put to shame by your gentle conduct. Rash words and violent wishes only justify their malice.

Your daughter’s soul is precious, and you must love her with a love that seeks her eternal good, not merely the comfort of feeling loved in return. True friendship dares to reprove with tenderness, but never with hatred. If you truly desire her healing, then first show her the face of a mother who, though wronged, does not repay evil for evil. Stand firm in meekness, redeeming the time, for the days are evil. Do not make your love conditional on her response. Commend her to God, and let Him work in His own way.

Do not say it is too much to bear. He who allowed the trial will also make a way through it, and even use it to burn away your sins so that you may depart purified. The wounds of a friend are faithful; perhaps this pain, accepted in the right spirit, may work a deeper healing in you both than ease ever could. Let your speech be seasoned with salt, and let your prayer be like this: “Lord, forgive both her and me all our sins.” Then leave the outcome with Him who judges righteously. Shake off the spirit of despair and rage, and clothe yourself in the quiet confidence of those who wait on the Lord.

 

[Silas]

The pain you’re feeling right now is real, and it’s clear that this situation has hit you with overwhelming force. When your own daughter says she doesn’t love you because you can’t be there, through no fault of your own, that cuts very deep. And on top of it, the attack on your cat and the sense of being hated by family for no reason stirs up a storm of anguish. It’s understandable to want to escape, to just get away from everything and everyone that is causing you hurt. But let me encourage you to pause before making any life-altering decisions out of that emotional turmoil.

First, recognize that this isn’t just a struggle with people; there is an enemy who seeks to steal, kill, and destroy. He loves to twist words and amplify pain in our minds, making us think we hear rejection through the noise of fireworks or the chaos of life. But our battle is not against flesh and blood. Before you can effectively command Satan to leave, you must submit yourself wholly to God. Pour out your heart to him, not with rote declarations of what must happen, but with the honest cries of a wounded parent. Jesus, who took a little child in his arms, understands both your heart and your daughter’s. He does not despise your tears.

Think of Hannah, who wept bitterly for a child and made a vow to give him back to God. When God answered, she entrusted that child entirely to the Lord’s purposes. In the same way, your daughter ultimately belongs to God. You can pray fiercely for her healing and for the removal of any blinders the enemy has put upon her eyes, but you cannot force her emotions or her choices. Sometimes, as in the case of David and his son Absalom, a parent can do everything right and still watch a child rebel. David prayed while the child was sick, but once the child was gone, he worshiped and trusted that one day he would go to be where the child was. That kind of surrender is painful but powerful.

I know you are commanding healing and a sudden change, and I believe God can do that. But the Scriptures also show us a gradual healing, a man whose sight returned in stages. The restoration of a relationship often works the same way. It takes patience, just like teaching a child to walk: you expect stumbles, you pick them up, and you keep extending grace. Do not let the enemy provoke you into reacting in the flesh with harsh words or impulsive plans to flee. That only adds fuel to the fire. Instead, ask God for the strength to respond with kindness and love, even when your daughter’s words feel like a sword piercing your own soul.

As you wait, commit your daughter to Jesus. Pray that she would know his love and be freed from any spiritual assignment against her mind. But also pray that you would have the peace that passes understanding, whether she emails you tomorrow or whether it takes much longer. God is not asking you to fix her feelings; he is asking you to trust him with them. Your worth is not determined by her love or approval. Stand firm in your identity in Christ, resist the devil, and he will flee from you. And remember, you are not alone, the Lord himself is near to the brokenhearted. May he give you wisdom and guide you into his calm, no matter where you are.