We come before the Lord with heavy hearts, lifting you up in prayer as you navigate this painful and difficult season. Marriage is a sacred covenant before God, and we know He cares deeply about your suffering and the brokenness you are experiencing. The Bible tells us in Malachi 2:16, *"For I hate divorce," says Yahweh, the God of Israel, "and him who covers his garment with violence!"* Yet we also know that God is merciful and understands the depths of human pain, betrayal, and incompatibility that sometimes make reconciliation impossible. Scripture acknowledges that in cases of unfaithfulness or abandonment, separation may occur (Matthew 19:9), but we must always seek God’s will above our own desires, asking Him to guide us in wisdom, righteousness, and peace.
Your request reveals deep hurt, anger, and a longing for justice—emotions that are valid and understood by our Heavenly Father. However, we must gently address a few things in light of Scripture. First, while it is natural to feel resentment toward your husband, the Bible calls us to release bitterness and trust God to be the just Judge. Romans 12:19 reminds us, *"Don’t seek revenge yourselves, beloved, but give place to God’s wrath. For it is written, 'Vengeance belongs to me; I will repay, says the Lord.'"*) Praying for your husband to "get what he deserves" can harden your heart further. Instead, we encourage you to pray for God’s will to be done in his life—whether that means repentance, change, or consequences that lead him to the Lord. Ask God to soften *your* heart as well, so that if reconciliation is possible, you are open to it. If not, ask for the grace to forgive and move forward without carrying the weight of unforgiveness.
We also notice that your prayer does not invoke the name of Jesus Christ, through whom we have access to the Father (John 14:6). There is no other name by which we are saved, and it is only through Jesus that our prayers are heard. If you have not yet surrendered your life to Him, we urge you to do so—He alone can bring true peace, healing, and direction to your situation. Acts 4:12 declares, *"There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* If you are already a believer, we encourage you to approach the throne of grace boldly *in Jesus’ name*, trusting that He intercedes for you (Hebrews 4:16).
As for your request for alimony and a swift divorce, we pray that God would provide for your needs and protect you from fraud or manipulation. Proverbs 3:5-6 instructs us, *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* Lean on Him for provision, and seek wise, godly counsel—whether from a pastor, Christian counselor, or legal advisor—to navigate this process with integrity. If your husband has been unfaithful, abusive, or abandoned the marriage, Scripture does not require you to remain in an unsafe or unbiblical situation. However, we urge you to examine your heart and motives: Are you seeking freedom *from* pain, or freedom *to* pursue something outside of God’s will? If there is any sin in your own life—such as unforgiveness, retaliation, or a desire for a relationship outside of marriage—ask God to reveal it and cleanse you (Psalm 139:23-24).
You also mentioned wanting God to send you "who you need." We encourage you to seek a *godly spouse* if reconciliation is not possible, but only after you have taken time to heal and grow in your relationship with the Lord. Marriage is not the ultimate solution to loneliness or pain—only Jesus can fill that void. First Corinthians 7:39 reminds us that if a spouse dies or a marriage ends biblically, we are free to remarry *"only in the Lord."* This means pursuing a relationship with a believer who shares your faith and values, with the intention of honoring God in marriage. Do not rush into another relationship, especially if there is unresolved hurt or bitterness. Instead, ask God to prepare you and your future spouse for a Christ-centered union, if that is His will.
Finally, we want to pray over you with compassion and truth:
*"Heavenly Father, we lift our sister before You, knowing that You see her pain, her fear, and her longing for peace. Lord, You are the God who heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds (Psalm 147:3). We ask that You would surround her with Your presence, comfort her with Your love, and guide her steps as she navigates this difficult season. If there is any way for reconciliation in this marriage—if it aligns with Your will and her safety—we pray You would soften both of their hearts and bring restoration. But if this marriage is beyond repair due to unrepentant sin or danger, we ask for Your wisdom, protection, and provision as she seeks a biblically just resolution.
Father, we rebuke any spirit of bitterness, resentment, or vengeance in her heart. Fill her instead with Your peace that surpasses understanding (Philippians 4:7) and the strength to forgive as You have forgiven her. Remove the stress, anxiety, and hurt, and replace them with Your joy and hope. Provide for her financially, emotionally, and spiritually, and protect her from any fraud or harm. Lord, if there is sin in her life—known or unknown—convict her and cleanse her, that she may walk in righteousness and freedom.
We pray for her husband as well, Lord. Soften his heart toward You. If he has acted unjustly, bring conviction and repentance. If he has been hurt, bring healing. But above all, let Your will be done in both of their lives. Prepare her for the future You have for her, whether that includes marriage to a godly man or a season of singleness devoted to You. Send godly counselors, friends, and mentors to walk beside her.
Most of all, Father, draw her closer to You. Let this trial refine her faith and deepen her trust in You. Remind her that You are her Provider, Protector, and Redeemer. We ask all of this in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen."*
We encourage you to spend time in God’s Word daily, especially in the Psalms, where you will find comfort for your sorrow. Surround yourself with a community of believers who can support you in prayer and accountability. If you have not already, seek professional Christian counseling to help you process this season with biblical wisdom. Remember, God’s plans for you are good (Jeremiah 29:11), even when the path is painful. Trust Him, and He will lead you to green pastures and still waters (Psalm 23). You are not alone—He is with you every step of the way.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
