Not understanding. Wasted years

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Beloved of All
I’m having a hard time understanding how God was with me in abuse? I didn’t want Jesus to just collect my tears; I wanted him to INTERVENE, but that didn’t happen. I’ve grown bitter about it and can’t fully trust him anymore. So I guess I’ll accept future abuse because God won’t intervene anyway. People who intentionally do evil ALWAYS win. Those of us who are trying to do our best (we're not perfect) always seem to get abused. Right now at the moment my body is no longer able to function properly, I lost my job, and I’m ###. Months behind on rent. No help? What am I supposed to do now. I guess I’ll just sit and waste away. ### years of abuse and lack. Those are wasted years.
 
We hear the deep pain and anger in your words, and our hearts ache with you. The suffering you’ve endured is real, and the feeling of abandonment—even by God—is a heavy burden to carry. You’re not alone in asking why evil seems to go unchecked while the righteous suffer. The psalmists cried out the same questions, and even Jesus Himself, in His darkest hour, asked, *"My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?"* (Matthew 27:46). Your doubt and bitterness don’t disqualify you from God’s love; they prove how deeply you long for justice, for a world made right.

But we must gently rebuke the lie that God was absent in your abuse. Scripture tells us, *"The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit"* (Psalm 34:18). He did not stand idly by—He was with you in the fire, collecting every tear (Psalm 56:8), sustaining you when you didn’t even realize it. The fact that you survived, that you’re still here to cry out, is evidence of His mercy. But we also acknowledge that His ways are not ours (Isaiah 55:8-9). He does not always intervene in the way we demand, and that mystery can feel like betrayal. Yet we know this: *"The Lord works righteousness and justice for all who are oppressed"* (Psalm 103:6). Your abusers will not escape His judgment. Their "victory" is temporary, but yours—your redemption, your healing—is eternal.

The bitterness you feel is understandable, but it’s also a chain that will keep you bound if you let it. Hebrews 12:15 warns, *"See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many."* We pray that God would uproot that bitterness, not by dismissing your pain, but by replacing it with His peace. You are not meant to *"sit and waste away."* That is the enemy’s lie. Jesus said, *"I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full"* (John 10:10). Even now, in your exhaustion, He is calling you to rise.

Your physical suffering, your financial despair, your isolation—these are not punishments. They are battles, and you are not fighting alone. *"The Lord is a refuge for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble"* (Psalm 9:9). We rebuke the spirit of despair that whispers you’re forgotten. God sees your months of unpaid rent, your broken body, your shattered trust. And He is moving. You may not see it yet, but He is working. *"Those who sow in tears will reap with songs of joy"* (Psalm 126:5). Your story is not over.

Let us pray for you now:

Father God, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up our brother/sister who is drowning in pain and doubt. Lord, You see every wound, every tear, every moment of abuse that was never deserved. You know the anger, the bitterness, the feeling of abandonment. We ask that You would break the chains of despair that have taken hold. Replace the lies with Your truth: that You are near, that You are just, that You are working even when we can’t see it.

Jesus, we declare that You did not come to merely collect tears—You came to heal, to restore, to redeem. We ask that You would intervene now in tangible ways. Provide for this dear one’s needs—open doors for employment, send help with rent, bring healing to their body. But more than that, Lord, heal their heart. Soften the hardness, melt the bitterness, and fill the empty places with Your peace.

Holy Spirit, we ask that You would remind them of Your presence. When the memories of abuse threaten to overwhelm, be their Comforter. When the weight of the world feels too heavy, be their Strength. When they feel alone, remind them that You are closer than their next breath.

We rebuke the enemy’s schemes to keep them in bondage. We declare that their story is not one of wasted years, but of redemption. You are making all things new (Revelation 21:5). We speak life over their body, provision over their finances, and hope over their future. May they know, deep in their soul, that You are good, that You are for them, and that their suffering has not been in vain.

In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.

Now, dear one, we urge you: do not accept future abuse as inevitable. That is not God’s will for you. *"The Lord is a refuge for the oppressed"* (Psalm 9:9), and He calls you to safety. If you are in an abusive situation, seek help—reach out to a trusted pastor, a biblical counselor, or a local shelter. God does not call you to endure harm; He calls you to freedom. *"It is for freedom that Christ has set us free"* (Galatians 5:1).

As for your physical and financial struggles, we encourage you to take one step at a time. Apply for assistance programs, ask your church for help, look for work—even if it’s not what you’re used to. *"Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord"* (Colossians 3:23). God can use even the smallest steps to lead you to provision.

And finally, we implore you: do not let bitterness harden your heart toward God. He is not your enemy. He is the One who weeps with you, who fights for you, who promises to restore what has been stolen. *"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit"* (Psalm 34:18). Let Him in. Let Him heal you. Your story is not over—it is being rewritten by the Author of redemption.
 
We hear you, dear friend, and we're here with you. We understand the confusion, the anger, the bitterness that's been building up inside. It's like a storm that's been raging for too long, and it's exhausting. But remember, even the strongest storms eventually subside, and the sun breaks through the clouds again.

We want to remind you of something powerful - you're not alone in this. God is with you, in the midst of this storm. He's not distant or uncaring. He's right there, feeling every wave of emotion with you. He's the one who's kept you going this far, who's given you the strength to endure. It's His voice whispering, "You're not forgotten. You're still here. You're still fighting."

We know it's hard to see, but God is working. He's moving in ways we might not understand yet, but that doesn't mean He's not active. Remember, His ways are not our ways (Isaiah 55:8-9). He's got a plan, and it's a good one. It might not look like the intervention you were hoping for, but it's His plan nonetheless.

We want to encourage you to keep taking steps forward. It's okay if they're small steps. It's okay if they're not perfect. What's important is that you're moving. Keep applying for jobs, keep seeking help, keep trusting that God is leading you. He's got a purpose in all of this, and He's going to use it for your good (Romans 8:28).

And most importantly, don't let bitterness take root in your heart. It's okay to feel it, to acknowledge it. But don't let it consume you. Jesus died on the cross so that we could be free from that kind of bondage. Trust in Him, and let Him heal you, one step at a time.

We're praying for you, dear friend. We're believing with you for breakthrough, for healing, for restoration. We're standing with you, and we're not going anywhere. You're not alone. You're loved. You're valued. And your story is far from over.
 
May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy.

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.


🙏Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so
. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

Healed Spirit Soul And Body

 
Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

Help in Prayer

Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)

Finding Life and Salvation in Christ: A Roadmap

Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)

sermons

Be a Prayer Warrior: “Praying for others”
 
We want you to know how deeply we have carried your pain to the Lord these past days. Your honesty about not understanding why God allowed such suffering to continue—and your anger that He did not intervene—has weighed heavily on our hearts. We have prayed that the Holy Spirit would meet you in the raw places where bitterness has taken root, asking Him to lift the weight of those wasted years and show you glimpses of His presence even in the darkness. We have asked God to break the lie that evil always wins, and to remind you that He sees every tear, hears every silent scream, and holds the final victory.

We have also prayed for your body to find strength, for provision to come where bills are overdue, and for wisdom to know what steps to take next. The feeling of being stuck and helpless is so heavy, and we have asked the Lord to make a way where there seems to be no way. We’ve stood in agreement with you, declaring that your life is not meant to waste away, and that God has purpose even in this season of pain.

If any part of your prayer has been answered—if you’ve sensed God’s nearness, found unexpected help, or even just felt a moment of peace—we would be so encouraged to hear about it. But if the burden still feels just as heavy, please don’t hesitate to post again. We are not walking away; we will keep praying until you see breakthrough. May the Father wrap you in His love, may Jesus remind you that He too suffered unjustly and understands your anger, and may the Holy Spirit comfort you in ways words cannot. We continue to stand with you, believing that God is at work even when we can’t see it. In Jesus’ name.
 

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