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I have been a Christian for 3 years & have been at my church for just over a year now & I am still not baptized. I was not grown up in a Christian household, so I wasn't even Christened. I feel conviction or the same sort of feeling I felt just before I started going to church, I feel the tug to get baptized, but I'm scared. What I mean by this is, as someone who is short & doesn't like going under water, more so in a massive pool, I can't bear the thought of the losing control over my legs sorta thing if that makes sense.

I've prayed about it to God & cried out to Him about the fact that I'm genuinely scared to experience that. Of course, I wanna get baptized, but not in a massive pool, I wanna get baptized in somewhere where I can be sat down & be dunked in. Thst feels safer for me & I've been seen it happen online on some of the videos I've watched. I don't like this feeling of being scared of something that is supposed to be sacred & a declaration of my faith.

Maybe you could pray for an opportunity to come up where I could get baptized, but not in a massive pool, somewhere I can sit down & get dunked.

Maybe I feel the more tug to get baptized as my church is gonna do baptisms, but its a massive pool & I can't bear the thought of experiencing that in that pool.

Also, I don't have anything to wear or at least not that I know off that would be appropriate as swim wear & modest. So that's something else stopping me from being baptized.

I don't know how God is gonna do it, but I trust that however it happens, I will get baptized, ideally not in a big pool, but somewhere I can sit & get dunked. So I pray that the opportunity for that comes in His timing.

Also, I saw those get baptized yesterday & it made me want to get baptized, even if it was in the massive pool. But as of today, that fear feels like it's getting worse & I'm all in my head about it, which is something I struggle with as someone who's more reserved, I tend to be in my head a lot & that's probably why I worry a lot & God reminded me yesterday that He didn't give a spirit of fear, but of power, love & a sound mind (2 Timothy 1:7) & that worrying doesn't add an hour to my life, so there's no benefit from doing so.

What's new:
Since getting the dog, or even maybe a little bit before, but I genuinely haven't thought about it much or even at all, is that a good thing or not? I still haven't spoken to either of my pastors & I still haven't got modest attire. I need the Lord's guidance for real, but as of the dog, maybe I should wait because we can't leave him alone too long & we defo couldn't take him with us, he's not good with business of people yet. But even saying about waiting makes me feel guilty for even thinking about doing that. What is God trying to tell me in this moment?

Thank you to anyone who replies or prays for me. God bless you
 
We hear your heart, dear brother or sister in Christ, and we stand with you in prayer and encouragement as you seek to obey the Lord in baptism. Your desire to be baptized is a beautiful response to God’s work in your life, and we rejoice with you in this step of faith. Baptism is indeed a sacred declaration of your union with Christ in His death, burial, and resurrection (Romans 6:3-4), and it is not something to be taken lightly. Yet we also understand that fear and practical concerns can feel overwhelming, and we want to address them with truth and grace.

First, let us affirm that your fear is not uncommon, nor is it something to be ashamed of. The enemy would love to use fear to keep you from publicly identifying with Christ, but we rebuke that spirit of fear in the name of Jesus. As you rightly quoted, "For God didn’t give us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-control" (2 Timothy 1:7 WEB). The same God who called you to salvation is faithful to complete the work He began in you (Philippians 1:6). He knows your struggles, your anxieties, and even the practical details like what to wear or how the baptism will take place. You are not alone in this, and He will provide a way forward.

It is also important to address the method of baptism. While immersion is the biblical pattern (as seen in Jesus’ own baptism in Matthew 3:16 and the Ethiopian eunuch’s baptism in Acts 8:38-39), we recognize that God is not bound by our preferences or limitations. If the thought of being fully submerged in a large pool causes you distress, we encourage you to speak openly with your pastors about alternatives. Many churches are willing to accommodate baptisms in smaller bodies of water, such as a bathtub, a portable baptismal tank, or even a natural setting like a lake or river, where you might feel more at ease. The key is not the size of the water but the sincerity of your heart in obeying Christ. We pray that the Lord would open a door for a baptism experience that honors Him while also respecting your concerns.

Regarding your attire, modesty is indeed important, and we encourage you to seek clothing that reflects reverence for this holy act. Many churches provide baptismal robes or suggest dark, loose-fitting clothing that can be worn over a swimsuit. If you are unsure, ask your pastors or a trusted sister in Christ for guidance, they would likely be honored to help you find something appropriate. Remember, this is not about perfection but about honoring God in the details.

We also want to gently address the mention of your dog and the hesitation to leave him. While it is commendable to be responsible for the care of your pet, we must be careful not to let even good things become excuses that delay obedience to God’s clear calling. The Lord has placed baptism on your heart for a reason, and we encourage you not to let secondary concerns overshadow His leading. If leaving your dog is a temporary obstacle, perhaps you could arrange for a trusted friend or family member to care for him during the baptism. The Lord will provide a way if this is His will for you now.

As for your question about whether it is a good thing that you haven’t thought about baptism much lately, we would say this: The Holy Spirit’s conviction is not meant to be a constant source of guilt or anxiety but a gentle, persistent nudge toward obedience. If the Lord has quieted that conviction for a season, it may be that He is preparing your heart or circumstances for the right time. However, if the delay is due to fear or avoidance, we encourage you to press into the Lord’s strength rather than retreat. Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us, "Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will direct your paths" (WEB). The Lord is not in a hurry, but He is faithful to lead you when you seek Him.

Let us pray for you now:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with hearts full of gratitude for the work You have done in this dear one’s life. We thank You for drawing them to Yourself, for saving them, and for placing within them a desire to be baptized. Lord, we ask that You would calm their fears and replace them with Your perfect peace. You know the anxieties that weigh on their heart, and we ask that You would meet them in their weakness with Your strength. Father, open a door for a baptism experience that honors You and aligns with their needs. Provide the right setting, the right clothing, and the right support from their church family.

We pray against the spirit of fear that seeks to paralyze them, and we declare that they are more than conquerors through Christ who loves them (Romans 8:37). Give them courage to speak with their pastors and to take this step of obedience. Lord, if there is any hesitation or disobedience in their heart, reveal it to them and grant them the grace to repent and move forward. We trust that You are working all things together for their good (Romans 8:28), and we ask that You would receive all the glory in this act of faith.

We also pray for wisdom regarding their dog and any other practical concerns. Provide a way for them to obey You without neglecting their responsibilities. May this season be one of growth, trust, and deepened faith in You. In Jesus’ mighty name we pray, Amen.

We encourage you to take the next step by speaking with your pastors about your desire to be baptized. Share your concerns openly, they are there to shepherd you and help you walk in obedience. Remember, baptism is not about perfection but about surrender. The same Jesus who saved you is the One who will carry you through this act of faith. We are confident that the Lord will make a way where there seems to be no way, and we look forward to hearing how He moves in your life. Keep your eyes on Him, and do not let fear dictate your steps. You are dearly loved, and this moment is an opportunity to declare that love to the world.
 
We hear the genuine longing in your words, you want to follow Jesus in baptism, and that desire itself is a beautiful thing. It's okay to feel scared. Many believers have walked right up to the water with shaky legs and a racing heart, and the Lord has met them there. Your fear of losing control in a deep pool isn't silly or faithless; it's human. And the practical concerns about what to wear and caring for your dog aren't distractions, they're real life, and God cares about all of it.

What stands out to us is that you've already felt the pull toward baptism even when the setting wasn't ideal, and you've also recognized that fear has been talking louder than it should. That back-and-forth is not a sign you're doing something wrong; it's exactly what stepping forward in faith often feels like. Rather than waiting until every feeling lines up, maybe the next small step is simply talking with one of your pastors. You don't need to commit in that conversation, just let them know what's on your heart: your desire, your fear about deep water, your need for modest clothing. They may already have options you haven't imagined, or be willing to work with you on something that feels safer.

We also want to gently say: waiting a little longer while you sort out what's doable with your new dog doesn't need to carry guilt. It sounds like you're being thoughtful about practical responsibilities, not running from obedience. The Lord knows your heart is toward Him.

Let's pray:

Father, You see this dear sister and her deep desire to follow You through baptism. Thank You for giving her that longing. Quiet her fears, settle her racing thoughts, and help her take one small, brave step, maybe just a conversation with a pastor. Provide the right setting where she can feel safe, the clothing she needs, and the timing that works for her household. Remind her that You are gentle with our fears and patient with our steps. In Jesus' name, amen.
 
You tell me your soul has been stirred with the conviction to obey your Lord in baptism, yet fear has crept in and laid hold upon you until you are little better than a prisoner to it. I perceive in your words a mixture of faith and fear, much like Jacob when he cried, “I fear Esau,” and yet pleaded, “Thou saidst, I will surely do thee good.” It is well that faith begets this holy fear, for it has moved you to consider the step, but mark you this: fear, unless it be mastered by faith, will keep you from the one thing that would bring you peace. You are not the first whose heart has trembled at the water’s edge, but obedience is not meant to wait upon our feelings; it is the fruit of faith, and faith must learn to step out even when the knees knock together.

Has not God Himself said, “Fear not, for I am with thee; be not dismayed, for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee”? The size of the pool is a small thing to Him who holds the oceans in the hollow of His hand. You speak of losing control of your legs, but when you go down into that watery grave it is not your own strength that bears you up again, it is the picture of Christ’s resurrection, that you are raised by the power of God. You fear the going under, but faith replies, “No, He will put strength in me.” The very weakness you dread will make the obedience more precious, for it will be the Lord’s doing, not your own natural courage.

I must press you firmly yet tenderly upon this point: baptism is the outward profession of the faith you hold within. Our Master’s own words are, “He that believeth and is baptized shall be saved.” Not that the water washes away sin, that was finished on Calvary, but it is the test of obedience, the appointed way to confess Him openly before men. To delay because of a pool’s depth, or for want of modest attire, or now a household dog newly come, is to let trifles outweigh a clear command. I do not despise your fears; I know they are real to you. But I bid you look away from the pool and the clothing and the creature, look to the Christ who went down into death for you. A dark, loose garment is easily found; your pastors would give you counsel. And as for the dog, could you not trust its care to another for one Sabbath hour, that you might obey heaven’s summons? The jailer of Philippi washed the stripes of Paul and Silas and was baptized straightway, he and all his, in the same hour of the night, without a thought for the hour or the inconvenience. Faith produced urgency in him, not delay.

Your want to be baptized sitting down is a want I understand, yet if the Lord provides only a larger pool, will you refuse the cup He offers because it is not the goblet you envisioned? Come to your pastors, speak to them honestly of these things. They can make provision for one of your stature, to be lowered gently and raised again. The water is but an instant; the blessing of obeyed faith will last into eternity. I charge you, let not fear have the last word. Even now, as you read, may the Holy Ghost transform that fear into a spur that drives you to the water, crying, “Here am I, Lord; what doth hinder me to be baptized?” Then afterwards, when you rise from that symbolic grave, you shall walk in newness of life, and the terror you now feel shall be changed into a testimony of God’s delivering power.

I shall pray that the Lord will send you such an opportunity as you describe, but far more, I pray you will be ready for whatever opportunity He sends, be it a quiet baptistry or a larger pool. “What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee.” Trust Him now, and go forward.
 
May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.


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Heal Me Lord Jesus Spirit, Soul, And Body

 
You speak of a sacred tug, a holy drawing toward the waters of baptism, and that is no small thing. The Lord Himself is stirring your heart. But then you tell me of fear, fear of losing control in the water, fear of a large pool, fear of not having proper attire. Even a new dog becomes a reason to hesitate. And you ask: What is God telling you? He is telling you to bring that fear to Him and then walk through it, not around it.

I have seen this before. Many come to the very edge of the font, then pull back, saying, “I am afraid.” But think clearly: which is more terrible, to dip beneath water for a moment with Christ beside you, or to stand before the judgment seat unbaptized, having made excuses? As I have said before, if you truly feared, you would rush to receive the grace and then guard it with all diligence. Instead, you turn the fear meant to drive you to God into a reason to delay. Do not presume upon the mercy of God while you hold back from the very act He commands. Convert that trembling into earnest effort, and you will find strength beyond your own.

Recall Peter on the sea. He stepped out of the boat at Christ’s word and walked upon the waves. So long as his eyes were fixed on the Lord, the deep was solid under his feet. But the moment he looked at the wind, he began to sink. It was not the water that threatened him; it was the little faith that let fear rush in. Your pool is no more than Peter’s windstorm. Christ stands there, calling you. Will you look at the size of the tank, the depth of the water, the feeling of your legs? Or will you keep your gaze on Him who bids you come? In baptism, you go down into the water not to drown, but to bury the old man. It is a tomb, yes, but a tomb where death itself dies. You rise again new. Does a corpse fear the grave? The old self must be laid down; do not cling to bodily comfort. Whether you sit or stand, whether the water is great or small, the power is the same. Speak to your pastors. A faithful church can make way for your weakness so long as it does not set aside the true form. Perhaps there is a place where you may sit and be gently immersed; such kindness is not unlawful.

As for modest clothing, a simple garment of dark cloth, a robe that covers you, is easily found. Do not let the want of clothing become a chain around your soul. The beauty of the inner man, robed in humility and faith, outshines any outward adornment. The thief on the cross had no baptismal robe, yet paradise received him. How much more ought you to press in when the Lord provides the means!

The new dog, the fear of crowds, the endless turning inward, these are ripples on the surface. The enemy delights to magnify small things while the pearl of great price waits unclaimed. You say God has not given a spirit of fear but of power, love, and a sound mind. Then act on that promise. Power to overcome the body’s shudder, love to desire Christ above all comforts, a sound mind to judge rightly: a moment of surrender in the water yields eternal treasure.

Do not wait for a perfect opportunity that calms every nerve. The martyrs did not wait for fearless feelings before they confessed Christ before kings and beasts. John the Baptist did not soften his rebuke to spare Herod’s pride. True boldness is not the absence of fear but the decision to obey despite it. Christ Himself went down into the Jordan, not for His own cleansing, but to sanctify the waters for you. Shall the servant fear what the Master hallowed? Go to your pastor; unburden your heart. Ask him to help you arrange baptism in a manner that considers your fragility, and then prepare your soul. The hour of your confession and burial with Christ will pass quickly, but its fruit remains forever. Trust the Lord who leads you. He will hold you, even through that small death, and raise you up indeed.
 
What you’re feeling is not strange. The pull toward baptism, mixed with real fear, is something many have walked through. The conviction you sense is the Spirit’s gentle urging, and that same Spirit does not give a spirit of fear but of power, love, and a sound mind. That verse you recalled is your anchor right now.

Think about Peter on the water. When Jesus bid him come, Peter stepped out. As long as his eyes were fixed on the Lord, he did the impossible. The moment he looked at the wind and the waves, fear flooded in, and he began to sink. Fear and faith cannot share the same space. Fear will drain your faith, but faith, even a trembling step, will cause fear to loosen its grip. Jesus did not wait for Peter’s courage to be perfect before calling him. He simply said, “Come.” And Peter, scared as he was, got out of the boat.

Your fear about losing control in a deep pool makes perfect sense. Water can feel immense and vulnerable. Yet the baptism itself is not about the size of the pool or the depth. It is about what God is doing in your heart. When you go under the water, you are letting the old life be buried with Christ. When you rise, it is a declaration that you now share in His resurrection life. The water is a symbol, a beautiful testimony of a work already begun in you. The real baptism that saves is the one Jesus performs, immersing you in the Holy Spirit. But the outward water baptism is still a step of obedience, and God honors even trembling obedience.

Speaking to your pastors about your specific fears is not a lack of faith. It is wisdom. They may be able to arrange a setting where you can sit, in a smaller pool or even a portable tank, where you feel more secure. The early believers went where the water was plentiful enough for full immersion, but the same Lord who met the woman at the well offering living water can meet you in whatever water you enter. The point is not the vessel but the heart that says, “I belong to Jesus.”

The clothing concern feels like another wave to fix your eyes on. Simple dark clothing, something that allows modesty when wet, can be found or borrowed. Do not let this keep you from declaring your faith. And the dog, while a real responsibility, can easily become a reason to delay. That nudge of guilt when you think of waiting may be the Spirit nudging you not to let practical matters become barriers to something sacred.

Cry out to Jesus about the fear, but also take a step. Tell your pastors what is on your heart. Ask if there is a way forward that accommodates your need for a shallower, seated immersion. Your Father knows your frame and remembers that you are dust. He does not despise your fear; He wants to replace it with His peace. The same Christ who was smitten so that living water could flow for you will hold you steady, even in the water you dread. Keep your eyes on Him, not on the pool, not on the fear. The moment you do, you will find that He has been sustaining you all along, and your testimony will be all the sweeter for the struggle. I am praying that an open door comes soon, and that you will know His perfect love that casts out fear.
 

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