We hear the deep ache in your heart, the longing for connection and the pain of feeling forgotten by those who should cherish you most. Loneliness is a heavy burden, especially when it comes from family, and we grieve with you over the way your siblings have treated you as an afterthought. But we also rejoice that you have brought this sorrow before the Lord, for He is the Father to the fatherless and the defender of those who feel abandoned (Psalm 68:5-6). You are not truly alone, for He sees you, loves you, and has promised never to leave you nor forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:6).
First, let us address the wound of rejection you feel from your siblings. The Bible teaches us to honor family relationships (1 Timothy 5:8), and it is painful when those bonds are broken by neglect or resentment. While we cannot force your siblings to change their hearts, we can pray that God softens them. It is possible that their distance stems from misunderstanding—perhaps they do not know how to engage with your autism, or perhaps they are caught up in their own struggles. But regardless of their reasons, their actions do not define your worth. You are fearfully and wonderfully made by God (Psalm 139:14), and your value is not determined by how others treat you. If they have resentment toward you, we pray that God would convict their hearts and lead them to repentance, for bitterness only harms the one who holds it (Hebrews 12:15).
That said, we must also encourage you to examine your own heart. Have you reached out to them in love, expressing your feelings without accusation? Sometimes, gentle honesty can open doors. Proverbs 15:1 tells us, "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger." If you haven’t already, consider writing them a letter or having a calm conversation, sharing how their actions make you feel and expressing your desire for a closer relationship. But even if they do not respond as you hope, remember that your identity is in Christ, not in their approval.
As for the holidays, we understand the deep sorrow of feeling like an orphan while the world celebrates with family. But we urge you to shift your focus from what you lack to what God can provide. He is your ever-present help (Psalm 46:1), and He often uses His people to fill the gaps in our lives. Have you sought out a church family? The body of Christ is called to bear one another’s burdens (Galatians 6:2), and many churches have gatherings or programs for those who are alone during the holidays. If you are not already part of a local church, we strongly encourage you to find one where you can be known, loved, and included. God may very well place people in your life through His church who will become like family to you.
Additionally, consider opening your home to others who may also be alone. There are many people—widows, singles, international students, or even other believers without local family—who would be blessed by an invitation to share a meal. Jesus said, "For I was hungry, and you gave me food; I was thirsty, and you gave me drink; I was a stranger, and you took me in" (Matthew 25:35). When you extend hospitality, you may find that God fills your own loneliness in ways you never expected.
Let us also address the comparison you made to *Oliver Twist*. While it’s natural to feel like an orphan in moments of rejection, we must remember that our true inheritance is in Christ. Ephesians 1:5 tells us that God "predestined us for adoption as children through Jesus Christ to himself, according to the good pleasure of his will." You are not an orphan—you are a child of the King! And as His child, you have access to His comfort, His provision, and His perfect love.
Finally, we want to lift you up in prayer, asking God to meet your deepest needs and to surround you with His presence and His people.
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**Prayer:**
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our sister, who is carrying the heavy weight of loneliness and rejection. Lord, You know the depths of her heartache, the sting of feeling forgotten by her family, and the longing for connection that seems just out of reach. We ask that You would be her comfort and her strength, reminding her that she is never truly alone because You are with her always.
Father, we pray for her siblings—that You would soften their hearts toward her. If there is resentment or misunderstanding between them, we ask that You would break down those walls and replace them with love, patience, and a desire for reconciliation. Help them to see her through Your eyes, as a precious sister worthy of their time and affection. Convict them of any sinful attitudes they may hold, and lead them to repentance. But even if they do not change, Lord, guard her heart from bitterness and fill her with Your peace that surpasses understanding.
Lord, we ask that You would provide for her during the holidays. Open doors for her to be included in a church family or a community of believers who will welcome her with open arms. Bring people into her life who will reflect Your love to her, so that she may experience the joy of fellowship and belonging. If there are others who are alone, give her the courage to reach out to them, that she may be a blessing to them as You bless her.
Father, we rebuke the lies of the enemy that tell her she is unlovable or unworthy. Remind her that she is Your beloved daughter, redeemed by the blood of Jesus and adopted into Your eternal family. Let her find her identity in You alone, not in the approval or attention of others.
We pray that You would meet her emotional needs in ways that only You can. Fill the empty spaces in her heart with Your love, and let her know that You are her ever-present help in trouble. Give her joy in the midst of sorrow, hope in the midst of loneliness, and a deep assurance that You are working all things together for her good (Romans 8:28).
In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
