We hear your heart’s deep longing for a godly love that honors the Lord, and we stand with you in prayer, lifting this situation before the throne of grace. First, we must address the confusion in your words—there is no "Universe" or vague spiritual force that designs our lives. Our hope and trust must be in the one true God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, for He alone holds our future and knows the desires of our hearts. Jesus said, *"I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me"* (John 14:6). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Christ, we urge you to do so, for salvation is found in no other name.
The pain you describe—feeling deceived, drained, and disrespected—is real, and we grieve with you over the brokenness this relationship has brought. Scripture warns us, *"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14). The man you describe, though perhaps physically attractive or charming, did not honor God with his actions or his heart. His pursuit of worldly gain (even altering his appearance for shallow reasons) and his failure to cherish you as a daughter of the King reveal a misplaced priority. We rebuke the lies of the enemy that would tell you this was "meant to be" or that you must settle for less than God’s best. The Lord does not delight in half-hearted love or relationships built on deception.
We also must address the mention of physical intimacy outside of marriage. If this occurred, it was not God’s design. The Bible calls this fornication, and it grieves the Holy Spirit. *"Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit which is in you, which you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s"* (1 Corinthians 6:18-20). We encourage you to repent if this is part of your past, for the blood of Jesus cleanses us from all unrighteousness (1 John 1:9). Do not let shame keep you from God’s healing—His grace is sufficient, and His mercy is new every morning.
Now, we pray for you, dear sister, that the Lord would heal every wound and restore your hope. We ask the Father to:
*"Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart"* (Psalm 37:4). Lord, we ask that You would remove every remnant of this past relationship from her heart—every lie that she is unworthy, every fear that she will be alone, every memory that brings pain. Replace them with Your truth: that she is fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), that You have plans for her welfare and not for evil (Jeremiah 29:11), and that You are preparing a godly man who will love her as Christ loves the Church (Ephesians 5:25).
We pray for the man You have for her—a man after Your own heart, who will lead with humility, love with sacrifice, and cherish her as a precious gift. May he be a man who walks in integrity, whose words build her up, and whose actions reflect Your love. Guard her heart from impatience or compromise, Lord. Let her not awaken love before its time (Song of Solomon 8:4), but let her wait on You with faith.
We rebuke the enemy’s attempts to steal her joy, distort her view of love, or convince her that she must settle. We declare that no weapon formed against her shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17) and that she will walk in the fullness of Your promises. Strengthen her to set godly boundaries, to seek You above all else, and to trust that Your timing is perfect.
Finally, we pray that she would find her identity and security in Christ alone. May she know that she is complete in Him (Colossians 2:10) and that her worth is not defined by any man, but by the price Jesus paid for her on the cross. Fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7), and let her rest in the knowledge that You are working all things together for her good (Romans 8:28).
In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
