We hear your cry, dear sister, and our hearts break with yours as we lift you before the throne of grace in the mighty name of Jesus Christ. The pain you carry is deep, and the weight of betrayal, rejection, and loneliness is crushing your spirit. But we stand with you, declaring that God sees you, He hears you, and He will not abandon you in this valley. You are not forgotten, and your suffering is not in vain.
First, we must address the sin that has taken root in your marriage. Your husband’s infidelity, drug use, and disregard for you as his wife are grievous violations of the covenant he made before God. Scripture is clear: *"Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers"* (Hebrews 13:4). His actions are not only breaking your heart but are an offense to the Lord. We rebuke the spirit of unfaithfulness and rebellion operating in his life, and we pray that God would bring conviction, repentance, and restoration—if it be His will—or divine intervention to remove what is toxic from your life.
You ask why the Lord has not yet dealt with him, and we understand the frustration of waiting on God’s justice. But remember, beloved, *"The Lord is not slow concerning his promise, as some count slowness; but is patient with us, not wishing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance"* (2 Peter 3:9). His delay does not mean His absence. He is working, even when we cannot see it. Yet we also declare that God is a God of justice, and He will not be mocked. *"Do not be deceived. God is not mocked, for whatever a man sows, that he will also reap"* (Galatians 6:7). Your husband will answer for his choices, but we pray that answer comes in the form of repentance rather than ruin.
Your desire to honor your marriage vows is commendable, but we must also speak truth: you are not called to endure abuse, whether emotional, mental, or spiritual. God does not require you to remain in a one-sided, destructive marriage where you are devalued and discarded. *"A wife is bound by law for as long as her husband lives; but if the husband is dead, she is free to be married to whomever she desires, only in the Lord"* (1 Corinthians 7:39). If your husband is unwilling to repent and change, you may need to seek godly counsel about separation or divorce—not as a first resort, but as a last resort when all other avenues have been exhausted. Your safety and well-being matter to God.
We also rebuke the spirit of isolation that has kept you without godly friends. The enemy wants you to believe you are alone, but we declare that God is raising up sisters in Christ to walk beside you. *"Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow; but woe to him who is alone when he falls, and doesn’t have another to lift him up"* (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10). We pray that the Lord would connect you with a Bible-believing church, a women’s group, or a mentor who can speak life into you and remind you of your worth in Christ.
Now, we lift you in prayer:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, the One who bore our griefs and carried our sorrows. Lord, we lift up this precious sister who is broken, weary, and on the verge of collapse. You see every tear she has cried, every sleepless night she has endured, and every moment she has clung to You in desperation. Father, we ask that You would be her strength when she is weak, her peace when her mind is in turmoil, and her hope when she feels like giving up.
Lord, we pray for her husband. If there is any hope of repentance, soften his heart, convict him of his sin, and draw him back to You and to his wife. But if he remains hardened, we ask that You would remove him from her life in a way that brings You glory and her freedom. Protect her from further harm, and give her the wisdom to know when to stay and when to walk away.
Father, we rebuke the spirit of depression, anxiety, and despair that is pressing down on her. We declare that she is not defined by her husband’s choices or her loneliness. You have called her *"beloved,"* *"chosen,"* and *"redeemed"* (Colossians 3:12, 1 Peter 2:9). Remind her of her identity in Christ, and fill her with Your joy as her strength (Nehemiah 8:10).
Lord, we ask that You would surround her with godly friends who will love her, pray for her, and speak truth into her life. Remove any fear of vulnerability, and give her the courage to seek out fellowship. Provide for her every need—emotionally, spiritually, and physically.
And finally, Father, we ask that You would heal her broken heart. Mend the places where she has been wounded, and restore what has been stolen from her. Give her the grace to forgive, not because her husband deserves it, but because You have forgiven her. And if she must walk away, let her do so without bitterness, trusting that You will lead her into a future filled with hope (Jeremiah 29:11).
We pray all these things in the powerful, matchless name of Jesus Christ, the Author and Finisher of our faith. Amen.
Sister, you are not alone. The Lord is your refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble (Psalm 46:1). We encourage you to seek out a pastor or biblical counselor who can walk with you through this season. You do not have to carry this burden by yourself. And remember, even if your husband does not see your worth, God does. You are His daughter, and He loves you with an everlasting love (Jeremiah 31:3). Hold fast to Him, and He will sustain you.