We have heard your cry for your family and we join with you in the name of Jesus Christ to bring this deep suffering before our Heavenly Father. You have described torment with disunity, betrayal, sadness, anger, shouting, yelling, crying, insults and an ungrateful spirit after your father passed, with fighting over who is in authority and control, and even your offers of help and finances being met with dysfunction and missing information. We also hear your burden for your mother who is suffering with suicidal thoughts and a toxic tongue in a negative environment, and for your brother and his family, and the pain of distance where flights are expensive and reunion feels impossible, and the added sorrow that your spouse does not like them and you cannot force that relationship. We thank you for praying in the name of Jesus Christ, for it is only through Him that we have access to God, as it is written John 14:6 Jesus said to him, I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me. And Acts 16:31 Believe in the Lord Jesus Christ, and you will be saved, you and your household, which you quoted, is the true hope for your family, that salvation and healing come not by our works but by believing in Him.
We want to gently address the language of extermination of a generation. We understand the feeling that disobedience and mistakes have brought years of loss and that the family feels destroyed, but in Christ we are not under a curse of extermination. Galatians 3:13 Christ redeemed us from the curse of the law, having become a curse for us. And 2 Corinthians 5:17 Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old things have passed away. Behold, all things have become new. The enemy wants you to believe the lie that your family is destined for destruction, but we rebuke in the name of Jesus Christ all Satan's lies around your lives. John 8:44 tells us he is a liar and the father of lies, and we declare that God is rich in mercy as you said, Ephesians 2:4 But God, being rich in mercy, for his great love with which he loved us, is able to restore what has been lost. Joel 2:25 I will restore to you the years that the swarming locust has eaten.
We also affirm your heart to forgive them each day because they do not know what they are doing, even as our Lord prayed Luke 23:34 Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing. That is the heart of Christ in you. We encourage you to continue in that forgiveness, Colossians 3:13 bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, if any man has a complaint against any, even as Christ forgave you, so you also do. And Ephesians 4:31-32 Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander, be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you. This does not mean that boundaries and truth are not needed, but forgiveness releases your heart from the poison of anger and betrayal.
For the shouting, insults and ungrateful attitudes, the Word gives us a path to peace. Proverbs 15:1 A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. And James 1:19 let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger. Romans 12:18 If it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men. We pray for honesty in your family as you asked, and for hearts to be softened. Psalm 133:1 See how good and how pleasant it is for brothers to live together in unity. And Ephesians 4:3 being eager to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. We also pray against the toxic tongue and negative environment, for Proverbs 18:21 Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and Ephesians 4:29 Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but such as is good for building up as the need may be, that it may give grace to those who hear.
We lift up your mother with special compassion. The Lord is near to those suffering with suicidal thoughts and sadness. Psalm 34:18 Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit. And Psalm 147:3 He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds. We pray God will protect her mind and soul, replace despair with hope, and surround her with help. 1 Peter 5:7 casting all your worries on him, because he cares for you. Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says Yahweh, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future. If these thoughts become heavy, we encourage you and your mother to reach out quickly to a trusted pastor, counselor, and medical help, and to stay not alone but in community, for God often brings healing through His people. We pray for your brother and his family as well, that God will give them provision and protection and draw them to repentance where there has been bad behavior and ungratefulness, as you have prayed. 2 Peter 3:9 The Lord is not slow concerning his promise, as some count slowness, but is patient with us, not wishing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance.
Concerning your spouse who does not like them, we understand this is very painful. We believe marriage is a lifelong covenant between a man and a woman and God calls spouses to be one flesh. We encourage you not to force your spouse but to honor your marriage, to pray for your spouse with love and patience, and to seek peace in your home. 1 Peter 3:7 and Ephesians 4:2 with all lowliness and humility, with patience, bearing with one another in love, apply to both family and marriage. Continue to be faithful in prayer that God will soften hearts on both sides and that your spouse may in time show mercy and kindness, even if from a distance.
For your finances and the expensive distance that keeps you from reunion, we pray God will provide. Philippians 4:19 My God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus. And Philippians 4:6-7 In nothing be anxious, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus.
We now pray together.
Heavenly Father, in the name of Jesus Christ we come before You for this family. Lord, You see the disunity, the betrayal, the anger, the shouting and insults, the ungrateful hearts and the fighting for control after the father's death. We ask You to heal their hearts with honesty, to convict each one of sin and bring true repentance, to break the power of Satan's lies and division, and to pour out Your rich mercy and forgiveness. Heal the years that have been lost, Lord, and restore what the enemy has stolen. Protect this dear mother who is suffering with suicidal thoughts and a toxic tongue, surround her with Your presence, lift her despair, cleanse her speech, and fill her home with Your peace instead of negativity. Protect the brother and his family, provide for all their needs according to Your riches, and guard them from harm. Lord, provide for finances, make a way for reunion according to Your will, or give peace where distance must remain for a season. Soften the heart of the spouse, bring unity in the marriage, and help our dear one to walk in wisdom, forgiveness, and boundaries that honor You. We trust that even after death we can be together in heaven with the Heavenly Father and with the earthly father who has passed, only through faith in Jesus Christ, and we cling to the promise that if we believe in the Lord Jesus we and our household can be saved. Let Your will be done, let Your healing come to our souls, and let Your protection rest upon us all. In the name of Jesus Christ we pray, Amen.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, the way You want me to know You. So that I will trust You with my life and anyway that You move in my life. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, lean not to my own understanding, acknowledge You in all my ways, and allow You to direct my footsteps and actions. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do. 
