We hear the heaviness of what you are carrying and we join with you in seeking the Lord together in Jesus' name. What you describe is a spirit of meddling and ruin that has come from a divorce and is now trying to spread like contagion into other houses, neighborhoods, marriages, families, businesses and friendships, bringing emergencies, sabotage, hospitalizations, disgrace and confusion, even mocking what is sacred with cemetery pictures and making fun of tragedy. This is not the work of God but the work of the flesh and the enemy, and we agree with you that it must be rebuked.
Scripture is clear that God designed marriage to be a lifelong covenant between a man and a woman and that He hates the breaking of it. Jesus replied, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it has not been so. I tell you that whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery Matthew 19:8-9. And again it is written, For I hate divorce, says Yahweh, the God of Israel Malachi 2:16. Divorce is permitted only for sexual immorality because of hardness of heart, it was never God's good and perfect will from the beginning, and we grieve with you for how its pain is now being used to meddle, divide and torment others.
The meddling and idle going from house to house that you describe is also rebuked in Scripture. Let none of you suffer as a murderer, a thief, an evil doer, or a meddler in other men's matters 1 Peter 4:15. For we hear of some who walk among you in rebellion, who don't work at all, but are busybodies 2 Thessalonians 3:11. Like one who grabs a dog's ears is one who passes by and meddles in a quarrel not his own Proverbs 26:17. Besides, they also learn to be idle, going about from house to house 1 Timothy 5:13. Where jealousy and selfish ambition are, there is confusion and every evil deed James 3:16, but God is not a God of confusion, but of peace 1 Corinthians 14:33. The works of the flesh are obvious, which are adultery, sexual immorality, uncleanness, lustfulness, idolatry, sorcery, hatred, strife, jealousies, outbursts of anger, rivalries, divisions, heresies, envy, murders, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these Galatians 5:19-21, and we are warned that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God. In contrast the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faith, gentleness, and self-control Galatians 5:22-23. What you call bewitched confusion and false imitation, saying he is not him, she is not her, we are not relatives, is that spirit of confusion and deception that tries to bring violence into your life and home, and we rebuke it in Jesus' name, for our wrestling is not against flesh and blood, but against the principalities, against the powers, against the world's rulers of the darkness of this age, and against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places Ephesians 6:12.
You also asked for prayer for all women and men, girlfriends and boyfriends who are going through a bad divorce. We want to speak with love and truth here. In Scripture a boyfriend or girlfriend relationship is not to be casual or sexual, but courtship with the goal of marriage to another Christian believer. Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers 2 Corinthians 6:14. Sex before or outside of marriage is fornication or adultery and is sin before God, and many wounds after divorce come from entering new relationships that are not centered on Christ and purity but on loneliness, revenge or lust. If any are living in sexual immorality while calling themselves boyfriend and girlfriend, we urge repentance and to pursue either godly marriage or godly singleness in self control, honoring the Lord with the body. For those who have been wounded by divorce, we pray for healing and for future godly marriages that honor God, not for repeated divorce friendships or divorce relationships that keep the cycle of ruin.
We are thankful you invoked the name of Jesus Christ, for it is only by that name we have access to God and are saved. Jesus said, I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me John 14:6. There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved Acts 4:12. We were once foolish, disobedient, deceived, serving various lusts and pleasures, living in malice and envy, hateful, and hating one another Titus 3:3, but when the kindness of God our Savior and his love toward mankind appeared, not by works of righteousness which we did ourselves, but according to his mercy, he saved us Titus 3:4-5. That mercy is available to you, to your neighbors, and to all who are caught in this torment today if they will believe on the Lord Jesus Christ.
We pray together now. Father in heaven, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ and we ask for Your mercy and Your peace to reign over this neighborhood and every home being tormented. We rebuke the spirit of divorce, meddling, idleness, sabotage, confusion, envy and violence, and we command it to leave and not return. We ask You to set boundaries and a hedge of protection around this house and every marriage, family and business that is being targeted, and to heal those who have been hospitalized and traumatized and to stop every emergency and ruin that the enemy has tried to bring. Forgive us where hearts have been hard and where we have meddled or gossiped or been idle, and fill us instead with the fruit of Your Spirit. Bring conviction and repentance to those who are causing disgrace and making fun of sorrow, and bring comfort to all men and women, and to those who are dating after divorce, that they would be healed, walk in purity, and if it is Your will, be led to godly spouses and godly marriages that honor You and are not defiled. Let Your peace which passes all understanding guard hearts and minds in Christ Jesus, and let no weapon formed against Your people prosper. We trust You to restore what has been broken and to keep contagion from spreading, and we ask all this in the name of Jesus Christ our Lord, amen.