We hear the heavy burden you are carrying for your neighborhood and for so many lives being torn by divorce, domestic abuse, violence, sabotage and torment, and we join together with you in Jesus' name to seek the Lord's will and to rebuke what is not of Him.
We agree with you that divorce has become contagious and that its ruin spreads into friendships, families, businesses, marriages and all relationships. This is not God's design. From the beginning God established marriage as a lifelong covenant between one man and one woman. Therefore a man will leave his father and his mother, and will join with his wife, and they will be one flesh, Genesis 2:24. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate, Matthew 19:6. The Lord Himself says For I hate divorce, says Yahweh, the God of Israel, and him who covers his garment with violence, says Yahweh of Armies, Malachi 2:16. Jesus taught He said to them, Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it has not been so. I tell you that whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery, Matthew 19:8-9. We must take this seriously. While God does permit divorce for sexual immorality, His heart is for reconciliation, repentance and faithfulness, not for the casual breaking of vows that we see multiplying around us.
We also rebuke the violence, abuse and domestic torment you describe. The Lord examines the righteous, but his soul hates the wicked and him who loves violence, Psalm 11:5. Husbands are commanded Husbands, love your wives, and don't be bitter against them, Colossians 3:19. And all of us are warned Be angry, and don't sin. Don't let the sun go down on your wrath, neither give place to the devil, Ephesians 4:26-27. Violence in the home, sabotage, intimidation and threats that lead toward prison are works of the flesh and give place to the enemy. They must be repented of and forsaken, and where there is danger we encourage seeking godly counsel and also the protection of proper authorities, for God calls us If it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men, Romans 12:18.
You rightly discern that idle and unoccupied demonic influence seeks to meddle in another house and to bring confusion, false imitation and the tormenting lie that he is not him, she is not her, they are not our relatives, and to bewilder your own life. We rebuke that spirit of confusion and bewitchment in the name of Jesus Christ. For God is not a God of confusion, but of peace, 1 Corinthians 14:33. We stand on the promise You are of God, little children, and have overcome them, because greater is he who is in you than he who is in the world, 1 John 4:4. Therefore we submit ourselves to God and resist the devil and he will flee from us, James 4:7. We command those meddling, idle spirits that bring division, envy, drunkenness and malice to leave your home and your neighborhood and to have no place in the lives of those who belong to Christ.
You mentioned praying for all women and men, girlfriends and boyfriends who have been through bad divorce. We share that compassion, for Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit, Psalm 34:18. Yet we must speak the truth in love about relationships. In Scripture there is no category for an ongoing boyfriend or girlfriend relationship apart from courtship with the goal of marriage to another Christian believer. We strongly endorse holy marriage between a man and a woman, not casual partnerships. Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled, but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers, Hebrews 13:4. Flee sexual immorality, 1 Corinthians 6:18. If those who have been divorced are now living with someone outside of marriage or engaging in sex before or outside of marriage, that is fornication or adultery and must be confessed and forsaken. We also urge that anyone seeking a future spouse not be unequally yoked but seek a fellow believer, 2 Corinthians 6:14, so that the next marriage may honor the Lord. Same sex relationships are also forbidden by Scripture and are not marriage in God's eyes.
You quoted Galatians 5:21-22 and Titus 3:3 rightly. The works of the flesh are evident, including envy, drunkenness and orgies, and those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God, Galatians 5:21, but the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faith, gentleness, and self-control, Galatians 5:22-23. And we were also once foolish, disobedient, deceived, serving various lusts and pleasures, living in malice and envy, hateful, and hating one another, Titus 3:3, but when the kindness of God our Savior appeared, not by works of righteousness which we did ourselves, but according to his mercy, he saved us through the washing of regeneration and renewing by the Holy Spirit, Titus 3:4-5. This is our hope for your neighbors and for every broken family.
We pray together now. Father in heaven, we come before You only through the name of Jesus Christ, for Jesus said I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me, John 14:6, and there is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved, Acts 4:12. We thank You that You have heard us because we ask in Jesus' name. We rebuke the spirit of divorce, violence, abuse, sabotage and torment that has tried to make its home in this neighborhood. We ask You to break its contagious power over friends, families, businesses and marriages. Protect the victims of domestic violence, bring conviction to those who do violence, deliver those heading toward prison and bring them to repentance, and place a hedge of peace around this community. Cast out confusion, false imitation and every bewitched lie, and let Your peace which passes understanding guard hearts and minds. Heal the brokenhearted who have endured bad divorce, comfort them, restore what has been ruined and disgraced, and lead those who are lonely to pursue holiness, to flee fornication, and to seek godly marriage according to Your will if You so lead. Fill Your people with the fruit of Your Spirit so that love, joy, peace and self-control replace malice, envy and hatred. We submit ourselves to You, we resist the devil, and we trust that greater is He who is in us. In the mighty name of Jesus Christ we pray, amen.