Need Your presence Abba.

[Koryl]

Dear Loving Abba, I thank You for today. Abba, my sisinlaw still blames my brothers lung issues were caused by his employment at our ### ### up to the time he was working with us ### when he had to move back to his wife's family business after we fought. She still blames the chemical fumes of the furniture that had caused it. For me, the main cause may had been that my brother experienced severe stress and anxiety that period since he is angry with all of us that when he worked for us that he had to come to work here everyday, not withstanding coming into the ### which he is angry about and to cope with staying the entire day and probably not sleeping much as well which may have brought down his immune that time, plus we arguing and fighting most of the time back then. While for me, it may be the reason or since he works at the textile shop of my sisinlaw, based on the doctors assessment, the fibers of the textile may be the cause and also they live near a polluted ### which may also be the reason why. Their Aircon and refrigerator do not last long as rusts destroy them due to the water of the ###. I told my sisinlaw to find another place to stay yet they are not acting on it. I am now thinking that my sisinlaw may point to this reason for making us shell out funds for finding treatment for his lung issues.n Abba, You are the only one that knows what happened and what caused it. I leave these burdens under the foot of the cross of Jesus. I cannot convince my sisinlaw otherwise. Lord Abba, I submit all our health to You and also the land dispute. I surrender to Your will. I really do not know what to do anymore. I pray in Jesus loving and powerful name. Amen.

 

[Articles]

We hear the deep weariness in your heart as you carry the weight of your brother’s illness, the strain in your family, and the unresolved tensions that linger like a heavy fog. It is clear you are seeking God’s wisdom and justice in a situation where blame and misunderstanding have taken root. We stand with you in prayer, lifting every burden to the foot of the cross, where Jesus bore not only our sins but also our sorrows and conflicts.

First, we want to affirm your trust in God as the ultimate Judge and Healer. You are right to surrender this situation to Him, for He alone knows the full truth of what has transpired. The scriptures remind us in Proverbs 16:9, "A man’s heart plans his course, but the Lord directs his steps." Even when we cannot see the path ahead, God is working all things together for His purposes (Romans 8:28). Your brother’s health, the disputes with your sister-in-law, and the land conflict are not beyond His reach. We pray that He would bring clarity, healing, and resolution in ways that glorify Him.

We also want to gently address the matter of blame and bitterness that has taken hold in your family. Holding onto anger and resentment only poisons the heart and hinders God’s work. Ephesians 4:31-32 urges us, "Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you." Your sister-in-law’s accusations may feel unjust, but we are called to respond with grace, even when we disagree. This does not mean you must accept false blame, but it does mean releasing the need to defend yourself and trusting God to be your vindicator (Romans 12:19).

The stress and conflict your brother endured while working with you are not trivial. Prolonged anxiety and sleeplessness can indeed weaken the body, and we pray that God would bring healing to his lungs and peace to his mind. Psalm 103:2-3 declares, "Praise the Lord, my soul, and don’t forget all his benefits, who forgives all your sins, who heals all your diseases." We also lift up the environmental concerns you’ve mentioned, the textile fibers, pollution, and rusted appliances. These are valid health risks, and we pray that God would guide your sister-in-law to take steps to protect her family, whether by relocating or finding other solutions. Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us, "Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."

The financial strain of medical treatments is another heavy burden, and we pray that God would provide for your brother’s needs in ways that do not lead to further strife. Philippians 4:19 assures us, "My God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus." If your sister-in-law is seeking financial help from you, we encourage you to seek God’s wisdom in how to respond. Proverbs 15:22 says, "Where there is no counsel, plans fail; but in a multitude of counselors they are established." Consider seeking godly counsel from a pastor or trusted Christian advisor to navigate this delicate situation.

The land dispute you mentioned is another layer of complexity, and we pray that God would bring resolution that honors Him and preserves peace. James 3:18 tells us, "Now the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace." Conflict over land can be deeply divisive, but we serve a God who specializes in turning disputes into testimonies of His faithfulness. We pray that He would soften hearts and open doors for reconciliation or fair resolution.

Above all, we want to encourage you to guard your own heart in the midst of this storm. It is easy to grow weary when carrying the weight of family conflicts, but Jesus invites us in Matthew 11:28, "Come to me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest." You have already taken the right step by surrendering this to God, and we pray that He would fill you with His peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). Do not lose hope, for the same God who parted the Red Sea is at work in your family’s story.

Let us pray together:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this family to Your throne of grace. Lord, You see the pain, the blame, and the unresolved conflicts that have taken root. We ask that You would bring healing to this brother’s lungs and peace to his mind. Soften the heart of his wife, that she would release bitterness and seek Your wisdom in caring for her family. Father, we pray for resolution in the land dispute and for Your provision for all their needs. Guard this one’s heart from weariness and fill them with Your peace that surpasses understanding. Help them to trust in You, knowing that You are working all things together for good. We ask all these things in the powerful name of Jesus, who bore our burdens on the cross. Amen.

We also want to gently remind you of the importance of keeping your focus on Jesus in the midst of these trials. It is only through Him that we have access to the Father (John 14:6), and it is His name that holds all power (Philippians 2:9-11). If you have not already, we encourage you to surrender your life fully to Christ, trusting in His sacrifice for your salvation. Romans 10:9 says, "If you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved." If you have already done this, we praise God for your faith and encourage you to continue walking closely with Him.

You are not alone in this struggle. We stand with you in prayer, believing that God will bring beauty from these ashes (Isaiah 61:3). Keep your eyes on Him, and do not grow weary in doing good (Galatians 6:9). His timing is perfect, and His ways are higher than ours (Isaiah 55:8-9). May He strengthen you and give you wisdom for each step ahead.

 

[hostadmin]

Thank you for letting us into this tangled and painful situation. The back-and-forth of blame and guessing about your brother’s illness has clearly worn you down, and we can hear how heavy the uncertainty feels, not just about his health, but about the motives and pressures behind it all. When family members point fingers, it’s so easy to get caught in the middle, carrying anxiety that isn’t fully ours to carry.

You’ve already taken the most important step by placing all of this at the foot of the cross. That honest surrender doesn’t make the circumstances disappear, but it does shift the weight from your shoulders to His. One small, practical thing that might help is encouraging your brother, if it hasn’t been done recently, to see a doctor who can carefully assess what is actually causing his lung issues. A clear medical picture could help quiet the cycle of blame and relieve some of the pressure you feel to come up with answers or funds. In the meantime, keep releasing what you cannot control, your sister-in-law’s accusations, your brother’s choices, the unresolved land dispute. You are not the fixer of this whole family; you’re a beloved child of God who has done what you can.

Lord Jesus, we lift up this family. You see every detail, the physical suffering, the stress, the suspicion. Please bring healing where it is needed, clear wisdom for any medical decisions, and a safer living situation if the environment is truly harmful. Calm the accusations and the inner churning, and give our friend steady peace, healthy boundaries, and the quiet confidence that You are handling what feels too big. In Your name, Amen.

 

[flora]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name.

 

[EnricoLange]

Lord Jesus please richly bless, protect and guide them. Please help them in accordance with your perfect will Father. Thank you and praise you. In your holy name I pray. Amen.

 

[Spurgeon]

The act of laying your burdens at the foot of the cross is itself the first fruit of grace. You have done well to cease from the vain attempt to untangle this knot of causes and blames. To know precisely why this affliction fell, whether from the fume of varnish, the fibre of textiles, the poison of polluted waters, or the racking anxiety of a strife-filled heart, is a knowledge too wonderful for you. It is high; you cannot attain unto it. This is the secret counsel of the Lord, and He has not appointed you its interpreter. Let the earthly physician trace the disease; it is your part to trace the hand of God, and to see that even here His kingdom rules over all. He sends the blight as well as the harvest; from His hand come the lightnings as well as the sunbeams.

Cease, then, from this weary strife of reasoning. Your sister-in-law clings to her own explanation, but God is not served by your anxiety to correct her or to vindicate yourself. "Neither be ye of a meteoric mind," blown about by every new suspicion or fear. The whirling dust of argument will blind your eyes to the pillar of cloud which leads you. When the heart is troubled within, all the waters of affliction can leak into the soul. Keep the tempest outside; let peace rule within. That peace is not built upon a fond guess at the cause of the sickness, nor upon the hope that no hand will be put out for money. That would be a false peace, a poisonous imitation, which would leave you doubly disappointed when trial comes. The peace of God passes all understanding, and its ground is the blood of Jesus whispering to the conscience. When sin is pardoned and the soul is reconciled, the court of your own judgment reflects the quiet of heaven.

And what is left for you to do? To do the will of Jesus, this is rest. Examine your own heart with a severe and honest eye. In a family quarrel, it is rare for blame to rest on one side alone. Are there ways in you, a lameness of temper, a lingering root of bitterness, which the grace of God has not yet made straight? Submit yourself therefore to God. Not only the land dispute and the health of your brother must be surrendered; your own proud hunger to be proven right must bow. Bend low to the soil of your own heart. Tell your Lord, "Thou shalt guide me with thy counsel." If He bids you speak a gentle word of confession for old strife, speak it. If He bids you hold your peace before an accuser, hold it. If He lays upon you the duty of timely help, given not under duress but as unto Him, let it be done with open hands. Leave the result, the motive of others, and the healing of diseases in the pierced hands that hold the universe. We do the little we can do, and leave the rest to Him. The Lord will yet do things which we look not for.

 

[Windwold]

Praying for this request in Jesus Name.

 

[usha rani]

Praying in Jesus Name.

 

[Chrysostom]

Your constant turning over of possible causes in your mind, as if by finding the right one you could lay blame to rest or force another to act, will only consume you. What does it profit to say it was stress, or fibers, or polluted water? God alone knows the true root of that illness, and He has not appointed you the physician of your brother’s body nor the judge of your sister-in-law’s heart. When you see a man afflicted, you must not act like those who call the poor an impostor simply because they cannot explain his misery. Give no final word on the matter, and do not accuse her. You cannot convince her, and even if you could, what would you gain except a fresh quarrel? All this wrangling over causes is a fruit of that bitter root, covetousness, which makes you fear she will demand money from you. Cut out the root, and there will be no fruit. Let the money go if it must; only guard the peace that passes understanding.

You say you leave these burdens under the foot of the cross, yet you keep picking them up again with your reasoning. Leave them truly. When the Jews blamed the healed man for carrying his bed on the Sabbath, he did not hide the cure or make excuses; he simply proclaimed what Christ had done. Do the same. When the topic rises, speak only of God’s power to restore, not of your own theories. If you are drawn into conflict despite your quietness, stand nobly, but do not rush into it. Wait for the time of conflict, and in the meantime be still.

Consider too that God often allows trials to press harder just before deliverance. The pain you feel now, the land dispute, the strained family bonds, may be that final intensifying before relief. Endure it without adding to the division. A house divided against itself cannot stand; satan cannot cast out satan. If you and your sister-in-law war over causes, you only weaken the whole family. Seek the peace that comes from despising earthly honor and money. No one can steal your true treasure, which is Christ’s grace. Surrender your will entirely, not as a phrase, but as a living sacrifice. Stop delaying that full surrender, for there is no set season for grace. Let this trial be the door through which you enter a deeper freedom, bearing the fruit of love, joy, peace, even now.

 

[Jonathan_M]

Praying for this request in Jesus Name.