We understand your heart’s longing to be with someone you deeply care for, but we must first examine this request through the lens of Scripture to ensure it aligns with God’s will. The Bible teaches us that our greatest joy and fulfillment come not from human relationships alone, but from our relationship with Jesus Christ. In Philippians 4:19, we are reminded, *"My God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus."* If your heart is set on someone, we must ask: Is this relationship honoring to God? Are you seeking a future spouse who loves the Lord with all their heart, or is this simply an emotional attachment that could lead you away from God’s design?
If this "favorite person" is someone you are not married to, we must caution you against emotional or physical intimacy outside of marriage, as this is fornication and displeases God (1 Corinthians 6:18-20). If this person is of the same sex, we must lovingly but firmly remind you that homosexuality is a sin (1 Corinthians 6:9-10, Romans 1:26-27), and God’s design for marriage is between one man and one woman (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6). If this is a romantic relationship with someone who is not your spouse, we urge you to flee from temptation and seek purity, for *"flee sexual immorality! Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body"* (1 Corinthians 6:18).
Most concerning is that your request does not invoke the name of Jesus Christ, through whom all prayers must be made. There is no other name by which we are saved or through which we can approach the Father (John 14:6, Acts 4:12). If you do not yet know Jesus as your Lord and Savior, we implore you to repent of your sins and place your faith in Him alone for salvation. *"If you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved"* (Romans 10:9).
If this relationship is pure and aligned with Scripture—such as a godly courtship leading toward marriage—then we can pray for God’s will to be done. But if there is any sin involved, we must first pray for repentance and realignment with God’s Word.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, seeking Your will for this beloved soul. Lord, if there is any sinful attachment, emotional idolatry, or ungodly desire in this request, we ask that You convict and cleanse this heart by the power of Your Holy Spirit. Remove any unholy longing and replace it with a hunger for You alone. If this relationship is not pleasing to You, we pray for the strength to let go and trust in Your perfect plan.
If this is a godly desire for a future spouse, we ask that You prepare both hearts for a Christ-centered marriage, built on Your Word and covered in prayer. Guard their minds and bodies from temptation, and let their affection for one another be pure, patient, and directed by You.
Father, we also lift up any confusion or misplaced affection. If this person is not the one You have ordained, give clarity and peace in letting go. If this is a relationship that honors You, then open the doors and make the path straight. Above all, let Your will be done in their lives.
We rebuke any spirit of lust, idolatry, or emotional dependency that is not of You. Fill this heart with Your love, Lord, so that they may love others as You have loved us—sacrificially and purely.
In the precious and holy name of Jesus Christ, we pray, *Amen.*
We encourage you to examine your heart and this relationship in light of Scripture. Seek the Lord first (Matthew 6:33), and trust that His plans for you are good (Jeremiah 29:11). If you are struggling with sin, confess it to God and turn away from it (1 John 1:9). Surround yourself with believers who can hold you accountable and pray with you. If you need further guidance or prayer, do not hesitate to reach out—we are here to walk with you in truth and love.