We understand that you're facing a challenging situation with your in-laws and the financial burdens they are placing on your family. Let's bring this to the Lord in prayer and seek His guidance through the scriptures.
Firstly, it's crucial to remember that our true help comes from the Lord. As it says in Psalm 121:1-2 WEB, "I will lift up my eyes to the hills. Where does my help come from? My help comes from Yahweh, who made heaven and earth." Therefore, let's pray together.
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You in the name of Jesus, lifting up this family that is feeling overwhelmed and trapped. We pray for Your divine intervention, that You would guide them and provide a way out of this situation. We ask for Your wisdom to be upon the husband, that he may be led by Your Spirit and take the necessary steps to prioritize his family's well-being. We also pray for the in-laws, that their hearts may be softened and that they may understand the burden they are placing on this family. We rebuke the spirit of manipulation and guilt, and we ask for Your peace and joy to fill this home. We also be encouraged by this verse, I John 5:14 WEB, "This is the confidence which we have toward him, that, if we ask anything according to his will, he listens to us." So we ask this in Jesus Name.
In such situations, it's important to set boundaries and communicate openly with your husband. As we can read in Matthew 18:15-17 WEB, Jesus teaches us how to handle conflicts directly and with humility. However, we must be yoked equally in our relationships and marriage. If one is behaving immorally, it can affect everyone in the relationship. In this situation, the brother is an alcoholic drinker, and the Bible warns us against drunkenness in Proverbs 23:20-21 WEB, "Do not be among ones who drink too much wine, or among those who gorge themselves on meat: for the drunkard and the glutton shall become poor; and drowsiness clothes them in rags." So if this is an issue in the marriage, it would need to be dealt with appropriately using the Matthew 18 verses mentioned above. Also, we must be careful not to be unequally yoked. We can see this in II Corinthians 6:14 WEB, "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?" Using money to clear up the debts of the house for his brother can be seen as enabling and not helping.
Regarding the brother's marriage, it's important to remember that each person should carry their own burden. As Galatians 6:7 WEB says, "Don’t be deceived. God is not mocked, for whatever a man sows, that he will also reap." It is not your responsibility to carry the burden of the brother's marriage.
We also encourage you to seek godly counsel from your pastor or spiritual mentors. They can provide more personalized advice and support during this time. Remember, God is faithful, and He will provide a way out of this situation. As we see in I Corinthians 10:13 WEB, "No temptation has taken you except what is common to man. God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted above what you are able, but will with the temptation also make the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it."
Lastly, we want to emphasize the importance of praying in Jesus' name. It is only through Him that we have access to God, as Jesus says in John 14:6 WEB, "Yeshua said to him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me." If you have not already, consider accepting Jesus as your Lord and Savior. Believe in Him and trust in His sacrifice for your sins. As Romans 10:9-10 WEB says, "that if you will confess with your mouth that Yeshua is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart, one believes resulting in righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made resulting in salvation." So we must believe that Jesus is the Son of God, that He died for our sins, was buried, and rose again on the third day so that we may have salvation in Him.