We are deeply grieved to hear of the pain and brokenness you are experiencing in your marriage and family, and we want you to know that you are not alone—God sees your suffering, and He cares for you. Marriage is a sacred covenant before the Lord, and He hates divorce (Malachi 2:16, WEB: *"For I hate divorce," says Yahweh, the God of Israel*). Yet we also know that God is a God of restoration, redemption, and miracles, and nothing is too difficult for Him (Jeremiah 32:27). Your husband’s words and actions are breaking your heart, but we urge you to hold fast to the truth that God can soften even the hardest hearts and bring healing where there is brokenness.
First, we must address the suicidal thoughts you mentioned. Sister, your life is precious to God, and He has a purpose for you. The enemy seeks to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10), but Jesus came to give you life abundantly. Suicide is not the answer—it is a permanent solution to a temporary struggle, and it would leave your daughter without her mother, causing unimaginable pain. You are her protector, her example, and her strength. The Lord is your refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble (Psalm 46:1). Cry out to Him in your distress, for He hears you. We plead with you to reject these thoughts in the name of Jesus and to seek help—whether through a trusted pastor, a Christian counselor, or a support group. You do not have to carry this burden alone.
We also want to encourage you to examine your marriage through the lens of Scripture. Marriage is not based on feelings but on covenant—an unbreakable promise before God. Love is not merely an emotion; it is a choice, an action, and a commandment (1 Corinthians 13:4-7). Your husband’s struggle to show love does not release him from his biblical responsibility to love you as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25). Likewise, you are called to respect and submit to your husband as unto the Lord (Ephesians 5:22-24), but this does not mean enduring abuse or abandonment. If his heart is hardened, we must pray fervently for God to break through, while also seeking wisdom on how to respond in a way that honors the Lord.
We urge you to ask yourself: Have you both sought God together in this crisis? Have you prayed as a couple, fasted, and sought biblical counseling? If not, we strongly encourage you to take these steps. If your husband is unwilling, then you must stand in the gap and intercede for your marriage. The Bible tells us that the effective, fervent prayer of a righteous person accomplishes much (James 5:16). Do not give up hope. Remember the story of Hosea and Gomer—God commanded Hosea to love his unfaithful wife as a picture of His love for Israel (Hosea 3). Your marriage can still reflect God’s redemptive love if you both surrender to Him.
As for your parents, while it is noble to want to spare them pain, secrecy can often deepen the wound. There is wisdom in seeking godly counsel from those who can support you spiritually and emotionally. You do not have to share every detail, but having a trusted believer or mentor walk with you through this valley can provide strength and accountability.
Lastly, we notice that your request did not invoke the name of Jesus. Sister, there is no other name under heaven by which we can be saved or through which we can approach the Father (Acts 4:12, John 14:6). It is only through Jesus that we have access to the throne of grace, where we can find mercy and help in our time of need (Hebrews 4:16). If you have not already, we urge you to place your full trust in Christ alone for your salvation and for the strength to endure this trial. If you have never surrendered your life to Him, now is the time. Confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, and you will be saved (Romans 10:9). He is your only hope in this storm.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up our sister who is brokenhearted and overwhelmed. Lord, You see her pain, her loneliness, and her despair. You know the depths of her sorrow as she faces the possibility of her marriage ending. Father, we ask that You would intervene mightily in this situation. Soften her husband’s heart, Lord. Remove the hardness, the bitterness, or whatever is keeping him from loving her as You have commanded. Convict him by Your Holy Spirit to repent of any sin, to seek Your face, and to fulfill his role as a husband and father according to Your Word.
Lord, we rebuke the spirit of division, of hopelessness, and of death that is trying to take hold in this family. We bind the enemy’s lies that tell our sister she is worthless or that her life is not worth living. Satan, we command you to flee in the name of Jesus! You have no place here. Father, fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding. Remind her that her worth is found in You alone, and that You have a plan and a purpose for her life.
Strengthen her, Lord, to be the wife and mother You have called her to be. Give her wisdom to know how to respond to her husband in love and truth. Surround her with godly counsel and support. Provide for her every need—emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Protect her daughter, Lord, and shield her from the pain of this broken situation. Let this home be a place where Your love and redemption are displayed.
Father, if there is any sin in our sister’s life—bitterness, resentment, unforgiveness, or anything else—reveal it to her and give her the grace to repent. Cleanse her heart, Lord, and fill her with Your Holy Spirit. Restore what the locusts have eaten (Joel 2:25). Bring healing to this marriage, Lord. If it is Your will, reunite this family in a way that brings glory to Your name. But even if the path ahead is difficult, give her the courage to walk in obedience to You, trusting that You will never leave her nor forsake her.
We pray for her parents as well, Lord. Give them strength and wisdom to support their daughter in a way that honors You. Unify this family in prayer and faith.
Finally, Lord, we ask that You would draw our sister closer to Yourself through this trial. Let her find her comfort, her identity, and her hope in You alone. Remind her that You are the God who sees her (Genesis 16:13) and that You are working all things together for her good (Romans 8:28).
We thank You, Father, for hearing our prayers. We trust in Your goodness, Your power, and Your love. May Your will be done in this situation, and may Your name be glorified. In the precious and mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
Stand firm, sister. Do not lose hope. Keep praying, keep seeking the Lord, and keep trusting that He is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that you ask or think (Ephesians 3:20). Cling to Jesus, for He is your anchor in this storm. We are standing with you in prayer and believe that God is at work, even when we cannot see it. Reach out to your local church for support—you were never meant to walk this path alone. God bless you.
I know Jesus is my savior, but I had been away from Him many times. This message and prayer gave peace to my heart. I read it loudly and cried many times and I believe these hard times are for good and that makes me close to God. Thank you again.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
