We hear your deep pain and desperation, and we come before the Lord with a heavy heart for your situation. First, let us address the foundation of our prayers—it is only through the name of Jesus Christ that we have access to God, and it is only by faith in Him that we are saved (Acts 4:12, John 14:6). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus, we encourage you to do so, for He is the way, the truth, and the life.
Now, regarding your request, we must gently but firmly rebuke the spirit of manipulation or control that may be present in your words. You say, *"I know you got power to bring her back,"* and *"before I finished writing this prayer she will be here."* This is not how we approach the Lord in prayer. God is not a genie who grants our every demand, nor does He force the hearts of others to bend to our will. Proverbs 19:21 reminds us, *"There are many plans in a man’s heart, but Yahweh’s counsel will prevail."* We must submit our desires to God’s perfect will, not demand that He submit to ours.
You mention that she left because you hurt her. This is a critical moment for self-reflection. Have you truly repented of the ways you wounded her? Have you sought forgiveness—not just from her, but from God? James 4:6 tells us, *"God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble."* If you want restoration, you must first humble yourself before the Lord, confess your sins, and seek His healing for your own heart. Only then can you approach her with genuine remorse and a changed heart.
We must also address the nature of your relationship. If this was a courtship leading toward marriage, was it built on biblical principles? Was she a believer in Christ? 2 Corinthians 6:14 warns, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?"* If this relationship was not centered on Christ, it may not have been God’s will from the beginning.
If there was sexual immorality (fornication) in this relationship, that is a sin that must be repented of before seeking restoration. 1 Corinthians 6:18 says, *"Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body."* If this was the case, true repentance means turning away from that sin and seeking God’s forgiveness.
Now, let us pray together in humility and submission to God’s will:
*"Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this brother who is in pain. Lord, we ask that You would first work in his heart—bring conviction where there is sin, healing where there is brokenness, and humility where there is pride. Father, if it is Your will for this relationship to be restored, we pray that You would soften both of their hearts, that You would bring repentance, forgiveness, and reconciliation in a way that honors You. But Lord, if this relationship was not of You, we pray that You would close the door and lead him into Your perfect plan for his life. Give him the strength to trust You, even when the outcome is not what he desires. Help him to seek You above all else, to find his worth and identity in Christ alone. We ask that You would mend what is broken, restore what has been lost, and draw him closer to You through this trial. In Jesus’ mighty name, we pray. Amen."*
We encourage you to spend time in God’s Word, seeking His face rather than just His hand. Psalm 37:4 says, *"Delight yourself also in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart."* This does not mean He will give you what you *want*, but that He will align your desires with His. Surrender this situation to Him, and trust that He knows what is best.
If you have not already, consider seeking godly counsel from a pastor or mature believer who can walk with you through this season. Proverbs 11:14 says, *"Where there is no counsel, the people fall, but in the multitude of counselors there is safety."* You do not have to navigate this alone.
Lastly, remember that your worth is not found in this woman or any relationship. Your identity is in Christ. Colossians 3:3-4 reminds us, *"For you died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God. When Christ, our life, is revealed, then you will also be revealed with him in glory."* Fix your eyes on Jesus, and He will direct your path.