Narcissistique brother and mother

[Natasha 2]

Lord show me how to deal with my ### and ### who are rrally disrespecting me so much that my soul cries all the time. I am not respected or heard. Lord could you repair this? I am your daughter and this narcissistique abuse lasts since i was a child. It looks like i am a black sheep everywhere. Only because God have put in me moral compas, and refined feeling what is right and what is wrong, and in my 30s i accepted Jesus as my Lord and saviour and the situation got even worse.
Lord give me wisdom, revelation, insight, power, peace...to deal with that evil Jezebel spirit and whatever other spirits, powers, forces or principalities these are. Amen. Let all this evil stops with me and NOW!! in Jesus name!!

 

[Articles]

We hear the cry of your heart and we join with you before the throne of grace in Jesus' name, for you are indeed our sister and His daughter, deeply seen and deeply loved even when you feel unheard and disrespected in your own family.

The pain you describe of being devalued since childhood, of feeling like the black sheep for having a moral compass and a sensitivity to what is right and wrong, is not unseen by the Lord. He put that conscience in you, and when you gave your life to Jesus in your 30s, that light in you became even brighter. Jesus told us this would bring division, that a man's foes will be those of his own household in Matthew 10:36 and that if the world hates you, you know that it has hated me before it hated you in John 15:18. Your experience of the situation getting worse after you accepted Christ does not mean you have done anything wrong, it is often the evidence that you now belong to Him and walk in His light, and darkness does not comprehend it in John 1:5.

We also understand your discernment about spiritual forces at work. We do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the principalities, against the powers, against the world's rulers of the darkness of this age, and against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places in Ephesians 6:12. It is right to name the evil as evil and to take authority in Jesus' name, for He has given us authority to tread on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy in Luke 10:19. At the same time we must remember that our mother and brother themselves are not the enemy, they are captives who need deliverance, and we are called to love our enemies, bless those who curse us, and pray for those who mistreat us in Matthew 5:44, while also guarding our hearts.

The Lord calls us to honor our father and mother in Exodus 20:12, but He also commands fathers and mothers not to provoke their children to anger in Ephesians 6:4. Honor does not mean allowing ongoing abuse or sin to continue without boundaries. Even Jesus set boundaries and at times withdrew. We are to, if it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men in Romans 12:18, but that peace cannot come at the cost of your soul being crushed. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted, and saves those who are crushed in spirit in Psalm 34:18, and when your heart is overwhelmed you can cry to Him and He will lead you to the rock that is higher than you in Psalm 61:2. When your father and your mother forsake you, then Yahweh will take you up in Psalm 27:10, and you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation in 1 Peter 2:9, not a black sheep to Him.

We pray together for you now.

Father, in the name of Jesus Christ we lift up Your daughter to You. You see every tear her soul has cried and You collect them in Your bottle. We ask You to pour out upon her the spirit of wisdom and revelation in the knowledge of You, having the eyes of her heart enlightened in Ephesians 1:17-18, so she may know how to navigate this painful family dynamic with holy wisdom. Grant her wisdom liberally as You promise to give to all who ask without reproach in James 1:5. Give her insight to discern what is of You and what is of the enemy, and power through Your Holy Spirit to stand firm, for the weapons of our warfare are not of the flesh, but mighty before God to the throwing down of strongholds in 2 Corinthians 10:4. We ask for Your peace which surpasses all understanding to guard her heart and her thoughts in Christ Jesus in Philippians 4:7.

Lord, we ask You to break every chain of narcissistic abuse, manipulation, control and that Jezebel spirit of domination and intimidation that has operated in her family line since childhood. Let it stop with her now, for if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation, the old things have passed away in 2 Corinthians 5:17, and Christ redeemed us from the curse of the law, having become a curse for us in Galatians 3:13. We rebuke every spirit, power and principality that has sought to silence, shame and disrespect her, and we command it to leave in Jesus' name. Heal her soul, restore what was stolen, and teach her how to love and honor her mother and brother from a place of strength and healthy boundaries, forgiving as You have forgiven us in Ephesians 4:32, yet not returning to what harms her, for above all else we must guard our heart, for out of it is the wellspring of life in Proverbs 4:23. Teach her when to speak, when to be silent, when to stay and when to step away for a season, and surround her with godly counsel, a faithful church family and believers who will hear and respect her as Your daughter.

We thank You that vengeance belongs to You and You will repay in Romans 12:19, so she does not need to fight for herself. Be her defender, her refuge and her voice when she feels unheard. Let this generational pattern end with her and let Your blessing flow to the generations after her. We trust You to repair what only You can repair and to make her whole. In the mighty and matchless name of Jesus Christ we pray, Amen.

We encourage you to remain rooted daily in the Word, to pray continually and to not walk this alone. Seek a mature, Bible believing pastor or counselor who can help you establish biblical boundaries with your mother and brother while still showing Christlike love. Keep a record of what God is showing you, fast and pray as the Lord leads, and remember that God did not make you too sensitive, He made you discerning for such a time as this. He will use your refined feeling for right and wrong to bring light, first in your own healing and then as a testimony that evil does indeed stop where Christ reigns.

 

[Nochaeld]

Lord show me how to deal with my ### and ### who are rrally disrespecting me so much that my soul cries all the time. I am not respected or heard. Lord could you repair this? I am your daughter and this narcissistique abuse lasts since i was a child. It looks like i am a black sheep everywhere. Only because God have put in me moral compas, and refined feeling what is right and what is wrong, and in my 30s i accepted Jesus as my Lord and saviour and the situation got even worse.
Lord give me wisdom, revelation, insight, power, peace...to deal with that evil Jezebel spirit and whatever other spirits, powers, forces or principalities these are. Amen. Let all this evil stops with me and NOW!! in Jesus name!!

Armor of God Eph 6:10-20, Ourselves, Our Families, Leaders Prov 21:1, Pastors, Evangelists, ️ Churches, Ministry Partners All Christianity (Every Believer in Christ); Government, 1 Tim 2:1-4, EVEN "ENEMIES," Mt 5:44-45, Lk 6:27-29, Rom 12:14, 1 Peter 3:9...

We pray it over ourselves first, in submission to Your Word, even as it was the proper example and pattern of Christ, overcoming the devil first on for His own sake in the wilderness, Mt 4:1-11, Mk 1:12-13, Lk 4:1-13, then overcoming the world, flesh and devil for the sake of the world, John 16:33.

Knowing it's proper in airplane trips to be admonished to first place the oxygen mask over our own faces prior to assisting others, we pray the following Armor, Your Armor, The Armor of God, on ourselves, Eph 6:10-17, then for others, Eph 6:18-20, applied by faith, as we receive everything else in the same manner, from salvation, Eph 2:8-9, to answered prayer, Mark 11:24, Heb 11:6, James 1:6...

“Finally, brothers and sisters, be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might. Put on the Whole Armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places. Therefore take up the Whole Armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. Stand therefore, having girded your waist with Truth, having put on the breastplate of righteousness, and having shod your feet with the preparation of the Gospel of Peace; above all, taking the shield of faith with which you will be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked one. And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of The Spirit, which is the Word of God; praying always with all prayer and supplication in The Spirit, being watchful to this end with all perseverance and supplication for all the saints— and for the church, that utterance may be given to Your people, that they may open their mouths boldly to make known the mystery of the Gospel, for which some are ambassadors in chains; that all may speak boldly, as is fitting to speak," Eph‬ ‭6:11-20‬, thank You in Jesus' Name, Heb 11:6.

 

[hostadmin]

We have been sitting with your words and how long you have felt unheard and disrespected by your mother and brother. To carry that since childhood, and to feel your soul crying now, is a heavy burden. It makes sense you would feel like the black sheep when God has given you a clear moral compass and when you gave your life to Jesus in your thirties and chose a different way. That kind of difference often brings more tension in a family, not less, and it does not mean you are the problem.

One thing we have seen is that ongoing devaluing and disrespect wears down a person's sense of worth and hope in a deep way, and the effects can linger long after the words are spoken. Healing from that is usually slow and needs steady support, not just willpower in the moment.

When you asked for wisdom and peace to deal with what is happening, one practical next step we encourage is to not carry this alone. Consider identifying one safe, mature believer, a pastor or a Christian counselor, who can know the details and help you think through boundaries in real time, what you will stay in the room for, when you will step away, how long visits will be, and how you will respond when respect is missing. Having that outside perspective can help you protect your peace while you keep honoring the Lord. If you ever feel unsafe, please reach out right away for help locally.

Jesus, we lift Your daughter to You. You see how long she has felt dismissed and how much she longs for respect and peace at home. Give her clear wisdom for each interaction, guard her heart, and surround her with safe people who hear her and remind her she is Yours. Lead her step by step and bring Your peace to her soul. In Jesus' name, amen.

 

[Spurgeon]

It is a good thing that you have poured out your heart so plainly before the Lord, for He hears the cry of the wounded spirit and He heals the broken in heart. Your bleeding spirit cries for consolation, and there is a word in season for you, that He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.

You feel as one despised and not heard, as a black sheep even in your own family, and this grief has followed you from childhood. Think not that the Lord has forgotten you. When you were given a tender conscience to know what is right and what is wrong, and when in your thirties you were brought to accept Jesus as Lord and Saviour, the Spirit of God came to dwell in you. That indwelling is the seal that you are His. As it is written, you are not in the flesh, but in the Spirit, if indeed the Spirit of God dwells in you. Will the Spirit of God dwell in any temple but that which God has consecrated. If you have the Spirit dwelling in you, you must be the Lord's, and though mother and brother may not hear you, your Father in heaven both hears and knows you fully.

There is abundance of healing power in Jesus Christ and His salvation. Not only is His fruit sweet and nourishing, but the very leaves of the tree are for the healing of the nations, and the least thing about Christ is healing. These healing leaves change the life blood and make the nature other than it was before. When the Sun of Righteousness rises upon His people with healing in His wings, pardon and healing are found together. Your sins which are many are forgiven you, and that forgiveness is necessary before the spirit of adoption can enter to make us cry, Abba, Father. The same hand that pardons also heals, for when Jesus said, Son, be of good cheer, your sins are forgiven you, pardon and healing were one.

For wisdom to deal with those who disrespect you, look to Christ who linked His healing with His teaching, for faith comes by hearing and hearing by the Word of God. Seek the Lord in retirement for fervent prayer, as even He withdrew Himself into the wilderness and prayed, and ask the Holy Spirit who makes intercession in us with groanings that cannot be uttered to put into you also praises and peace inexpressible. You need not repay evil for evil, nor be overcome by it. Honour what is due, yet set a wise and quiet boundary where sin would wound you further, and seek godly counsel in the fellowship of the saints, that you may be helped to be warned under the threats, to be cheered by the promises, and to be comforted by every good Word of the Lord.

We will pray for you that the Lord will give you what you have asked according to His will, wisdom and revelation and insight, and power and peace from the Holy Spirit. May He guard your heart and mind in Christ Jesus, may He restrain every evil power and principality that would rise against you, and may He make you to stand in the strength of the Spirit and not in your own. May the Lord who has begun a good work in you carry it on, building you up through the Spirit as the seal of His love, till your wounds are bound up by bands of grace and your soul finds rest in Him who is your great Physician. Amen.

 

[usha rani]

Praying for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Jonathan_M]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name.