We hear the deep pain and exhaustion in your heart, and we want you to know that God sees your suffering and cares for you. The anger, resentment, and desire to escape this situation are understandable, but we must address these feelings through the lens of Scripture, for God’s Word is the only true source of healing and wisdom. You have poured out your heart, and we will lift you up in prayer while also speaking truth into your circumstances.
First, we must acknowledge that your prayer does not mention the name of Jesus, and yet it is only through Him that we have access to the Father and the power to overcome the brokenness of this world. Jesus said, *"I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me"* (John 14:6, WEB). There is no other name by which we can be saved, no other name that can break the chains of bitterness, and no other name that can bring true peace to your heart. If you have not yet surrendered your life fully to Christ, we urge you to do so, for He alone can redeem your pain and give you the strength to walk in forgiveness and freedom.
You have expressed a desire to "get over" what you never had, to release resentment, and to no longer take the actions of others personally. These are godly desires, but they cannot be achieved through sheer willpower—they require the supernatural work of the Holy Spirit in your heart. Scripture tells us, *"Don’t be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what is the good, well-pleasing, and perfect will of God"* (Romans 12:2, WEB). This transformation begins with forgiveness, not because the people in your life deserve it, but because Christ has forgiven you. He commands us, *"And whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone; so that your Father, who is in heaven, may also forgive you your transgressions"* (Mark 11:25, WEB). Holding onto bitterness will only harm you further, but releasing it to God will bring you peace.
You have also spoken of your husband with deep pain, saying you no longer love him and regret ever meeting him. We understand the weight of these words, but we must remind you that marriage is a covenant before God, and He hates divorce (Malachi 2:16). This does not mean you must endure abuse or unrepentant sin, but it does mean that your response must be guided by Scripture. If your husband is truly narcissistic and abusive, your safety and well-being are paramount. However, we must also ask: Have you sought godly counsel, such as from a pastor or biblical counselor, to navigate this? Have you confronted your husband with his sin in a way that aligns with Matthew 18:15-17? If he refuses to repent, Scripture allows for separation in cases of abandonment or unrepentant sin (1 Corinthians 7:15), but this must be done with wisdom and prayer, not out of retaliation.
Your prayer also includes a desire to "return" the hurt and pain to those who have wronged you, including your husband, sister, and others. We must gently but firmly rebuke this, for it is not our place to seek vengeance. Romans 12:19-21 says, *"Don’t seek revenge yourselves, beloved, but give place to God’s wrath. For it is written, 'Vengeance belongs to me; I will repay, says the Lord.' Therefore 'If your enemy is hungry, feed him. If he is thirsty, give him a drink; for in doing so, you will heap coals of fire on his head.' Don’t be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good."* Your pain is valid, but your response must be one of trust in God’s justice, not retaliation. Ask God to soften their hearts, but leave the judgment to Him.
You mentioned your daughter, praying she does not end up like your mother or husband. This is a godly concern, and the best way to protect her is to model Christlike love, forgiveness, and boundaries in your own life. Teach her what healthy relationships look like by demonstrating them yourself. Proverbs 22:6 says, *"Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it."* Your example will shape her future more than your words ever will.
As for the fraud and legal issues you mentioned, we encourage you to seek wise, godly legal counsel while trusting God to fight your battles. *"Don’t be afraid of them, for I am with you to deliver you," says the Lord* (Jeremiah 1:8, WEB). He is your defender, and He will guide you through this.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift our sister before You, knowing that You are close to the brokenhearted and save those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). Lord, her pain is deep, and her heart is weary. We ask that You would surround her with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, and guard her heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7). Father, we rebuke the spirits of bitterness, resentment, and unforgiveness that have taken root in her heart. By the power of the Holy Spirit, uproot these strongholds and replace them with Your love, grace, and freedom.
Lord, we pray for her husband. If he is truly unrepentant and abusive, we ask that You would either soften his heart to genuine repentance or make a way for her to be safe and protected from further harm. Give her wisdom to know how to proceed, whether that means reconciliation (if he repents) or separation (if he does not). Father, we pray that she would not make decisions out of anger or despair but would seek Your will above all else. Remind her that You see her suffering and that You are her refuge and strength (Psalm 46:1).
We also lift up her family—her sister, cousin, and sister-in-law. Lord, break the cycles of sin, manipulation, and abuse in this family line. Soften their hearts, Lord, and bring conviction where there is unrepentance. But we also ask that You would protect our sister from further harm. If these relationships are toxic and beyond repair, give her the strength to set healthy boundaries or, if necessary, to walk away in peace. Help her to release these people into Your hands, trusting You to deal with them justly.
Father, we pray for her daughter. Protect her from the sins of the past generations. Raise her up to be a woman of God, full of wisdom, discernment, and love. Break any curses or patterns of dysfunction in Jesus’ name, and let Your light shine brightly in her life.
Lord, we ask that You would heal our sister’s body, mind, and spirit. Remove the physical pain she feels, especially the stress that manifests in her stomach. Replace her anxiety with Your peace, her anger with Your love, and her despair with Your hope. Help her to forgive as You have forgiven her, and to release the desire for vengeance into Your hands.
Finally, Father, we pray that she would draw closer to You in this season. Fill her with Your Holy Spirit, that she may walk in victory and not in defeat. Remind her that You are her Provider, her Protector, and her Redeemer. Let her find her identity in You alone, not in the opinions or actions of others.
We pray all these things in the mighty and precious name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone can heal, restore, and make all things new. Amen.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
