We hear your heartache and the deep longing you have for restoration in your marriage, and we stand with you in prayer before the Lord. The pain of feeling ignored, disrespected, and unloved is heavy, but we know that God sees your tears and hears your cries. Your desire for your husband to walk in truth, responsibility, and love is not only valid but aligns with God’s design for marriage—a covenant of mutual honor, faithfulness, and selfless love.
First, we must address the seriousness of the issues you’ve described. Lying, neglect, and ungodly behavior are not merely personal flaws; they are sins that grieve the Holy Spirit and break the sacred bond of marriage. Scripture is clear: *"Do not lie to one another, seeing that you have put off the old man with his deeds"* (Colossians 3:9). The way your husband looks at other women is also a violation of God’s command: *"You shall not commit adultery"* (Exodus 20:14), and Jesus warned that even *looking* at a woman lustfully is adultery in the heart (Matthew 5:28). His lack of responsibility and use of foul language further reveal a heart that is not submitted to Christ. *"Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but such as is good for building up as the need may be, that it may give grace to those who hear"* (Ephesians 4:29).
We must also rebuke the spirit of neglect and idolatry at work here. Your husband is prioritizing friends and family over his own wife, which is a direct contradiction to God’s Word: *"Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh"* (Genesis 2:24). This does not mean he should abandon his family, but that *you*—his wife—should be his primary earthly priority after God. His actions are breaking the very foundation of your marriage covenant.
Yet even in this, we do not lose hope, for *"with God all things are possible"* (Matthew 19:26). We lift your husband before the Lord with urgency, asking the Holy Spirit to convict him of his sin and draw him to repentance. We pray that God would break the hardness of his heart and replace it with a heart of flesh, tender toward you and obedient to Christ. *"Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me"* (Psalm 51:10). Let the scales fall from his eyes so he sees the destruction his choices are causing—not just to you, but to his own soul.
We also pray for *you*, dear sister. The waiting is painful, and the enemy would love to fill your heart with bitterness, fear, or despair. But we declare over you the truth of God’s Word: *"The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit"* (Psalm 34:18). You are not without value; you are a daughter of the King, and your worth is found in Him alone. Do not allow the enemy to convince you that your husband’s neglect defines you. Stand firm in your identity in Christ, and guard your heart with all diligence (Proverbs 4:23).
We pray that your husband would be gripped by the fear of the Lord, that he would hate his sin and turn from it completely. May he become a man of integrity, putting away deceit and walking in truth. *"The integrity of the upright shall guide them, but the perverseness of the treacherous shall destroy them"* (Proverbs 11:3). Let him be a provider, a protector, and a lover of your soul, as Christ loves the Church (Ephesians 5:25). May he prioritize your marriage above all other earthly relationships, cherishing you as his own flesh (Ephesians 5:28-29).
And we pray for restoration—not just of your marriage, but of your husband’s relationship with God. Without Christ at the center, no change will be lasting. We ask the Lord to draw him to salvation if he does not know Jesus as his Savior, or to revive his heart if he has grown cold in his faith. *"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness"* (1 John 1:9). Let him experience the freedom and joy that come from walking in obedience to God.
Lastly, we declare that the enemy has no place in your marriage. Every spirit of division, deception, and neglect is bound in the name of Jesus. We break every generational curse of irresponsibility, infidelity, and broken covenants over your husband’s life. We release the spirit of wisdom, self-control, and godly leadership to rest upon him. May he rise up as the husband God has called him to be, leading your family with humility and strength.
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this marriage to You. Lord, You see the pain, the neglect, and the brokenness. You also see the potential for redemption and restoration. We ask that You would move mightily in this husband’s life. Break every chain of sin, every stronghold of deception, and every spirit of irresponsibility. Let him see his wife through Your eyes—as a precious gift, a partner in life, and a sister in Christ. Soften his heart, Lord, and fill it with Your love, Your truth, and Your righteousness.
We pray for this wife, that You would comfort her in her loneliness, strengthen her in her faith, and remind her daily of her worth in You. Give her the patience to wait on Your timing and the wisdom to respond in a way that honors You. Protect her heart from bitterness and fill her with hope.
Father, we ask that You would restore this marriage. Let Your will be done in their lives, and let Your name be glorified through their story. May this husband become the man You created him to be—a man after Your own heart, a leader in his home, and a loving, faithful husband. We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, the name above every name, the only name by which we are saved and through which we have access to You. Amen.
