We understand your frustration and the urgency of this situation, and we lift this before the Lord with you, knowing that He is the God of order, wisdom, and justice. It is clear that your heart is burdened for your mother’s well-being and the responsibilities that come with caring for her, especially in legal and practical matters. However, we must also address the spiritual aspect of this struggle, for the Word of God reminds us in **Ephesians 6:2-3**, *"Honor your father and mother," which is the first commandment with a promise: "that it may be well with you, and you may live long on the earth."* This is not just a suggestion but a commandment from the Lord, and it applies to both you and your brother.
Your brother’s neglect and avoidance of his responsibilities are not only hurting your mother but are also displeasing to God. **1 Timothy 5:8** declares, *"But if anyone doesn’t provide for his own, and especially his own household, he has denied the faith, and is worse than an unbeliever."* This is a strong rebuke, and it is our prayer that the Holy Spirit will convict your brother’s heart of his duty before the Lord. His actions—or lack thereof—are not just a matter of poor time management or disorganization; they reflect a heart that may be hardened or distracted from what truly matters. **Proverbs 28:24** warns, *"Whoever robs his father or his mother, and says, ‘It’s not wrong,’ is a partner with a destroyer."* While your brother may not be stealing, his neglect is a form of robbery—robbing your mother of the care and attention she deserves and robbing you of the partnership you need in this season.
We also encourage you to examine your own heart in this situation. Frustration and anger are natural, but we must guard against bitterness or resentment, for **Ephesians 4:31-32** tells us, *"Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander, be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tender hearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you."* This does not mean enabling your brother’s irresponsibility, but it does mean approaching him with a spirit of love and patience, even as you hold him accountable.
As for your communication with him, it may be wise to simplify your messages and focus on one urgent matter at a time. Long messages can overwhelm someone who is already avoiding responsibility. However, if he continues to dismiss you, it may be necessary to involve a neutral third party, such as a pastor, trusted family friend, or even a mediator, to help facilitate these conversations. **Matthew 18:15-17** outlines the biblical process for addressing conflict: *"If your brother sins against you, go, show him his fault between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained back your brother. But if he doesn’t listen, take one or two more with you... If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the assembly."* While this passage speaks to sin within the church, the principle of accountability applies here as well.
Most importantly, we must remember that this battle is not just against flesh and blood but against spiritual forces. **Ephesians 6:12** reminds us, *"For our wrestling is not against flesh and blood, but against the principalities, against the powers, against the world’s rulers of the darkness of this age, and against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places."* Your brother’s resistance may be influenced by spiritual blindness or strongholds, and only the Lord can break through that. We must pray for his heart to be softened and for him to recognize the urgency of his role in your mother’s care.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this family and the burdens they carry. Lord, You see the heart of this situation—You see the neglect, the avoidance, and the growing pile of responsibilities that weigh heavily on Your child who has reached out to us. Father, we ask that You would move mightily in the heart of this brother. Convict him, Lord, of his duty to honor his mother and to act with integrity and urgency in these matters. Open his eyes to the consequences of his inaction, not just for his mother or his sibling, but for his own soul. Let him realize that his actions—or lack thereof—are not hidden from You, and that he will give an account for how he has stewarded this responsibility.
Lord, we rebuke the spirit of procrastination, distraction, and hardness of heart that has taken hold of him. Break every stronghold that keeps him from fulfilling his God-given role in this family. Replace his stagnation with a spirit of diligence, wisdom, and compassion. Help him to see the value of his mother’s life and the importance of acting now, before it is too late.
Father, we also ask for wisdom for Your child who has shared this request. Give them clarity in how to communicate effectively with their brother, and grant them patience and grace as they navigate this difficult season. Protect their heart from bitterness, and fill them with Your peace that surpasses all understanding. If it is Your will, Lord, raise up a godly mediator—someone who can speak truth into this situation and help bring resolution.
We pray for the legal and practical matters that are piling up. Lord, You are the God of order, and we ask that You would bring clarity and efficiency to these processes. Provide the resources, the time, and the people needed to ensure that everything is handled with excellence and integrity.
Most of all, Father, we pray that Your will be done in this family. If there is repentance needed, bring it. If there is forgiveness to be extended, soften hearts to receive it. Let this trial be an opportunity for growth, for unity, and for a deeper reliance on You.
We ask all these things in the powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who intercedes for us even now at Your right hand. Amen.
Finally, we encourage you to continue seeking the Lord in this matter. Fast and pray, asking God to intervene where human effort has failed. Trust that He is working, even when you cannot see it. **Isaiah 55:11** assures us, *"So shall my word be that goes out of my mouth; it shall not return to me void, but it shall accomplish that which I please, and it shall prosper in the thing I sent it to do."* Keep praying, keep trusting, and keep honoring your mother as unto the Lord. He will not abandon you in this.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
