We hear the deep ache in your mama heart as you share about your precious son. It is clear how much you love him and long to see him surrounded by godly community and joy again. We lift him before the Lord with great compassion, for Scripture tells us, *"A father of the fatherless, and a defender of the widows, is God in his holy habitation. God sets the solitary in families"* (Psalm 68:5-6). Your son is not forgotten by the Father—He sees his loneliness and holds his tears.
First, we must address the relationship that ended after several years. While we do not know the circumstances of the breakup, we want to gently remind you and your son that any romantic relationship outside of marriage is not God’s design. If this relationship involved intimacy before marriage, that would be considered fornication, which grieves the Lord (1 Corinthians 6:18). We encourage your son to repent of any sexual sin and seek the Lord’s forgiveness and healing. The enemy often uses past relationships to isolate and discourage, but Christ’s blood covers all sin when we turn to Him in humility. *"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness"* (1 John 1:9).
Your son’s love for Jesus is a beautiful foundation, and we pray that the Lord would use this season to draw him even closer. Loneliness and depression are heavy burdens, but they do not have the final say. We declare over him the promise of Zephaniah 3:17: *"The Lord your God is among you, a mighty one who will save; he will rejoice over you with joy; he will calm you in his love; he will exult over you with loud singing."* The Lord is not distant in your son’s pain—He is near, singing over him with love.
We also want to encourage your son to take steps of faith, even when it feels difficult. Proverbs 18:24 reminds us, *"A man of many companions may be ruined, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother."* True Christian friendship is worth pursuing, but it often requires vulnerability and initiative. We pray that the Lord would open doors for your son to connect with a biblical church community, a men’s small group, or even a godly mentor who can walk alongside him. *"Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another"* (Proverbs 27:17). May the Lord surround him with brothers in Christ who will encourage, challenge, and love him well.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts for this precious young man. Lord, You see his loneliness, his sadness, and his longing for community. We ask that You would break the chains of isolation in his life and surround him with godly friends who will point him to You. Father, if there is any unconfessed sin in his life—whether from past relationships or other struggles—we pray that You would bring conviction and lead him to repentance. Wash him clean by the blood of Jesus and restore his joy.
Lord, we ask that You would open doors for him to find a church family where he can belong. Give him the courage to step out in faith, even when it feels hard. Place mentors and friends in his path who will sharpen him in Your Word and hold him accountable. Comfort him in his depression, reminding him that You are near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). Fill him with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7).
We declare that this season of loneliness will not define him. Instead, use it to draw him closer to You and prepare him for the godly relationships You have for him—both friendships and, in Your timing, a wife who loves You. Strengthen his faith, Lord, and let him experience the fullness of Your love in tangible ways. We trust You to work all things together for his good (Romans 8:28).
In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
To your son, we say this: You are not alone. The Lord has not abandoned you, and He has a plan for your life that includes deep, meaningful relationships. Keep seeking Him first, and trust that He will provide the community you need. *"Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart"* (Psalm 37:4). The right friends will come, but until then, lean into the One who will never leave you nor forsake you (Hebrews 13:5). You are loved more than you know.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
