my ### is very verballyabusive she has autism
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We hear the deep pain in your words, and we want you to know that we care deeply. The verbal abuse you are enduring is not God’s design for marriage, and the toll it is taking on your health and spirit grieves us. Scripture is clear that husbands and wives are to love and respect one another as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25, 33). Verbal abuse is a violation of that sacred covenant, and it is never acceptable, regardless of the challenges your wife may face.
We must also address the reality of your wife’s autism with compassion and truth. While autism may explain some of her struggles with communication or emotional regulation, it does not excuse sin. The Bible calls us to speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15), and that includes holding one another accountable when words or actions harm others. You are not responsible for her condition, but you are called to respond in a way that honors God—neither enabling sin nor retaliating in kind. Proverbs 15:1 reminds us, "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger." This does not mean you should endure abuse silently, but it does mean you must guard your own heart and respond in a way that reflects Christ.
Your physical and emotional suffering is not unseen by God. Psalm 34:18 assures us, "Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit." You are not alone, and your pain matters to Him. We must also gently but firmly address the language in your request—using profanity or vulgarity does not align with the holiness to which God calls us (Ephesians 4:29). Even in our deepest pain, we are called to honor Him with our words.
First and foremost, we must ask: Have you surrendered your life to Jesus Christ? If not, this is the foundational step. Jesus said, "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me" (John 14:6). There is no healing, no peace, and no eternal life apart from Him. If you have not placed your faith in Him, we urge you to do so today. Confess your sins, believe in His death and resurrection for your salvation, and invite Him to be Lord of your life. Only then can you experience the fullness of His grace and strength in this trial.
If you are already a believer, we must encourage you to seek godly counsel—perhaps from a pastor, biblical counselor, or trusted Christian mentor—who can help you navigate this marriage with wisdom and discernment. You cannot carry this burden alone, nor should you. Galatians 6:2 instructs us to "bear one another’s burdens," and that includes seeking help when marriage becomes a source of harm rather than healing.
We also want to lovingly challenge you to examine your own heart. Are there ways in which you may be contributing to the cycle of conflict, even unintentionally? Have you sought to understand your wife’s struggles with patience and grace, while also setting boundaries to protect your own well-being? Marriage is a reflection of Christ and the church, and that means both spouses must strive for holiness, humility, and love (1 Peter 3:7).
Now, let us come before the Lord together in prayer:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this dear brother who is enduring verbal abuse in his marriage. Lord, You see his pain, his exhaustion, and his desperation for relief. We ask that You would be his refuge and strength, a very present help in this time of trouble (Psalm 46:1). Comfort him with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, and guard his heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7).
Father, we pray for his wife, that You would soften her heart and help her to see the harm her words are causing. If there are unaddressed struggles or wounds in her life, we ask that You would bring healing and transformation. Give her a spirit of gentleness and self-control, Lord, and help her to seek help if she needs it. We also pray that You would grant this couple wisdom to navigate their challenges in a way that honors You.
Lord, we ask that You would raise up godly counselors, mentors, or pastors to walk alongside this brother and provide biblical guidance. Give him the courage to set boundaries where necessary and the strength to respond in a way that reflects Your love, even in the face of mistreatment. Help him to forgive, as You have forgiven him, but also to seek justice and restoration where it is needed.
Father, we pray for physical healing as well. You are the Great Physician, and we ask that You would restore his health and renew his strength. Remind him that his worth is found in You alone, not in the words or actions of others. Help him to cast all his anxieties on You, because You care for him (1 Peter 5:7).
Above all, Lord, we pray that this trial would draw him closer to You. May he find his identity, his hope, and his purpose in Christ alone. If he has not yet surrendered his life to You, we pray that he would do so today, receiving the gift of salvation and the promise of eternal life.
We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Redeemer. Amen.
Brother, you are not forgotten. The Lord sees your suffering, and He is at work even in this painful season. We encourage you to cling to Him, to seek His face daily, and to surround yourself with believers who can support and pray for you. If you are not already part of a local church, we strongly urge you to find one where you can grow in your faith and receive the care you need.
Remember, God’s grace is sufficient for you, and His power is made perfect in weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9). You do not have to walk this path alone—lean on Him, and let His strength sustain you.
We must also address the reality of your wife’s autism with compassion and truth. While autism may explain some of her struggles with communication or emotional regulation, it does not excuse sin. The Bible calls us to speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15), and that includes holding one another accountable when words or actions harm others. You are not responsible for her condition, but you are called to respond in a way that honors God—neither enabling sin nor retaliating in kind. Proverbs 15:1 reminds us, "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger." This does not mean you should endure abuse silently, but it does mean you must guard your own heart and respond in a way that reflects Christ.
Your physical and emotional suffering is not unseen by God. Psalm 34:18 assures us, "Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit." You are not alone, and your pain matters to Him. We must also gently but firmly address the language in your request—using profanity or vulgarity does not align with the holiness to which God calls us (Ephesians 4:29). Even in our deepest pain, we are called to honor Him with our words.
First and foremost, we must ask: Have you surrendered your life to Jesus Christ? If not, this is the foundational step. Jesus said, "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me" (John 14:6). There is no healing, no peace, and no eternal life apart from Him. If you have not placed your faith in Him, we urge you to do so today. Confess your sins, believe in His death and resurrection for your salvation, and invite Him to be Lord of your life. Only then can you experience the fullness of His grace and strength in this trial.
If you are already a believer, we must encourage you to seek godly counsel—perhaps from a pastor, biblical counselor, or trusted Christian mentor—who can help you navigate this marriage with wisdom and discernment. You cannot carry this burden alone, nor should you. Galatians 6:2 instructs us to "bear one another’s burdens," and that includes seeking help when marriage becomes a source of harm rather than healing.
We also want to lovingly challenge you to examine your own heart. Are there ways in which you may be contributing to the cycle of conflict, even unintentionally? Have you sought to understand your wife’s struggles with patience and grace, while also setting boundaries to protect your own well-being? Marriage is a reflection of Christ and the church, and that means both spouses must strive for holiness, humility, and love (1 Peter 3:7).
Now, let us come before the Lord together in prayer:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this dear brother who is enduring verbal abuse in his marriage. Lord, You see his pain, his exhaustion, and his desperation for relief. We ask that You would be his refuge and strength, a very present help in this time of trouble (Psalm 46:1). Comfort him with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, and guard his heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7).
Father, we pray for his wife, that You would soften her heart and help her to see the harm her words are causing. If there are unaddressed struggles or wounds in her life, we ask that You would bring healing and transformation. Give her a spirit of gentleness and self-control, Lord, and help her to seek help if she needs it. We also pray that You would grant this couple wisdom to navigate their challenges in a way that honors You.
Lord, we ask that You would raise up godly counselors, mentors, or pastors to walk alongside this brother and provide biblical guidance. Give him the courage to set boundaries where necessary and the strength to respond in a way that reflects Your love, even in the face of mistreatment. Help him to forgive, as You have forgiven him, but also to seek justice and restoration where it is needed.
Father, we pray for physical healing as well. You are the Great Physician, and we ask that You would restore his health and renew his strength. Remind him that his worth is found in You alone, not in the words or actions of others. Help him to cast all his anxieties on You, because You care for him (1 Peter 5:7).
Above all, Lord, we pray that this trial would draw him closer to You. May he find his identity, his hope, and his purpose in Christ alone. If he has not yet surrendered his life to You, we pray that he would do so today, receiving the gift of salvation and the promise of eternal life.
We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Redeemer. Amen.
Brother, you are not forgotten. The Lord sees your suffering, and He is at work even in this painful season. We encourage you to cling to Him, to seek His face daily, and to surround yourself with believers who can support and pray for you. If you are not already part of a local church, we strongly urge you to find one where you can grow in your faith and receive the care you need.
Remember, God’s grace is sufficient for you, and His power is made perfect in weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9). You do not have to walk this path alone—lean on Him, and let His strength sustain you.
Dear friend, we're here with you, holding you up in prayer. We know the weight of verbal abuse is heavy, and it's easy to feel alone in the struggle. But please know, you're not alone. We're here, and so is God, who sees every tear, every wound, and every moment of despair.
We want to encourage you to keep seeking help, keep advocating for yourself. You deserve to be treated with kindness and respect. Remember, God calls us to love one another as He loves us (John 13:34-35). That love should be reflected in our marriages, even in the face of challenges.
We also want to remind you of the power of forgiveness. It's not about excusing the hurtful behavior, but about freeing yourself from the burden of bitterness. Jesus tells us in Matthew 6:14-15, "For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins." Forgiveness doesn't mean what happened was okay, but it's a step towards healing and peace.
Keep seeking God in this. He promises in Matthew 11:28-29, "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls." He's there, ready to carry your burdens with you.
We're praying for you, dear friend. That you would find strength in God's love, peace in His presence, and wisdom in every step. You're not alone. We're here, and so is God.
We want to encourage you to keep seeking help, keep advocating for yourself. You deserve to be treated with kindness and respect. Remember, God calls us to love one another as He loves us (John 13:34-35). That love should be reflected in our marriages, even in the face of challenges.
We also want to remind you of the power of forgiveness. It's not about excusing the hurtful behavior, but about freeing yourself from the burden of bitterness. Jesus tells us in Matthew 6:14-15, "For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins." Forgiveness doesn't mean what happened was okay, but it's a step towards healing and peace.
Keep seeking God in this. He promises in Matthew 11:28-29, "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls." He's there, ready to carry your burdens with you.
We're praying for you, dear friend. That you would find strength in God's love, peace in His presence, and wisdom in every step. You're not alone. We're here, and so is God.
Brother James
Beloved of All
Praying for you and your request in Jesus. In general people do care about others yet knowing the promises that are hidden in the Bible for each of us to find, believe and claim in Jesus is on us individually.
Have we ever really meditated on Matthew 6 where Jesus instructs us to take no thought for our lives? I have looked at this in terms of the rest of the Bible where I have learned to claim His Promises in Jesus and take on His thoughts for my life. Thank You Lord Jesus for Blessing me to learn to stop thinking about my life, learn to take on Your thoughts for my life and so much more for Your Glory and my good in Jesus! Amen! Thank You Jesus! Glory to You Lord Jesus!!!
Do you Believe Jesus died for our sins, is Risen from the dead, is Preparing a place for us and is about to call us to join Him?
Are you watching for Jesus in the Clouds of Glory? Jesus is about to call us to join Him!
We can do everything Jesus did and more! We can speak; sickness leave in Jesus! Be healed by Jesus stripes! I am healed by Jesus stripes! Amen! Thank You Lord Jesus!
You can copy and paste this to pray every day and share...
There is nothing that happens for us that is bad except our thoughts about what is happening to us. The Bible says All things work together for our good in Jesus! Look at everything as good!
Sing through out your days Thank You Jesus, Praise You Jesus, Glory to You Lord Jesus or anything that is on your heart to sing to Jesus! It doesn't matter how we sound, Angels will join in with us and Jesus will join in with us as well as fight for us, knock down walls for us, open locks for us, save people for us, evil will flee from us, He heals us and He will over flow His Holy Peace in us.
Praying for others on here and reading your Bible will help you tremendously.
I wanted to commit suicide once, I even came up with a plan. Right before I headed out the door I posted a prayer on here and hoping there might be help from God one last time I opened the Bible and only read take no thought for your life from Matthew 6. I read that before at least 100 times but never really could understand how. This time I took it to heart, all right God I will end my life by not thinking about it. I take no thought, I take no thought, I take no thought over and over and over again I take no thought was my only thought that day. All of a sudden I noticed something, Jesus showed up, all my pains were gone, no neck ache, no back pain, no leg pain from many many accidents I had over the years and no pain in my heart as my wife had left me. I started singing praises and thanks to Jesus and my life has never been the same. My wife returned. It is our obedience to God from His Holy Instructions that makes a difference to His Power of His Promises in our lives.
Be a doer of Jesus friend, it really makes a difference! Thank You Lord Jesus! All things work together for my good in Jesus!
Search the Bible for Jesus' Promises friend, do them and claim them in Jesus! Amen! Thank You Lord Jesus! Glory to You Lord Jesus!!!
Powerful healing promise hidden in Proverbs 3:7-8, I am not wise in my own eyes, I fear You Lord, I depart from evil, especially my own evil thoughts and my flesh is healed and my body is refreshed in Jesus.
Praying for others especially in your situation will help you tremendously in yours friend.
Take no thought for your life dear friend and Jesus will take thought for you. Sing praises and thanks to Jesus and He will overflow His Holy Spirit in you and so much more. He will fight for you and give you the desires of your heart.
Pray this prayer look up the verses and pray it again with your friends and family and let's mount up with wings as eagles and soar. Soar with me.
Let Us Pray: God I ask in Jesus' name, bless me to grow closer to You. I long for a more intimate relationship with You. God I take You at Your Word, if I will draw closer to You, You will draw closer to me (James 4:8). Show me how to draw closer to You. Bless me daily to cast off and forsake my thoughts and ways for my life, and exchange them for Your thoughts and ways for my life. Let me think Your thoughts and dream Your dreams for my life. God bless me to live and walk in Your love, mercy and forgiveness (Isaiah 55:7). I confess, I will take no thought for my life. I will trust You Father God to take thought for me and take care of me (Mathew 6:25-34). I will not be wise in my own eyes, I will fear You Lord and depart from evil and my flesh will be healed and my body will be refreshed (Proverbs 3:7-8) daily. Thank You Jesus for Your Promises! Lord make me the Child of God You need me to be in Christ for all those around me and for the world to see (Psalms 128:3). Not by my might, nor by my power, but by Your Spirt Christ Jesus (Zechariah 4:6) this shall happen. And it will happen, it is happening now in Your timing, Power, Strength, Might, and Spirit, Christ Jesus. God all that I have asked of you in this prayer please do the same for all those I love, care about, and every faithful prayer warrior on this site. Thank You, Thank You, Thank You Lord Jesus, my Savior and Lord for answering this prayer with a Yes and Amen.
Bless us to sing praises and thanks to You Lord Jesus so You can fill us with the wine of the Spirit in Jesus Name, Amen.
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