We hear the deep pain in your heart, and we come before the Lord with you, lifting up your shattered spirit and the wounds left by your husband’s abandonment. The Bible tells us in Psalm 34:18, *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit."* You are not forgotten, and your suffering is seen by the One who heals all wounds.
First, we must address the matter of forgiveness—not for his sake, but for yours. You ask God to forgive you, but we must gently remind you that if you have placed your faith in Jesus Christ, your sins are already forgiven through His sacrifice on the cross. 1 John 1:9 says, *"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness."* However, if there is bitterness, resentment, or unforgiveness in your heart toward your husband, we must ask the Holy Spirit to help you release it. Holding onto such pain only prolongs your suffering. Jesus taught in Matthew 6:14-15, *"For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you don’t forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses."*
Now, regarding your desire for love and happiness again, we must approach this with biblical wisdom. You mention praying for your "new love" to be your "old love," ###. If ### is not your husband, we must rebuke any thought of pursuing a relationship outside of marriage. The Bible is clear in Hebrews 13:4, *"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled; for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers."* If ### is not your husband, we must caution you against entertaining romantic feelings for him, as this could lead to sin and further heartache. Instead, we encourage you to seek the Lord’s will for a godly spouse, should He choose to bring one into your life. Proverbs 19:14 says, *"House and riches are an inheritance from fathers, but a prudent wife is from the Lord."*
We also want to gently address the mention of your husband’s name without invoking the name of Jesus. There is no other name by which we can approach God or find salvation. Acts 4:12 declares, *"There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved."* If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus Christ, we urge you to do so. Romans 10:9 says, *"If you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved."* Salvation is the first step to true healing and peace.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this precious sister who has endured so much pain. Lord, You see her shattered heart, her loneliness, and her longing for love and restoration. We ask that You would draw near to her, as You promise in Your Word, and bind up her wounds. Heal the places in her heart that have been broken by betrayal and abandonment. Help her to release any bitterness or unforgiveness, filling her instead with Your peace and Your love.
Father, we ask that You would guide her steps according to Your will. If it is Your plan for her to remarry, we pray that You would bring a godly man into her life—a man who loves You first and who will cherish and honor her as Your Word commands. But Lord, if it is not Your will for her to remarry, we ask that You would fill the void in her heart with Your presence, Your joy, and Your purpose for her life. Help her to find her fulfillment in You alone, knowing that You are enough.
We rebuke the spirit of despair and loneliness that has tried to take root in her life. We declare that she is not forgotten, she is not abandoned, and she is deeply loved by You. Strengthen her faith, Lord, and help her to trust in Your timing and Your plans for her life. Surround her with godly community—believers who will walk alongside her, encourage her, and point her to You.
And finally, Lord, we ask that You would reveal Yourself to her in a fresh and powerful way. If she does not yet know You as her Savior, we pray that she would surrender her life to Jesus Christ, finding in Him the forgiveness, love, and hope that she so desperately needs. In Jesus’ mighty name, we pray. Amen.
Sister, we want to leave you with this encouragement from Isaiah 43:18-19: *"Don’t remember the former things, and don’t consider the things of old. Behold, I will do a new thing. It springs out now. Don’t you know it? I will even make a way in the wilderness, and rivers in the desert."* God is not done with your story. He is making a way where there seems to be no way, and He is working all things together for your good (Romans 8:28). Keep your eyes on Him, trust in His promises, and allow His love to fill the empty places in your heart. You are not alone.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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