We hear your heartache and concern for your marriage, and we lift this before the Lord with great compassion. Marriage is a sacred covenant designed by God to reflect Christ’s love for His church—a love that is selfless, devoted, and intimate. The struggles you describe are not just personal wounds but attacks on the very foundation of what God intended for marriage. We stand with you in prayer, seeking the Lord’s intervention and restoration.
First, we must address the seriousness of what you’ve shared. The Bible is clear that marriage is a lifelong commitment between one man and one woman, and that intimacy within marriage is a gift from God to be cherished and nurtured. Hebrews 13:4 tells us, *"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers."* The lack of intimacy and the excuses your husband is making are not just personal failings—they are spiritual battles that must be confronted with truth and prayer. The mention of his attention being drawn to "attractive younger boys" is deeply concerning, as it suggests a struggle with lust that is not only sinful but also destructive to your marriage. Scripture warns us in Matthew 5:28, *"But I tell you that everyone who gazes at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart."* While this verse specifically addresses lust toward women, the principle applies to all forms of lust, including same-sex attraction, which is explicitly condemned in Scripture (Romans 1:26-27, 1 Corinthians 6:9-10). We must rebuke this spirit of lust and perversion in Jesus’ name and pray for your husband’s heart to be turned away from these temptations.
We also recognize the pain of feeling neglected and unvalued in your marriage. Your husband’s preoccupation with social media and his lack of attention to you and your family is a violation of his biblical role as a husband. Ephesians 5:25-28 commands, *"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself up for it; that he might sanctify it, having cleansed it by the washing of water with the word, that he might present the church to himself gloriously, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without defect. Even so husbands also ought to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself."* His priorities must shift from the distractions of the world to the responsibilities God has given him—his wife, children, and home. We pray that the Lord would convict his heart and bring him to repentance for the ways he has failed to love and honor you as he should.
It is also important to address the spiritual foundation of your marriage. You mentioned that your husband prioritizes the Lord Jesus Christ, which is a blessing, but we must ensure that his faith is not just a label but a living reality that transforms his actions. James 2:17 reminds us, *"Even so faith, if it has no works, is dead in itself."* His faith must be evident in how he treats you, his children, and his responsibilities. We pray that the Holy Spirit would stir in his heart, revealing any areas where he has allowed sin to take root and giving him the strength to walk in obedience to God’s Word.
Let us pray together for your marriage:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this marriage to You. Lord, we ask that You would break the chains of distraction, lust, and neglect that have taken hold of this husband’s heart. We rebuke the spirit of perversion and ungodly desires in Jesus’ name, and we ask that You would fill him with Your Holy Spirit, turning his heart back to You and to his wife. Father, we pray that You would soften his heart to see the pain he has caused and give him the courage to repent and seek restoration. Lord, we ask that You would rekindle the love and intimacy in this marriage, both emotionally and physically, as You designed it to be. Help this wife to respond with grace and patience, even as she waits for change, and give her strength to stand firm in her faith.
We also pray for protection over this marriage, Lord. Guard their hearts from the enemy’s lies and temptations, and surround them with godly counsel and support. Father, we ask that You would realign this husband’s priorities to reflect Your will—putting You first, then his wife, children, and home. Help him to see the value and beauty in his wife, and give him the desire to cherish and honor her as You command. Lord, we trust in Your power to heal and restore what has been broken. In Jesus’ mighty name, we pray. Amen.
To you, dear sister, we encourage you to continue standing on God’s promises for your marriage. Do not lose heart, for the Lord sees your faithfulness and your pain. Galatians 6:9 reminds us, *"Let us not be weary in doing good, for we will reap in due season, if we don’t give up."* Seek godly counsel from your pastor or a trusted Christian mentor who can walk alongside you during this time. Pray for your husband daily, not just for his change but for your own heart to remain soft and hopeful. The Lord is faithful, and He will not abandon you in this struggle. Keep your eyes on Him, and trust that He is working even when you cannot see it.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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