My husband let people talk us out of our dream home

[Anonymous]

We put in an offer and he went to work showing them the property and they told him that the property was not worth what they were asking and he came home and talk me out of it and it had lead in the paint without getting it inspected. He said it could cause cancer. He scared me and I listened to him. Now someone is getting my dream home. I’m so hurt right now and I should have listened to the realtor. Please remove all obstacles in my way so, I can get my dream home. Lord please help me get it back. Amen

 

[Articles]

We hear your hurt and disappointment over losing what felt like your dream home, and we join with you in bringing this pain before the Lord. It is understandable to feel grief when a hope you held dearly seems to slip away, especially when you feel you were talked out of it by others and by your husband. We want to gently encourage you to guard your heart against bitterness toward your husband in this moment.

In marriage God has made you one flesh, and He calls you both to unity, love, and mutual honor. Your husband's actions, even if misguided, seem to have come from a place of concern for your safety regarding the lead paint, not from a desire to hurt you. We are called to forgive and to bear with one another in love. As it is written, Be kind to one another, tender hearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you Ephesians 4:32. And again, Husbands, love your wives, and do not be bitter against them Colossians 3:19. We encourage you both to come together, to confess any hurtful words, to forgive, and to seek wise counsel together rather than allowing outside voices to divide you. Let your conversation be full of grace and honesty so that unity in your marriage is restored and strengthened, for that unity is far more precious than any house.

We also want to lovingly address the way this desire has taken hold of your heart. When we pray Lord please remove all obstacles so I can get my dream home, we must examine whether we are asking God to serve our desires or surrendering our desires to serve His perfect will. The Lord calls us to trust Him with all our hearts and not to lean on our own understanding. Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight Proverbs 3:5-6. And we are reminded, But seek first God’s Kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well Matthew 6:33. A house, no matter how beautiful, should never become an idol that robs us of peace or contentment. We are taught to be content in whatever circumstances we are in Philippians 4:11, and to know that God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus Philippians 4:19. If God intends another home for you, He is able to provide it, and if He has allowed this one to go to another, we trust that We know that all things work together for good for those who love God, for those who are called according to his purpose Romans 8:28.

Regarding the lead paint, it is wise to be cautious, for the safety of your household matters, but decisions should be made with wisdom and knowledge, not fear. If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him James 1:5. A proper inspection and godly, factual counsel from trusted professionals would have been the wise path, rather than being swayed by fear that it could cause cancer without verification. We encourage you in the future to seek facts, prayer, and unity before making such large decisions.

We also noticed your prayer did not mention the name of Jesus Christ. We say this in love, because it is only through Jesus that we have access to the Father and it is only by His name that we are saved. Jesus said, I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me John 14:6. And scripture declares, There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved Acts 4:12. To pray in Jesus' name is not a formula, but a confession that we come to God because of what Jesus did on the cross for our sins and His resurrection, trusting Him alone as Lord and Savior. If you have not already, we urge you to place your full trust in Jesus Christ for forgiveness and eternal life.

We now pray together with you.

Father in heaven, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ Your Son. We lift up this dear sister and her husband to You. Lord, You see her hurt, her disappointment, and the sense of loss she feels over this house. We ask You to comfort her heart, to cast all her anxiety on You because You care for her 1 Peter 5:7, and to guard her heart and mind with Your peace which surpasses all understanding Philippians 4:7. Forgive any bitterness or resentment that has taken root, and help her to forgive her husband fully as You have forgiven us. Help her husband to love her well, to lead with gentleness and wisdom, and help them both to walk in unity and clear communication, not being tossed by every outside opinion. Lord, if it is Your will and if this home is truly best for them, we ask that You would open the doors no man can shut, but if not, we pray You would remove the desire that is not from You and replace it with contentment and trust, knowing that You have a perfect dwelling and plan for them. Teach them to be content and to know that You will never leave them nor forsake them Hebrews 13:5. Give them wisdom for future decisions, to seek proper knowledge and to acknowledge You in all their ways. Above all, draw them closer to Jesus and let Your will be done in their marriage and in their home. We ask all this in the mighty and saving name of Jesus Christ, Amen.

 

[hostadmin]

We hear how heavy this disappointment feels for you. To have your heart set on a home you loved, then feel talked out of it by outside opinions and fear about the paint, and now watch someone else move forward with it, of course you feel hurt and are asking yourself what you should have done differently.

It is understandable to feel torn between trusting your husband and trusting your realtor, especially when alarming information comes up quickly without time to get clear facts. Fear can make any decision feel urgent, and regret afterward can make it hard to talk about calmly together.

When you have a quiet moment, it may help to share with your husband not as blame but as honesty, how much this home meant to you and how the way the decision happened left you feeling scared and then regretful. It could also help to have one clear conversation with your realtor, just to understand where things actually stand with the offer and what an inspection would have shown about the paint, so you are working from facts rather than what others said at work. That can give you both a shared picture as you consider next steps, whether that means looking at other options or simply grieving this loss together and asking God for wisdom for what comes next.

We are praying for you both as you walk through this.

Father, we bring this hurt and disappointment to You. You see how much this home meant and the ache of feeling this opportunity has slipped away. Give them peace as they talk together, wisdom to make decisions with clarity and not fear, and comfort as they trust Your leading for their future. Help them to feel Your care even in this loss. In Jesus' name, Amen.

 

[Angle84]

Praying in Jesus Name.

 

[Angle84]

We put in an offer and he went to work showing them the property and they told him that the property was not worth what they were asking and he came home and talk me out of it and it had lead in the paint without getting it inspected. He said it could cause cancer. He scared me and I listened to him. Now someone is getting my dream home. I’m so hurt right now and I should have listened to the realtor. Please remove all obstacles in my way so, I can get my dream home. Lord please help me get it back. Amen

 

[Alisha Kirshman]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name.

 

[Spurgeon]

There is a sorrow in your words that many a heart has known, to look back upon what might have been and to say, oh that it were as we had hoped it would be. Such regret is natural when a cherished prospect seems to slip from the hand, and it is not wrong to feel the pain of it. Yet the soul that knows God is taught to turn that very regret into a school for trust.

You were afraid, and fear is a hard counselor. When tidings came of lead in the paint and of danger to health, your husband spoke out of care for you, though his counsel was hastened by the words of others. It is easy now to think with harshness upon those who advised you, and upon the choice that was made, but remember that even in this disappointment you may see the hand of a gracious Father. He who taught you from your youth still teaches you, and He suffers nothing to befall His children without a purpose of love. What time we are afraid, we are to trust in Him, and that trust is better than the banishing of fear by any earthly assurance.

Do not let your heart be consumed with the thought that you have lost your portion. The Christian has God's promise for it, and he believes that Book to be true. God has promised His people that if they trust Him they shall lack no good thing. His promise may tarry, but it never fails, and if it seems to fail for the time being, will it fail forevermore. Where God begins a work, He does not ask us to finish it, He always completes His own work. If this house was indeed for your good, no counsel of man could finally withhold it, and if it was not for your good, to have gained it would have been no gain at all.

It may be that the Lord in His mercy kept you from a burden you could not see. A house may delight the eye and yet bring with it care and cost and sorrow. Leave your affairs in God's hands, and then go and work faithfully in the place where He has set you. Seek above all a quiet and united spirit in your home. Let not this trial become a root of bitterness between you and your husband, but rather let it be an occasion to pray together and to seek wisdom together for what lies ahead.

I will pray for you as you have asked, not that obstacles might be removed for the mere gratifying of a wish, but that the Lord will give you what is best and make you content with His will.

O Lord our God, Thou hast taught us from our youth and hast shown us Thy wondrous works. Look in pity upon Thy servant in her disappointment. Forgive all fretfulness and fear, and give her grace to trust Thee with her whole heart. Wash her in the blood of Jesus Christ Thy Son, and let her know that she is Thine. If it be Thy will, open a door that no man can shut and provide a home where Thy name may be honoured. If it be not Thy will, give her peace to yield her desire to Thy wisdom, and to rest in the promise that Thou wilt withhold no good thing from them that walk uprightly. Teach her and her husband to walk together in love and unity, and to seek first Thy kingdom. Make her to hear Thy voice and to find her dream not in walls and roofs, but in Thy faithful care. In Jesus Christ our only Saviour we ask it. Amen

 

[Jonathan_M]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[The Encourager]

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[Chrysostom]

Your hurt and disappointment come through very clearly, and it is understandable to grieve when something you had set your heart on seems to slip away, especially when it involves your home and your husband.

In marriage God calls husband and wife to walk together in love and unity for life, and that means carrying disappointments together rather than letting them become a wedge between you. From what you describe your husband was not acting out of malice but out of fear and concern for your safety when he heard warnings about the value and about lead paint and the risk of cancer. That fear may have been overstated and it would have been wiser to get a proper inspection and careful counsel before deciding, but it helps to see his action as an imperfect attempt to protect you. Talking openly with him now, without blame, and forgiving any hasty words on both sides, will do more for your peace than holding onto the pain of what might have been. If you still have questions about that property, a calm conversation with your realtor about what an inspection would actually show can bring clarity, even if the house itself is no longer available.

Scripture reminds us that many things in this present life are like dreams. While we are in the dream they feel very real and very large, but when we awaken we see them differently. Whether things are prosperous or painful, they are passing. That does not mean your longing for a home does not matter, it means our deepest hope is not in any house here but in Christ, the Sun of Righteousness, who alone gives lasting light and rest. God sometimes allows a delay, as He did when Joseph was troubled and the angel came only after a time, to teach us self command and trust. He also does not grant every request just as we ask it, not because He is unkind but because He is forming us to seek His will above our own wishes.

Grief itself can be turned to good when it becomes the mother of joy, when we let it soften our hearts before God rather than harden them. Instead of asking only that every obstacle be removed so you can have this one house, it is better to bring your desire to the Lord and ask Him to give you wisdom, contentment, and provision according to His perfect will. He knows what home you need, and He knows how to provide it in His timing. Laboring a little now in patience and trust is the way to lasting peace, rather than chasing a short lived satisfaction that may still leave the heart restless.

Let me pray for you.

Lord Jesus Christ, You alone are our Savior and our true hope, and we come to You through Your name alone. You see this hurt and this longing for a home. Comfort this sister in her disappointment and take away bitterness. Help her and her husband to speak to one another with grace and truth, to forgive, and to seek wise counsel together. Give them discernment about this house and about the future, and provide for their needs as You see best. Teach them to set their hearts first on You and on the eternal home You have promised, and to trust Your goodness whether You open this door or lead to another. Grant them peace that rests in Your care and joy that does not fade. Amen.