Our hearts break with you as we hear the deep pain and betrayal you are enduring. No one should have to walk through such devastation alone, and we want you to know that God sees your suffering and is near to the brokenhearted. Your love for your husband and your desire to honor your marriage are commendable, but the sinful choices he is making are grieving the Lord and destroying the covenant you both entered before Him. We must first address the gravity of what is happening in your marriage, for the Word of God does not shy away from calling sin by its name.
Your husband’s addiction to alcohol, drugs, and sexual immorality—including his pursuit of prostitutes and younger women—is not only a betrayal of you but a rebellion against God. The Scriptures are clear: *"Don’t you know that the unrighteous will not inherit God’s Kingdom? Don’t be deceived. Neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who have sex with men, nor thieves, nor greedy people, nor drunkards, nor slanderers, nor swindlers will inherit God’s Kingdom"* (1 Corinthians 6:9-10, WEB). His actions are enslaving him, and unless he repents and turns to Christ, he remains in danger of God’s judgment. Yet even now, there is hope—*"Or don’t you know that the unrighteous will not inherit God’s Kingdom? Don’t be deceived. Neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers... will inherit God’s Kingdom. Such were some of you, but you were washed. But you were sanctified. But you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and in the Spirit of our God"* (1 Corinthians 6:11, WEB). Your husband *can* be set free, but it begins with him acknowledging his sin and crying out to Jesus for deliverance.
As for you, precious sister, you are not alone in this fight. The enemy wants you to believe that no one understands your pain, but we assure you—many have walked this path, and more importantly, *Jesus* walks it with you. He, too, was betrayed, rejected, and abandoned. He knows the weight of a broken heart, and He is holding yours in His hands right now. The psalmist writes, *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit"* (Psalm 34:18, WEB). Your tears are not wasted; God collects them in His bottle (Psalm 56:8). He sees your faithfulness, your love, and your desperation, and He will sustain you.
However, we must also speak truth in love: while your commitment to your marriage is honorable, you are not called to endure abuse, abandonment, or repeated, unrepentant adultery without boundary or consequence. Marriage is a covenant, but it is not a license for one spouse to destroy the other. Jesus Himself said, *"What therefore God has joined together, don’t let man tear apart"* (Matthew 19:6, WEB), but He also acknowledged that sexual immorality breaks the covenant (Matthew 19:9). You are not obligated to remain in a situation where your husband is actively destroying himself, you, and your marriage without remorse. The Apostle Paul instructs, *"But if the unbeliever departs, let there be separation. The brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases"* (1 Corinthians 7:15, WEB). While we pray fervently for restoration, you must also seek godly wisdom about what boundaries are necessary for your protection—spiritually, emotionally, and even physically.
Your pain is so deep that you’ve mentioned thoughts of self-harm, and we must address this with urgency and compassion. Your life is *precious* to God. You are His beloved daughter, bought with the blood of Jesus, and He has plans for you—plans for hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11). The enemy wants to steal, kill, and destroy, but Jesus came to give you life abundantly (John 10:10). If you are struggling with thoughts of harming yourself, we implore you to reach out to a trusted pastor, counselor, or believer *immediately*. You are not a burden; you are deeply loved, and God wants to heal you. *"Cast all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you"* (1 Peter 5:7, WEB). Please, do not carry this alone.
Now, let us pray for you and your husband, standing in the gap before the Lord:
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Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up our sister who is crushed under the weight of betrayal, rejection, and sorrow. Lord, You see the depths of her pain—the sleepless nights, the tears, the ache of a heart that longs for love and faithfulness. Comfort her as only You can, Father. Wrap Your arms around her and remind her that she is *not* alone. You are her Husband, her Protector, her Redeemer (Isaiah 54:5). Heal her broken heart and bind up her wounds. Replace her despair with Your peace that surpasses all understanding.
Lord, we also lift up her husband, who is enslaved to sin and addiction. Father, break the chains that bind him! Convict him deeply of his sin and the destruction it is causing—his own soul, his marriage, and his relationship with You. Soften his heart, Lord, and draw him to repentance. Let him see the emptiness of his pursuits and the love of a wife who has stood by him even in his rebellion. Bring godly sorrow that leads to life (2 Corinthians 7:10). Raise up men of God to speak truth into his life, and if necessary, use consequences to wake him from his stupor. Lord, only You can save him—so we ask for a miracle. Deliver him from the power of darkness and transfer him into the Kingdom of Your Son (Colossians 1:13).
Father, give our sister wisdom. Show her what boundaries are necessary for her protection and for the possibility of restoration. If this marriage can be redeemed, Lord, *redeem it*. If her husband hardens his heart, give her the strength to walk in obedience to You, even if it means separation. Surround her with Your people—those who will pray, counsel, and support her in this season. Protect her mind from the lies of the enemy, and let her find rest in You.
We rebuke the spirit of infidelity, addiction, and destruction in Jesus’ mighty name. No weapon formed against this marriage shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17). Lord, restore what the locusts have eaten (Joel 2:25). Bring beauty from these ashes (Isaiah 61:3). We ask all this in the powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Healer. Amen.
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Sister, we urge you to seek godly counsel—whether from a pastor, a biblical counselor, or a trusted believer who can walk with you through this. You do not have to make these decisions alone. The body of Christ is meant to bear one another’s burdens (Galatians 6:2), and we are standing with you in prayer.
Lastly, we want to remind you of the hope you have in Christ. No matter what happens in this marriage, your identity is not "abandoned wife" or "victim"—you are a *daughter of the King*. Your worth is not determined by your husband’s choices but by the price Jesus paid for you. Cling to Him. Spend time in His Word, even when it’s hard. Let the psalms be your prayer when you have no words. And remember: *"Weeping may stay for the night, but joy comes in the morning"* (Psalm 30:5, WEB). Your morning *will* come. Trust Him. We are with you, and more importantly, *He* is with you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
