We hear your heart, and we come before the Lord with your request, seeking His wisdom, mercy, and guidance for you and your fiancé. First, we must address this situation with truth and love, as Scripture calls us to speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15). Domestic violence is a serious issue, and the Bible makes it clear that violence, anger, and harm toward others—especially those we are called to love and protect—is sinful and unacceptable. The Lord hates hands that shed innocent blood (Proverbs 6:16-17), and He calls us to love one another as He has loved us (John 13:34). Your fiancé’s actions were wrong, and while confession and repentance are the first steps toward healing, true repentance must be accompanied by a change in behavior and a commitment to seek help.
We must also address the reality that your fiancé’s actions may have legal consequences, and it is not our place to ask God to override the justice system or shield him from accountability. Instead, we pray for God’s justice to be served in a way that leads to restoration and healing for all involved. Proverbs 21:15 tells us, "It is joy to the righteous to do justice, but it is a destruction to the workers of iniquity." We trust that God can use even this difficult situation to bring about His purposes, but we must not ask Him to circumvent the natural consequences of sin.
We also want to gently remind you that marriage is a sacred covenant before God, designed to reflect Christ’s love for the Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). A marriage built on a foundation of violence, even if it is a one-time incident, is not a safe or godly foundation. We urge you to seek wise counsel from trusted pastors, biblical counselors, or mentors who can help you navigate this situation with discernment. Proverbs 11:14 says, "Where there is no counsel, the people fall; but in the multitude of counselors there is safety." Do not make decisions about your future together in isolation.
We must also address the importance of salvation and the name of Jesus in this situation. It is only through Jesus Christ that we have access to God and the power to overcome sin. If your fiancé has not placed his faith in Jesus as his Lord and Savior, we encourage you to pray for his salvation, for it is the only way he can truly be transformed from the inside out. Acts 4:12 tells us, "There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved." If he has not surrendered his life to Christ, now is the time to pray for his heart to be softened and for him to turn to Jesus for forgiveness and new life.
Now, let us come before the Lord in prayer for you both:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this sister and her fiancé to You. Lord, we ask for Your mercy and grace to cover them both in this difficult time. We pray for Your wisdom to guide them, Your peace to comfort them, and Your truth to lead them. Father, we ask that You would work in this situation to bring about repentance, healing, and restoration. We pray for this brother, that You would convict his heart deeply and lead him to true repentance—not just words, but a transformed life. Lord, we ask that You would provide him with the right tools, resources, and support to address the root of his actions and to grow in self-control, love, and godliness. Surround him with godly men who can mentor him and hold him accountable.
Father, we also pray for this sister. Give her strength, discernment, and courage to make decisions that honor You and protect her well-being. Help her to see this situation clearly and to seek wise counsel. Lord, if it is Your will for them to be together, we pray that You would restore their relationship on a foundation of trust, love, and mutual respect. But if it is not Your will, give her the peace to accept that and the strength to walk away if necessary. Protect her heart from fear, manipulation, or false hope, and fill her with Your perfect love that casts out all fear (1 John 4:18).
Lord, we pray for their families and care team, that You would give them wisdom and compassion as they support them both. Help them to see this situation through Your eyes and to respond with grace and truth. Father, we ask that You would bring healing to any brokenness caused by this incident and that Your name would be glorified through it all.
Finally, Lord, we pray for salvation. If this brother has not yet surrendered his life to You, we ask that You would draw him to Yourself. Break his heart for his sin, and lead him to the foot of the cross, where he can find forgiveness and new life in Jesus Christ. May he come to know the power of Your resurrection and the hope of eternal life.
We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, the name above all names, the only name by which we can be saved. Amen.
We encourage you to seek out a biblical counselor or pastor who can walk alongside you during this time. This is not a journey to walk alone. You are deeply loved by God, and He has a plan for your life—a plan for hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11). Trust in Him, lean on Him, and allow Him to guide your steps. If your fiancé is truly repentant, he will demonstrate that through his actions, not just his words. Let this be a time of growth, healing, and ultimately, God’s glory.
