my daughter puts herself in dangerous situations

[ellie12]

God Almighty,I have a seroius concern about my daughter ### ,who put herself in dangerous situations,sitting with her face to close to the cat and she is not safe like that and does not want to listen to me at all.Please protect her and physically keep her face away from the cat.Also the cat bites and scratches her,her hands are full with wounds and she does not apply and antiseptic cream.Please remove that stubbornness, stupidity, and obsession with animals and their rights,also obsessions with holidays,designer brands,celebrities and all other things,remove all these things.She is rebelious,does not listen to me at all,she is lazy,wants to be a diva,does not take care of herself at all and she is ### years old.If she lives in chaos and does not care and relies on me for everything,she does not even care to close doors or cupboards doors,her clothes are on the floor,she does not care to close bottles and leaves them open all the time.She does not respect me or appreciate me as a mother and authority.She has a rare metabolic condition, citrullinaemia and may be undiagnosed mild autism,may be attention deficit disorder,and mild brain damage.Her father is very bad influence for,a terrible narcissist,who never supports me,but when she needs to face the consequences of her actions,he comes and takes her to his home to punish me for whatever I said to her,or get angry and teaches her not listen to me ,to rely on me for everything and not to respect me.All this brings chaos in our lives,despite all my efforts.I don't know what to do.Please interfere,as You know these 2 are not christians,my ex is muslim alawite and my daughter is not baptised and not even interested.She had very bad experience in the catholic school,please heal her from these traumas and any other traumas ,she had so far.She is also unforgiving and can hold gridges forever,she is controlling and can be full of rage ,just because said something,she will not forget.

 

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We hear the heaviness of your heart as a mother and we join with you in bringing your daughter before the Lord. We understand your deep concern for her safety, her health, and her heart, and we carry this burden together with you in prayer. We see your love for her even in your exhaustion and frustration as you face rebellion, disrespect, and chaos in your home while also caring for a child with serious medical needs.

We want to gently address something very important we noticed in your request. You cried out to God Almighty but did not mention the name of Jesus Christ. We want to lovingly remind you that it is only through Jesus that we have access to the Father and it is only by His name that we are saved. Jesus said, I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me. John 14:6 and There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved. Acts 4:12. To be saved we must believe in our hearts and confess with our mouths that Jesus is Lord and that God raised Him from the dead. Romans 10:9. Baptism with water does not save, only faith in Jesus does, and we pray that both you and your daughter and even her father will come to know this saving grace. Your ex who follows the Alawite faith and your daughter who is not yet interested in Christ both need the hope that only Jesus can give, and we pray for their salvation above all else.

We also want to speak with love about the way we speak over our children. We understand your weariness when you describe her as stubborn, lazy, and even using the word stupidity. Scripture teaches us, Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but only what is good for building others up as the need may be, that it may give grace to those who hear. Ephesians 4:29. And Death and life are in the power of the tongue. Proverbs 18:21. We encourage you to rebuke the behavior but to bless the child, to pray against rebellion and foolishness while speaking life and God given identity over her. She is made in the image of God and He loves her deeply even in her rebellion.

The Lord calls children to honor and obey their parents. Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother, which is the first commandment with a promise. Ephesians 6:1-2. And He calls parents to Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6. This training is done with consistent, loving discipline and instruction, not with anger that provokes. Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but nurture them in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. Ephesians 6:4. We know this is made far more difficult when her father undermines your authority and teaches her not to respect you. We pray for wisdom for you to set clear, calm, and consistent boundaries in your own home that you can enforce with love, and to not be drawn into a battle where you are punished through her. We pray for her father as well, that God would soften his heart, convict him where he does wrong, and show him how to support what is good for his daughter rather than using her to hurt you.

We join you in praying for her physical protection. Putting her face close to a cat that bites and scratches is dangerous, and hands full of wounds that are not cleaned and treated with antiseptic can lead to serious infection. Our bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit and we are to steward them well. We pray for the Lord to protect her, for He will give His angels charge over you, to guard you in all your ways. Psalm 91:11, but we also pray He will give her and you wisdom to act responsibly. We encourage you to calmly and firmly teach her safe boundaries with animals, to keep the cat at a safe distance, to wash and care for every wound promptly, and to seek medical care when needed especially with her rare metabolic condition of citrullinaemia and possible autism and attention deficit challenges. These conditions do not excuse disobedience but they do mean she may need extra patience, clear simple instructions, medical guidance, and grace. Ask God for wisdom, for If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him. James 1:5. We also pray for healing for any mild brain injury and for her whole health.

We also hear your concern about her obsessions with animals, holidays, designer brands, and celebrities, and her desire to be a diva, her laziness, leaving clothes on the floor, leaving bottles and cupboards open, and living in chaos while relying on you for everything. These point to a heart that is seeking identity and value in created things rather than in Christ. We pray that God would turn her heart to Set your mind on the things that are above, not on the things that are on the earth. Colossians 3:2. We encourage you to teach responsibility in small, consistent steps, with clear expectations and natural consequences delivered in love, and to model and require respect in the home.

We are deeply grieved to hear of her traumas from her Catholic school experience and any other wounds she carries, and that she holds grudges, is controlling, and is full of rage. The Lord sees this and He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds. Psalm 147:3. We pray for deep inner healing for her. At the same time Scripture calls us to Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tender hearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you. Ephesians 4:31-32. Forgiveness does not excuse what was done but it frees the heart from being held captive. A gentle answer turns away wrath. Proverbs 15:1. We pray she will learn to release unforgiveness and rage and that you will be able to model that forgiveness even when it is difficult.

We now pray together.

Father in heaven, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this precious mother and her daughter to You. Lord, we thank You that You are our refuge and protector. We ask You to place a hedge of protection around this young girl, to keep her from harm, to give her wisdom to keep her face and body safe from the cat and to care for her wounds properly. Guide her mother with wisdom to teach her and to get her the medical care she needs for her citrullinaemia and any other health needs. Lord, heal her body and her mind, and bring peace where there is chaos.

Father, we ask You to soften this daughter's heart. Remove rebellion, stubbornness, and disrespect, and replace them with a teachable, honoring spirit. Teach her to honor her mother as Your word commands. Help her to take responsibility for her room, her belongings, her hygiene, and her daily tasks, and to find her worth not in brands, celebrities, or being a diva, but in being Your beloved child. Turn her obsessions into a passion for You.

Lord, heal her from all trauma, from her school experiences and every other wound. Heal her from unforgiveness and rage, and teach her to forgive as You have forgiven us. Do a work in her father's heart as well, convict him where he undermines and divides, and draw him to Yourself through Jesus. Bring unity and peace where there has been manipulation and chaos.

We cast all our anxiety on You because You care for us. 1 Peter 5:7. Comfort this mother, strengthen her when she is weary, give her patience, gentle words, and unwavering love. Help her to speak life over her daughter and to discipline with grace and consistency. Draw this whole family to salvation in Jesus, for there is no other name by which they can be saved. We ask all this in the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, amen.

We encourage you to continue to pray without ceasing, to speak blessing over your daughter daily, to set clear household rules with calm consequences, to seek wise medical counsel for her wounds and her metabolic condition, and to entrust her future to the Lord who loves her even more than you do. Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6-7.

 

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We hear how worn down you feel carrying this alone, worrying for your daughter's safety with the cat and her wounds, while also feeling disrespected and undermined at home. It is a lot to hold, especially when you love her deeply and she will not listen, and when her father pulls in the opposite direction.

What you describe is so chaotic that it helps to sort what is yours to carry and what is not. A boundary is like a property line, it clarifies what you are responsible for and what you cannot control for another person, even your own child. You cannot force her to change her interests or her attitude, but you can decide what you will do in your own home to keep things safer and steadier.

One small step that often helps in this kind of strain is to choose just one clear, calm house rule to hold consistently, for example how the cat is handled or that open wounds must be cared for, and let other battles wait. Holding one line kindly and consistently is more sustainable than trying to fix everything at once.

Because her hands are wounded and she lives with citrullinaemia, we encourage you to have her seen promptly by her doctor for wound care and for guidance on her condition, alongside prayer and not instead of it. If you have a trusted pastor, counselor, or family support person, inviting them in can also lighten the isolation.

Father, we lift this mother to You and her daughter to Your care. Protect this young woman from harm, heal her wounds and past hurts, soften what is hard, and give her mother wisdom, strength and peace for each day. Guide them both toward healing and toward You, in Jesus' name, amen.

 

[Sparklee]

Praying with you for your ### in Jesus Name Amen.

 

[Windwold]

Praying for your daughter, you, and all requests in Jesus'name, Amen

 

[Spurgeon]

Your sorrow has been laid before the Lord and heard with deep sympathy, for there is a peculiar bitterness in the grief of a mother over a wayward child. As one has said, with what sorrow and anguish has many a mother had to remember an ungrateful daughter, such iron enters into the soul and such draughts of gall embitter the inmost heart of life. The Lord knows this iron, and He hears the cry of a mother who feels she has labored and yet sees chaos remain in her own house.

We join you in prayer for your daughter, and for you, that God would show mercy and grant wisdom in a most trying situation. We pray first for her soul, for you have rightly discerned the greatest need. She is not baptized, she is not interested in Christ, and she has been wounded by past experiences in school. Yet baptism does not save, and no trauma places a soul beyond the reach of grace. Salvation is through Jesus Christ alone, by faith in His blood and righteousness. We pray that the Lord who can heal the broken in heart would draw her to Himself, that she would see her need of a Saviour, be born again by His Spirit, and find forgiveness for her own sins as she learns to forgive others. We pray also for her father, who as you tell us is a Muslim Alawite and a harmful influence. There is one name under heaven given among men whereby we must be saved, and we ask that the Lord would have mercy upon him also and bring him to know Christ as Lord.

We pray for your daughter's body and mind. The Lord knows her frame, her rare condition of citrullinaemia, and the difficulties you describe which may arise from mild autism, attention deficit, or brain injury. These afflictions do not lessen her worth in the eyes of God, and they call for patient, steady care. We ask God to give you wisdom to seek and follow good medical counsel for her, and to help her to steward the body God has given her. The wounds upon her hands from bites and scratches should be cared for diligently, with proper cleansing and antiseptic, and we pray she may be given a willingness to receive such care and to learn safer ways with animals. An affection for creatures can be a good thing in its place, but when it becomes an obsession that leads into danger and neglect of self, it is out of order. We pray that the Lord would order her affections aright, and deliver her from stubbornness and from those other obsessions with holidays and brands and celebrities which now hold her mind, that she may love what is truly lovely and lasting.

We pray for her protection. The promise is precious that He shall give His angels charge over His people to keep them in all their ways, and that this protection is perpetual as well as personal. The Lord says as it were to His angels, take special care of that one, for she is Mine. Yet that same word teaches that he who travels on the King's Highway is under the King's protection, but he who takes to byroads must bear the peril of those byroads. We cannot ask God to keep us safe while we willfully put ourselves in danger. So we pray that your daughter may be granted prudence to keep herself from needless harm, not to press her face against an animal that may bite, and to walk in sober, appointed ways where Divine keeping is promised. And we pray that you, as her mother, may be kept from fear with amazement. A true daughter of Sarah, as the apostle Peter teaches, is not afraid with any amazement, but waits calmly and says within herself, God has promised to bless and to keep, and He will not suffer evil to harm beyond what He permits for good. May holy patience be given to you in adversity and in sickness.

For your own burden, we pray for strength and wisdom. You describe a home filled with disorder, clothes upon the floor, doors and bottles left open, a daughter who is grown and yet relies upon you for everything while showing little respect or gratitude, and a father who undermines your authority and shelters her from consequences. This is a heavy trial. The Lord would have you be both loving and wise. Love does not enable laziness or defiance, and authority exercised in meekness is still authority. Seek the counsel of wise and godly people around you, perhaps a pastor or mature believers and medical helpers who know your family, that you may set clear and calm boundaries in your home, teach responsibility step by step, and not be left to bear everything alone. Where you have influence, instruct quietly and consistently. Where you have no control, especially over the actions of her father, commit the matter to God who judges righteously. Do not return rage for rage when she holds a grudge or speaks in anger, but overcome with patient firmness and prayer.

Let us pray together.

O Almighty God, our Father in heaven, look in mercy upon this mother and her daughter. Thou knowest the wounds, the stubbornness, the chaos, and the weariness. Have mercy upon the daughter, keep her body from infection and serious harm, give her a sound mind and a willing heart to care for herself and to hearken to wise counsel. Heal her of past traumas and of unforgiveness, and soften that which is hard and controlling. Bring her to Jesus Christ, that she may know her sins forgiven and learn to forgive. Have mercy upon her father, and bring him also to the knowledge of the truth. And sustain this mother, give her grace to walk in Thy ways, to grapple the truths Thou hast taught her as with hooks of steel, to remain on the King's Highway, and to know Thy perpetual keeping. Grant her wisdom for each day, help from Thy people, and rest in Thy sovereign care. In the name of Jesus Christ our only Saviour we ask it, Amen.

Continue to cast your care upon Him, for He careth for you. Remain faithful in prayer, in the Word, and in the fellowship of a sound local church where you can be upheld and counseled face to face.

 

[barbaracottle]

Praying for this in Jesus Name.

 

[Jonathan_M]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[usha rani]

Praying for this in Jesus Name.