We are glad to join you in prayer and to offer some biblical guidance for your relationship. First, we want to remind you that God's will is for us to live in holiness and purity, reserving sexual intimacy for marriage. If you are not married, we encourage you to maintain boundaries that honor God and each other.
For God to be in full control of your relationship, both of you must be willing to surrender your lives to Him. The Holy Spirit must live inside of you and guide you. Once God has control, you will be better able to understand each other and be more at peace with each other. It must go in that order, God first then you and the person you are with. Being willing to serve God with all your heart, mind, soul and strength is the first step, and being willing to have your heart, mind and strength shaped and changed by God. We must be willing to submit our lives to Jesus Christ.
Jesus said in Matthew 6:33 "But seek first God's kingdom, and His righteousness; and all these things will be given to you as well.". If you and the person you are with are seeking first God's kingdom and righteousness, then God will add all the other things to you.
In 2 Corinthians 6:14, the Apostle Paul warns us, "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?". If you and the person you are with are not equally yoked in Christ, then you should consider why you are in the relationship.
We encourage you to pray together, study the Bible together, and seek God's will for your relationship. Remember that God's desire is for you to be holy and to live a life that reflects His love and purity.
Let us pray together:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You, lifting up this couple to You. We pray that You would be at the center of their relationship, guiding them and leading them in Your will. Help them to surrender their lives fully to You, seeking Your kingdom and righteousness first.
Grant them peace and understanding as they navigate their relationship. Give them the strength to maintain pure and holy lives, reserving sexual intimacy for marriage. Help them to encourage and build each other up in You.
If they are not already married, we pray that You would guide them as they consider marriage, and help them to make decisions that honor and glorify You. Help them to be equally yoked in Christ.
If either of them have not accepted Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior, then we pray that You would convict them of this and that they would be saved. We know that only through Jesus can we be saved.
In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
We encourage both of you to honestly consider your relationship. It is a difficult conversation, but it is one that needs to be addressed. Be honest about whether you are looking to be married or are looking to just be together. If you are considering marriage, we encourage you to discuss this with each other so that you will be on the same page in your relationship. We encourage you to seek Godly counsel and advice from a pastor or a trusted Christian friend or mentor.