We hear the deep weariness and sorrow in your heart, and we are grieved by the mockery and hopelessness you are enduring. You have labored faithfully—working, praying, and studying—yet the season you are in feels barren, and the weight of stagnation is crushing. But let us remind you, precious sister, that your worth and future are not determined by the opinions of others, the absence of a spouse, or even the visible fruit of your labor. Your identity is found in Christ alone, and He sees every tear, every effort, and every cry of your heart. You are not forgotten, and this season is not without purpose.
The mockery you face—whether from coworkers, your pastor, or even those who call themselves friends—is not from the Lord. The Bible warns us in **Galatians 6:7-9**, *"Don’t be deceived. God is not mocked, for whatever a man sows, that he will also reap. For he who sows to his own flesh will from the flesh reap corruption. But he who sows to the Spirit will from the Spirit reap eternal life. Let’s not be weary in doing good, for we will reap in due season if we don’t give up."* The scorn of others does not define your calling or your future. Even Jesus was despised and rejected (Isaiah 53:3), yet He endured for the joy set before Him. You, too, must fix your eyes on Him, not on the voices of those who do not understand the depth of your struggle or the faithfulness of your God.
Your feelings of hopelessness are real, but they are not the truth. **Jeremiah 29:11** declares, *"For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says Yahweh, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you hope and a future."* God has not abandoned you. The delay you are experiencing is not denial—it is preparation. Even in the wilderness, God was with Israel, shaping them for the Promised Land. Your "wilderness" is not wasted time; it is sacred ground where God is refining you, teaching you dependence on Him alone, and preparing you for what is to come.
You mentioned feeling trapped—no progress at work, no vision for ministry, no husband, and few friends. But let us ask you: Are you seeking God’s kingdom *first*, or are you allowing the desires of your heart to become idols? **Matthew 6:33** says, *"But seek first God’s Kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well."* Your longing for a husband is good, but it must not overshadow your devotion to Christ. A godly marriage is a blessing, but it is not the source of your fulfillment—only Jesus can satisfy the deepest longings of your soul. If you are not yet married, this season is an opportunity to grow in your relationship with the Lord, to serve Him wholeheartedly, and to prepare yourself to be a wife who honors Him. Pray for a godly husband, yes, but also pray that God would shape you into a woman after His own heart, content in Him alone.
As for your work, boredom and stagnation can be the Lord’s way of redirecting your focus. **Colossians 3:23-24** reminds us, *"Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of the inheritance; for you serve the Lord Christ."* If your current job feels meaningless, ask the Lord to renew your perspective. Perhaps He is teaching you perseverance, humility, or trust. Or perhaps He is preparing you for a new season—one you cannot yet see. Do not despise small beginnings (Zechariah 4:10). Even in the mundane, God is at work.
The lack of vision in ministry is also a place where God may be calling you to rest in Him. **Habakkuk 2:2-3** says, *"Write the vision, and make it plain on tablets, that he who runs may read it. For the vision is yet for the appointed time, and it hurries toward the end, and won’t prove false. Though it takes time, wait for it; because it will surely come. It won’t delay."* If you feel dry spiritually, draw near to the Lord in repentance, worship, and surrender. Ask Him to fill you afresh with His Spirit (Ephesians 5:18). Sometimes, the Lord allows us to feel empty so that we might seek Him more desperately. He is your vision, your strength, and your portion.
Lastly, we must address the pain of your pastor’s words. A shepherd of God’s flock should speak life, not mockery. **James 3:10** warns, *"Out of the same mouth comes blessing and cursing. My brothers, these things ought not to be so."* If your pastor is truly dismissing your struggles, we urge you to seek wise, godly counsel elsewhere—perhaps from a mature believer who can speak truth and encouragement into your life. You need spiritual leadership that reflects the heart of Christ, not one that adds to your burden.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our sister to You, the God who sees her in secret and knows the depths of her heart. Lord, she has labored faithfully—working, praying, and seeking You—and yet she feels forgotten, mocked, and trapped in stagnation. But You, O God, are not a man that You should lie. Your promises are true, and Your timing is perfect. We ask that You break the spirit of hopelessness and depression that has taken hold of her. Replace it with Your peace, Your joy, and a renewed vision for the future You have prepared for her.
Lord, we rebuke the words of mockery that have wounded her. Let her find her worth in You alone, not in the opinions of others. Surround her with godly friends who will encourage her, sharpen her, and point her to You. If her pastor has spoken carelessly, convict his heart and raise up leaders in her life who will shepherd her with Your love.
Father, she longs for a husband, for success, for purpose. We ask that You align her desires with Your will. If marriage is Your plan for her, prepare her now to be a wife who honors You, and bring a godly man into her life who will love her as Christ loves the church. If this season of singleness is for her sanctification, give her contentment and joy in You alone. Open doors for her at work—whether to find fulfillment where she is or to step into something new. Renew her passion for serving You, Lord. Fill her with Your Spirit and give her a fresh vision for how You want to use her.
Most of all, Father, draw her closer to Yourself. Let her find in You the satisfaction her soul craves. Remind her that You are her portion, her hope, and her future. Strengthen her to wait on You, to trust in Your timing, and to walk in obedience even when the path is unclear.
We pray all this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Redeemer. Amen.
Sister, do not give up. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). Keep seeking Him, keep praying, and keep walking in faith. Your labor in the Lord is not in vain (1 Corinthians 15:58). He is preparing something beautiful for you—something far greater than you can imagine. Trust Him, even in the waiting.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
