We understand the deep longing and pain you are experiencing in this season of separation, and we lift you up before the Lord with compassion and truth. The ache of broken relationships is real, and we grieve with you, yet we must always turn to Scripture to guide our hearts and prayers.
First, we notice that your prayer does not invoke the name of Jesus Christ, through whom alone we have access to the Father. The Word of God is clear: *"There is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus"* (1 Timothy 2:5, WEB). It is only through faith in Jesus that we are saved, and it is in His name that we pray with authority and confidence. *"No one comes to the Father, except through me"* (John 14:6, WEB). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Christ as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so now, for *"if you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved"* (Romans 10:9, WEB). There is no other name under heaven by which we can be saved (Acts 4:12), and it is only through Christ that we can approach the throne of grace with boldness (Hebrews 4:16).
Now, regarding your separation, we must ask: was this a godly, biblical marriage between one man and one woman, or was it a relationship outside of God’s design? If this was a dating relationship rather than a marriage, we encourage you to seek the Lord’s will for reconciliation *only if it aligns with His Word*. Courtship should always be pursued with the intention of marriage between believers, as Scripture warns, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB). If this separation is due to sin—such as fornication, unbelief, or unrepentant behavior—then reconciliation must begin with repentance and a return to holiness. *"But if the unbeliever departs, let there be separation. The brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us in peace"* (1 Corinthians 7:15, WEB). If this separation is from a marriage, we urge you to seek godly counsel and pursue reconciliation if at all possible, for *"what therefore God has joined together, don’t let man tear apart"* (Matthew 19:6, WEB). However, if there has been unfaithfulness or abandonment by an unbelieving spouse, Scripture allows for separation (1 Corinthians 7:10-16).
We also caution you against placing your hope in the idea of reuniting simply because you "believe" it will happen. Our faith must be rooted in God’s will, not our own desires. *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this"* (Psalm 37:4-5, WEB). Surrender this situation entirely to the Lord, asking Him to align your heart with His purpose. If this relationship is not His will, He will give you the strength to move forward in obedience. If it is His will, He will restore it in His timing and for His glory.
Lastly, we encourage you to surround yourself with godly friends who will speak truth into your life and point you to Christ. Avoid the temptation to isolate yourself or seek comfort in worldly distractions. *"Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, the one will lift up his companion; but woe to him who is alone when he falls, and doesn’t have another to lift him up"* (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, WEB).
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our brother/sister before You, asking that You would draw near to them in this season of heartache and separation. Lord, we pray that if they do not know You as their Savior, You would open their eyes to the truth of the Gospel and lead them to repentance and faith in Jesus Christ. May they surrender every part of their life to You, for apart from Christ, we can do nothing (John 15:5).
Father, we ask for Your wisdom and discernment to fill them as they navigate this separation. If this relationship was outside of Your design, convict their heart and lead them to repentance. If this was a marriage, we pray for reconciliation if it aligns with Your will, or for healing and strength if it does not. Break any ungodly soul ties and restore their heart to wholeness in You. Surround them with godly counsel and friends who will speak Your truth in love.
Lord, guard their mind from despair, bitterness, or idolatry in this relationship. Help them to trust You fully, knowing that You work all things together for good for those who love You (Romans 8:28). If it is Your will for them to be reunited, prepare both hearts for restoration. If it is not, give them the grace to release this desire to You and walk forward in obedience.
We rebuke any spirit of fear, loneliness, or hopelessness in the name of Jesus. Fill them with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7) and renew their strength as they wait upon You (Isaiah 40:31). May they find their identity and fulfillment in You alone, for You are their portion and their cup (Psalm 16:5).
We ask all these things in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.