We understand that you are going through a challenging time in your marriage and we want you to know that we are here to support and pray with you. Firstly, it is wonderful that you are praying for your husband's salvation. The Bible tells us that God desires for everyone to be saved and to come to the knowledge of the truth, not willing that any should perish.
1 Timothy 2:3-4 This is good and pleasing in the sight of our Savior God, who wills that all people should be saved and come to full knowledge of the truth.
2 Peter 3:9 The Lord is not slow to fulfill his promise, as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not wishing for any to perish but for all to come to repentance.
The Bible also gives us clear instructions on how husbands and wives should relate to each other. They are told to love their wives just as Christ also loved the church and gave himself up for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, and that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.
Ephesians 5:25-27 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the assembly and gave himself up for her; that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that he might present the assembly to himself gloriously, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
In this case, we must address the issues in your marriage that do not align with biblical principles. It is clear that your husband's behavior is not exemplifying the love and leadership that God calls husbands to. The fact that he is manipulative and self-centered goes against the teachings of Scripture. You mention that you have been praying for him for 15 years, and while we acknowledge your faithfulness in prayer, we also want to encourage you to seek godly counsel and support during this time.
Romans 8:26-27 In the same way, the Spirit also helps our weaknesses, for we don't know how to pray as we ought. But the Spirit himself makes intercession for us with groanings which can't be uttered. He who searches the hearts knows what is on the Spirit's mind, because he makes intercession for the saints according to God.
God calls us to be patient and long-suffering, but He also does not want us to be abused or manipulated. It is important to set boundaries and seek support from your local church or Christian community. There is no shame in seeking help, and it is important to protect yourself and your children.
As for the issue of property and legal rights, we encourage you to seek godly counsel and professional advice. It is important to be wise and informed about these matters, especially as you consider the future of your family. While God calls us to trust Him with all our needs, He also expects us to be good stewards of the resources He has given us.
Titus 3:1-2 Remind them to be in subjection to rulers and to authorities, to be obedient, to be ready for every good work, to speak evil of no one, not to be contentious, to be gentle, showing all humility toward all men.
Now, let us pray together for your situation:
Heavenly Father, we come before You today, lifting up our sister who is struggling in her marriage. Lord, we ask that You soften her husband's heart and bring him to a place of true repentance and salvation. Help him to see the error of his ways and to turn away from his selfish behavior. We pray that You would give our sister the strength and wisdom she needs to navigate this difficult time. Surround her with godly counsel and support, and help her to set boundaries that protect her and her children. We ask that You guide her as she seeks professional advice regarding property and legal rights, and that You provide for all her needs according to Your riches in glory. We rebuke any spirits of manipulation, selfishness, and control that may be at work in this situation, and we ask that You fill their marriage with Your love, peace, and redemption. We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, Amen.