We come before the Lord with heavy hearts, lifting up this painful situation to Him. Family should be a source of love, support, and encouragement, yet Scripture reminds us that even within families, there can be deep brokenness and conflict. Jesus Himself said, *"A man’s foes will be those of his own household"* (Matthew 10:36 WEB). This does not mean we accept cruelty or mistreatment, but it does remind us that our ultimate peace and identity are found in Christ, not in the approval of others.
First, we must examine our own hearts before the Lord. Are we responding to their provocation in ways that honor God? The Word warns us, *"If it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men"* (Romans 12:18 WEB). This does not mean we allow ourselves to be trampled, but we must guard against bitterness, retaliation, or sinful anger. *"Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you"* (Ephesians 4:31-32 WEB).
We rebuke the spirit of pride and judgment in this family. The Lord detests haughty eyes and a proud heart (Proverbs 6:16-17 WEB), and He calls us to humility. *"God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble"* (James 4:6 WEB). We pray that their hearts would be softened, that they would see their own need for Christ, and that the Holy Spirit would convict them of their sin.
Yet we also recognize that some wounds run deep, and there may be times when distance is necessary for your spiritual and emotional well-being. Jesus did not engage with every provocation, and at times, He withdrew from those who sought to harm Him (Luke 4:28-30 WEB). Seek wisdom from the Lord about how to navigate these relationships—whether through gentle confrontation, setting boundaries, or even limited contact if the toxicity is severe.
Above all, we declare that your worth is not defined by their words or treatment of you. You are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14 WEB), a child of the Most High God, and He calls you His beloved. *"The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit"* (Psalm 34:18 WEB). We pray that you would find your security in Christ, not in their approval.
Father God, we come before You with this burdened heart. We ask that You would shield this dear one from the arrows of cruelty and pride. Guard their heart from bitterness and anger, and fill them instead with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7 WEB). We pray for their family members—that Your Holy Spirit would soften their hearts, convict them of sin, and draw them to repentance. If it is Your will, restore these relationships, but if not, grant wisdom and strength to walk in a way that honors You. Remind them daily of their identity in Christ, that they are loved, chosen, and precious in Your sight. We ask this in the mighty name of Jesus, the One who was despised and rejected yet extended grace and truth. Amen.