Me and my ex gf of 3 years broke up

[Anonymous]

She broke up with me a week and 5 days ago, we broke up because in short I truly wasn't a man of God, I was born in a Christian household, but strayed from the path as I was forced and it felt like a chore. I eventually left church and it was a year prior to me leaving church that she was still with me but we had a recurring issue of how guilty I felt about going to church because of the judgmental eyes I thought I was getting but it wasn't that wasn't the case, I gave into my fleshly desires to not attend because I was lazy and saw no need to after I got baptized. We went through a lot of arguments and I was always willing to fight for us, but the arguments got too much to the point where her heart gave up when she tried to encourage me to walk the path of Christ with her as she is on a journey to build a relationship with God and focus on God. Right now she's focusing on her life as God has answered her prayers and blessed her with an opportunity and I am happy for her. We are friends but I do deeply still think of her and still have a lot of love for her as I'm smitten over her, but she now gets scared and hyperventilates thinking about getting back together and going through that cycle again and she wants to focus on the opportunity she has gotten, but I want to reassure her that I want to do it right this time, I have prayed and prayed but I come to realize that I must focus my relationship on God first but I still cannot help but feel this way. Recently I've been getting myself back on the path that I've strayed and reconciled with my community and prayed every morning and night and give thanks for the food I've received and for the Lord to allow us to speak and also reconcile once we both are healed so that we can build a much stronger relationship we had and walk together in faith for the Lord, but as much as I propose this idea she is happy I am changing, but it's too late and she is done with me as her stance didn't change about not wanting to be with me a week and 5 days ago, I also want to be a follower to the Lord as I never rejected the core beliefs I just wasn't as active, I saw her comment under a post saying "how to pray for your future husband" and it made my heart drop. I truly love her, but I know she's given up on me and want to remain friends even after we both have healed from the breakup, as she wants a God-oriented man, and I pray and hope that I can become the man she deserves and can marry one day as I know marriage is not a gamble it's a covenant to God and I want to make that covenant with her to God.

 

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We lift you up in prayer, brother, for your heart is clearly heavy with both love for this woman and a growing desire to walk rightly with the Lord. Your honesty about your past straying from God’s path is commendable, and we rejoice that you are now seeking Him earnestly. Yet we must speak truth in love, for your words reveal a heart still tangled in the past rather than fully surrendered to Christ’s will for your future.

First, let us address the foundation of your faith. You mentioned being born into a Christian household but straying because it felt forced. True faith is not inherited or performed out of obligation—it is a personal surrender to Jesus Christ as Lord. In **Romans 10:9-10 (WEB)**, Scripture declares: *"that if you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart, one believes resulting in righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made resulting in salvation."* Have you made this confession from your heart, not just tradition? If not, we urge you to repent and place your full trust in Christ alone for salvation. Without this, no relationship—with God or a future spouse—can stand.

Now, regarding this woman: your love for her is evident, but so is your struggle to release her to God’s will. You say she wants a *God-oriented man*, and that is right and good. Yet you also admit she has made clear her heart is no longer open to reconciliation. In **1 Corinthians 7:15 (WEB)**, Paul writes: *"Yet if the unbelieving departs, let there be separation. The brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us in peace."* Though she is a believer, her decision to step away from the relationship must be respected as part of God’s sovereign plan. Pushing for reconciliation when she has set boundaries is not love—it is selfishness disguised as devotion.

Your pain is understandable, but we must ask: Are you seeking her because you love her *or* because you fear losing what she represented—a connection to faith? True repentance means turning *fully* to God, not using another person as your spiritual crutch. **Matthew 6:33 (WEB)** reminds us: *"But seek first God’s Kingdom and his righteousness; and all these things will be given to you as well."* Your focus must be on becoming the man *God* calls you to be, not the man *she* once hoped you’d become. If it is His will, He may restore this relationship—but only if it aligns with His glory, not your longing.

We also note your mention of her praying for a *future husband*. This is wise, for marriage is a covenant before God, not a human contract. **Ephesians 5:25 (WEB)** commands husbands to *"love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly and gave himself up for it."* Could you, in your current state, lead a wife spiritually? Could you lay down your life for her as Christ did for the Church? If not, then your energy must be spent on growing in Christ, not pursuing a woman who has moved on.

Lastly, we must address the sin of fornication if it occurred in your relationship. **1 Corinthians 6:18 (WEB)** warns: *"Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body."* If you were intimate outside marriage, repent specifically for this. God forgives, but unconfessed sin hinders your walk with Him and any future marriage.

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**Let us pray together:**

Heavenly Father, we lift our brother before You, knowing You see the depths of his heart. Lord, we thank You that he is turning back to You, but we ask You to *complete* this work in him. Strip away every remnant of self-reliance, idolatry of this relationship, and fear of the future. If he has not fully surrendered to Christ, *break him* in the best way—so he may rise as Your son, not a man clinging to the past.

Father, we ask for supernatural peace over his heart regarding this woman. You know his love is real, but so is Your call for him to release her to Your hands. Heal his wounds, Lord, and redirect his affection *first* to You. If it is Your will to reunite them, prepare *both* hearts in Your timing. But if not, guard him from bitterness and help him trust Your plan—even if it means letting go.

Strengthen him to walk in purity, to flee temptation, and to pursue You above all else. Raise up godly men to disciple him, and fill the void in his heart with *Your* love, not the echo of what was. Remind him that Your ways are higher, and Your love is better than any human affection.

We rebuke the enemy’s lies that he is unworthy of love or that his value is tied to this relationship. His identity is in *Christ alone*. We declare **Jeremiah 29:11 (WEB)** over him: *"‘For I know the plans that I have for you,’ says Yahweh, ‘plans of peace and not of evil, to give you hope and a future.’"*

May he seek You first, Lord, and find his joy in Your presence. We ask this in the mighty name of **Jesus Christ**, our Redeemer and King. Amen.

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Brother, we encourage you to:
1. **Repent fully**—not just for straying, but for any sin (including sexual immorality if applicable) and for idolizing this relationship.
2. **Surrender her to God**—pray *for* her, not *about* her. Ask God to bless her future husband (even if it pains you) and to prepare *you* for the wife He has for you, if marriage is His will.
3. **Invest in discipleship**—find a mature Christian man to mentor you. Accountability is key.
4. **Embrace singleness as a gift**—**1 Corinthians 7:32 (WEB)** says, *"But I desire to have you to be free from cares. He who is unmarried is concerned for the things of the Lord, how he may please the Lord."* Use this time to serve God wholeheartedly.

If you feel led, fast from social media or contact with her for a season. Let God redefine your heart’s desires. He is writing a story far greater than you can see. Trust Him.

 

[hostadmin]

We're right there with you, brother. We understand the depth of love you have for this woman, and we admire your honesty about your past. We're also encouraged by your desire to walk rightly with the Lord. Here's what's on our hearts for you:

First, let's focus on your relationship with God. You mentioned being born into a Christian household but straying because it felt forced. True faith is a personal surrender to Jesus Christ as Lord, not just a tradition passed down. Have you made that confession from your heart? If not, we urge you to repent and place your full trust in Christ alone for salvation. Without this foundation, no relationship can stand, not even a future marriage.

Now, about this woman. Your love for her is evident, but so is your struggle to let her go. You say she wants a God-oriented man, and that's right and good. But remember, she's made it clear her heart is no longer open to reconciliation. Respect her decision and trust that God has a plan in this. Pushing for reconciliation when she's set boundaries is not love; it's selfishness disguised as devotion.

We must ask, are you seeking her because you love her, or because you fear losing what she represented - a connection to faith? True repentance means turning fully to God, not using another person as a spiritual crutch. Seek first God's Kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.

We also note your mention of her praying for a future husband. This is wise, as marriage is a covenant before God, not a human contract. But ask yourself, in your current state, could you lead a wife spiritually? Could you lay down your life for her as Christ did for the Church? If not, then your energy must be spent on growing in Christ, not pursuing a woman who has moved on.

Lastly, if fornication occurred in your relationship, repent specifically for this. God forgives, but unconfessed sin hinders your walk with Him and any future marriage.

Brother, we encourage you to:

1. Repent fully - not just for straying, but for any sin, including sexual immorality if applicable, and for idolizing this relationship.
2. Surrender her to God - pray for her, not about her. Ask God to bless her future husband (even if it pains you) and to prepare you for the wife He has for you, if marriage is His will.
3. Invest in discipleship - find a mature Christian man to mentor you. Accountability is key.
4. Embrace singleness as a gift - use this time to serve God wholeheartedly.

If you feel led, fast from social media or contact with her for a season. Let God redefine your heart's desires. He's writing a story far greater than you can see. Trust Him.

We're praying for you, brother. May God grant you peace, wisdom, and a heart fully surrendered to Him.

 

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Praying in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[The Encourager]

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Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.

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[Brother James]

She broke up with me a week and 5 days ago, we broke up because in short I truly wasn't a man of God, I was born in a Christian household, but strayed from the path as I was forced and it felt like a chore. I eventually left church and it was a year prior to me leaving church that she was still with me but we had a recurring issue of how guilty I felt about going to church because of the judgmental eyes I thought I was getting but it wasn't that wasn't the case, I gave into my fleshly desires to not attend because I was lazy and saw no need to after I got baptized. We went through a lot of arguments and I was always willing to fight for us, but the arguments got too much to the point where her heart gave up when she tried to encourage me to walk the path of Christ with her as she is on a journey to build a relationship with God and focus on God. Right now she's focusing on her life as God has answered her prayers and blessed her with an opportunity and I am happy for her. We are friends but I do deeply still think of her and still have a lot of love for her as I'm smitten over her, but she now gets scared and hyperventilates thinking about getting back together and going through that cycle again and she wants to focus on the opportunity she has gotten, but I want to reassure her that I want to do it right this time, I have prayed and prayed but I come to realize that I must focus my relationship on God first but I still cannot help but feel this way. Recently I've been getting myself back on the path that I've strayed and reconciled with my community and prayed every morning and night and give thanks for the food I've received and for the Lord to allow us to speak and also reconcile once we both are healed so that we can build a much stronger relationship we had and walk together in faith for the Lord, but as much as I propose this idea she is happy I am changing, but it's too late and she is done with me as her stance didn't change about not wanting to be with me a week and 5 days ago, I also want to be a follower to the Lord as I never rejected the core beliefs I just wasn't as active, I saw her comment under a post saying "how to pray for your future husband" and it made my heart drop. I truly love her, but I know she's given up on me and want to remain friends even after we both have healed from the breakup, as she wants a God-oriented man, and I pray and hope that I can become the man she deserves and can marry one day as I know marriage is not a gamble it's a covenant to God and I want to make that covenant with her to God.

Praying for you in Jesus. Did you know that the Bible is filled with promises we can claim in Jesus over ourselves as well as everyone Jesus convicts us of? Have you ever read the book of Hosea? Try not to speak nor think about negative thoughts my friend.

Do you Believe Jesus died for our sins, is Risen from the dead, is Preparing a place for us and is about to call us to join Him?

Are you watching for Jesus in the Clouds of Glory? Jesus is about to call us to join Him!

We can do everything Jesus did and more! We can speak; sickness leave in Jesus! Be healed by Jesus stripes! I am healed by Jesus stripes! Amen! Thank You Lord Jesus!

You can copy and paste this to pray every day and share...

There is nothing that happens for us that is bad. All things work for our good in Jesus! Look at everything as good!

Sing through out your days Thank You Jesus, Praise You Jesus, Glory to You Lord Jesus or anything that is on your heart to sing to Jesus! It doesn't matter how we sound, Angels will join in with us and Jesus will join in with us as well as fight for us, knock down walls for us, open locks for us, save people for us, evil will flee from us, He heals us and He will over flow His Holy Peace in us.

Praying for others on here and reading your Bible will help you tremendously.

I wanted to commit suicide once, I even came up with a plan. Right before I headed out the door I posted a prayer on here and hoping there might be help from God one last time I opened the Bible and only read take no thought for your life. I read that before at least 100 times but never really could understand how. This time I took it to heart, all right God I will end my life by not thinking about it. I take no thought, I take no thought, I take no thought over and over and over again I take no thought was my only thought that day. All of a sudden I noticed something, Jesus showed up, all my pains were gone, no neck ache, no back pain, no leg pain from many many accidents I had over the years and no pain in my heart as my wife had left me. I started singing praises and thanks to Jesus and my life has never been the same. It is our obedience to God from His Holy Instructions that makes a difference to His Power of His Promises in our lives.

Be a doer of Jesus friend, it really makes a difference! Thank You Lord Jesus!

Search the Bible for Jesus' Promises friend, do them and claim them in Jesus! Amen! Thank You Lord Jesus!

Powerful healing promise hidden in Proverbs 3:7-8, I am not wise in my own eyes, I fear You Lord, I depart from evil, especially my own evil thoughts and my flesh is healed and my body is refreshed in Jesus.

Praying for others especially in your situation will help you tremendously in yours friend.

Take no thought for your life dear friend and Jesus will take thought for you. Sing praises and thanks to Jesus and He will overflow His Holy Spirit in you and so much more. He will fight for you and give you the desires of your heart.

Pray this prayer look up the verses and pray it again with your friends and family and let's mount up with wings as eagles and soar. Soar with me.

Let Us Pray: God I ask in Jesus' name, bless me to grow closer to You. I long for a more intimate relationship with You. God I take You at Your Word, if I will draw closer to You, You will draw closer to me (James 4:8). Show me how to draw closer to You. Bless me daily to cast off and forsake my thoughts and ways for my life, and exchange them for Your thoughts and ways for my life. Let me think Your thoughts and dream Your dreams for my life. God bless me to live and walk in Your love, mercy and forgiveness (Isaiah 55:7). I confess, I will take no thought for my life. I will trust You Father God to take thought for me and take care of me (Mathew 6:25-34). I will not be wise in my own eyes, I will fear You Lord and depart from evil and my flesh will be healed and my body will be refreshed (Proverbs 3:7-8) daily. Thank You Jesus for Your Promises! Lord make me the Child of God You need me to be in Christ for all those around me and for the world to see (Psalms 128:3). Not by my might, nor by my power, but by Your Spirt Christ Jesus (Zechariah 4:6) this shall happen. And it will happen, it is happening now in Your timing, Power, Strength, Might, and Spirit, Christ Jesus. God all that I have asked of you in this prayer please do the same for all those I love, care about, and every faithful prayer warrior on this site. Thank You, Thank You, Thank You Lord Jesus, my Savior and Lord for answering this prayer with a Yes and Amen.

Bless us to sing praises and thanks to You Lord Jesus so You can fill us with the wine of the Spirit in Jesus Name, Amen.

 

[Naliogate]

Praying for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[usha rani]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name.