Maybe this year is about my heart.
We hear the longing in your words and the battle within your heart. The pull toward an ex can feel overwhelming, especially when emotions linger or wounds remain unhealed. But we must ask—what is truly driving this urge? Is it loneliness, unfinished business, or perhaps a misplaced hope that this person can fill a void only God was meant to fill? Scripture warns us, *"Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it"* (Proverbs 4:23 WEB). Your heart is precious, and it must be protected, not just from others, but from the deceptions of your own flesh.
The Bible is clear about the dangers of revisiting past relationships that God has closed. *"Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14 WEB). Even if your ex shares your faith, if the relationship ended, there was likely a reason—perhaps one that aligns with God’s wisdom, not just your emotions. Clinging to what was can blind you to what God is trying to do in your life now. *"Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing!"* (Isaiah 43:18-19 WEB). God’s plans for you are good, but they require trust and obedience, even when it hurts.
We must also address the reality of temptation here. Texting your ex may seem harmless, but it can open doors to sin—emotional, physical, or spiritual. *"Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body"* (1 Corinthians 6:18 WEB). Even if the relationship was not physical, emotional intimacy outside of marriage can be just as damaging. The enemy would love nothing more than to entangle you in old patterns, keeping you from the future God has for you. *"No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it"* (1 Corinthians 10:13 WEB). The "way out" may be as simple as deleting their number, blocking them, or reaching out to a trusted believer when the urge strikes.
And let us not forget—where is Jesus in this struggle? Have you surrendered this longing to Him? Have you asked Him to fill the empty spaces in your heart? *"Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest"* (Matthew 11:28 WEB). Only He can satisfy the deepest needs of your soul. If you are not rooted in His love, you will keep searching for it in broken cisterns that can hold no water (Jeremiah 2:13). We urge you to spend time in His presence, not just in prayer, but in worship, in the Word, and in fellowship with believers who can encourage you. *"Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful. And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds"* (Hebrews 10:23-24 WEB).
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our sister/brother who is wrestling with the urge to reach out to their ex. Lord, You see the ache in their heart, the loneliness, the fear of the unknown. But we know that You are the God who heals, the God who restores, and the God who makes all things new. We ask that You would break the chains of this past relationship, Lord. Uproot any idols in their heart that have taken Your place. Fill them with Your peace, Your presence, and Your purpose.
Father, we pray for strength to resist temptation. When the urge comes—and we know it will—remind them of Your faithfulness. Give them the wisdom to flee, the courage to delete, and the trust to believe that You have something better. Surround them with godly friends who will hold them accountable and speak truth into their life. Heal their heart, Lord. Mend what is broken and replace the ashes of this past relationship with the beauty of Your plan.
And Father, if this ex is not the one You have for them, we pray for clarity and conviction. Let them not settle for less than Your best. If this person is not a believer, we pray for their salvation, but we also pray for boundaries to be set in the name of Jesus. If this relationship ended for reasons that dishonored You, we ask that You would convict and bring repentance where it is needed.
Lord, we declare that this year *is* about their heart—but not in the way the world defines it. This year is about their heart being fully Yours. Teach them to delight in You, and You will give them the desires of their heart (Psalm 37:4). Open their eyes to the new things You are doing. Let them walk in freedom, in hope, and in the joy of Your salvation.
We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the name above every name, the One who died to set us free and rose again to give us new life. May Your will be done in their life, Lord, and may they find their satisfaction in You alone. Amen.
The Bible is clear about the dangers of revisiting past relationships that God has closed. *"Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14 WEB). Even if your ex shares your faith, if the relationship ended, there was likely a reason—perhaps one that aligns with God’s wisdom, not just your emotions. Clinging to what was can blind you to what God is trying to do in your life now. *"Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing!"* (Isaiah 43:18-19 WEB). God’s plans for you are good, but they require trust and obedience, even when it hurts.
We must also address the reality of temptation here. Texting your ex may seem harmless, but it can open doors to sin—emotional, physical, or spiritual. *"Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body"* (1 Corinthians 6:18 WEB). Even if the relationship was not physical, emotional intimacy outside of marriage can be just as damaging. The enemy would love nothing more than to entangle you in old patterns, keeping you from the future God has for you. *"No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it"* (1 Corinthians 10:13 WEB). The "way out" may be as simple as deleting their number, blocking them, or reaching out to a trusted believer when the urge strikes.
And let us not forget—where is Jesus in this struggle? Have you surrendered this longing to Him? Have you asked Him to fill the empty spaces in your heart? *"Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest"* (Matthew 11:28 WEB). Only He can satisfy the deepest needs of your soul. If you are not rooted in His love, you will keep searching for it in broken cisterns that can hold no water (Jeremiah 2:13). We urge you to spend time in His presence, not just in prayer, but in worship, in the Word, and in fellowship with believers who can encourage you. *"Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful. And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds"* (Hebrews 10:23-24 WEB).
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our sister/brother who is wrestling with the urge to reach out to their ex. Lord, You see the ache in their heart, the loneliness, the fear of the unknown. But we know that You are the God who heals, the God who restores, and the God who makes all things new. We ask that You would break the chains of this past relationship, Lord. Uproot any idols in their heart that have taken Your place. Fill them with Your peace, Your presence, and Your purpose.
Father, we pray for strength to resist temptation. When the urge comes—and we know it will—remind them of Your faithfulness. Give them the wisdom to flee, the courage to delete, and the trust to believe that You have something better. Surround them with godly friends who will hold them accountable and speak truth into their life. Heal their heart, Lord. Mend what is broken and replace the ashes of this past relationship with the beauty of Your plan.
And Father, if this ex is not the one You have for them, we pray for clarity and conviction. Let them not settle for less than Your best. If this person is not a believer, we pray for their salvation, but we also pray for boundaries to be set in the name of Jesus. If this relationship ended for reasons that dishonored You, we ask that You would convict and bring repentance where it is needed.
Lord, we declare that this year *is* about their heart—but not in the way the world defines it. This year is about their heart being fully Yours. Teach them to delight in You, and You will give them the desires of their heart (Psalm 37:4). Open their eyes to the new things You are doing. Let them walk in freedom, in hope, and in the joy of Your salvation.
We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the name above every name, the One who died to set us free and rose again to give us new life. May Your will be done in their life, Lord, and may they find their satisfaction in You alone. Amen.
We're here with you, friend, as you grapple with this tug towards your ex. It's like there's a part of you that's still stuck in the past, and it's hard to let go, isn't it? We understand. It's not easy to move on, especially when there are still unhealed wounds or lingering questions.
But let's remember, God has a plan for us, a good plan (Jeremiah 29:11). Sometimes, that plan involves closing doors that we want to keep open. It's like He's saying, "Trust me, there's something better ahead."
We've been there too, you know, feeling that urge to reach out, to revisit what's already been closed. But we've learned that it's like trying to fit a square peg into a round hole. It just doesn't work. God wants us to move forward, not backward.
So, what if this year was about not just your heart, but God's heart for you? What if this year was about letting Him heal those wounds, fill those voids, and guide you towards the future He has planned?
We're not saying it's easy. It's going to take courage, trust, and maybe even some tough decisions. But remember, God is faithful. He won't let you face this alone. He's right there with you, every step of the way.
Let's pray together, shall we?
Dear Lord, we come before You today, laying down our struggles, our fears, and our hopes. We ask for Your healing touch on our friend's heart. Help them to let go of the past, to trust in Your plan, and to find their joy in You.
Give them the strength to resist temptation, the courage to make tough decisions, and the wisdom to know when to walk away. Surround them with godly friends who will encourage and support them on this journey.
Lord, if this ex is not the one You have for them, give them clarity and conviction. Help them to wait for Your best, not just what feels good right now. And if this relationship ended because of sin, bring conviction and repentance where it's needed.
We declare that this year is about our friend's heart being fully Yours, Lord. Help them to delight in You, and You will give them the desires of their heart. Open their eyes to the new things You're doing, and let them walk in freedom, hope, and joy.
We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, Amen.
But let's remember, God has a plan for us, a good plan (Jeremiah 29:11). Sometimes, that plan involves closing doors that we want to keep open. It's like He's saying, "Trust me, there's something better ahead."
We've been there too, you know, feeling that urge to reach out, to revisit what's already been closed. But we've learned that it's like trying to fit a square peg into a round hole. It just doesn't work. God wants us to move forward, not backward.
So, what if this year was about not just your heart, but God's heart for you? What if this year was about letting Him heal those wounds, fill those voids, and guide you towards the future He has planned?
We're not saying it's easy. It's going to take courage, trust, and maybe even some tough decisions. But remember, God is faithful. He won't let you face this alone. He's right there with you, every step of the way.
Let's pray together, shall we?
Dear Lord, we come before You today, laying down our struggles, our fears, and our hopes. We ask for Your healing touch on our friend's heart. Help them to let go of the past, to trust in Your plan, and to find their joy in You.
Give them the strength to resist temptation, the courage to make tough decisions, and the wisdom to know when to walk away. Surround them with godly friends who will encourage and support them on this journey.
Lord, if this ex is not the one You have for them, give them clarity and conviction. Help them to wait for Your best, not just what feels good right now. And if this relationship ended because of sin, bring conviction and repentance where it's needed.
We declare that this year is about our friend's heart being fully Yours, Lord. Help them to delight in You, and You will give them the desires of their heart. Open their eyes to the new things You're doing, and let them walk in freedom, hope, and joy.
We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, Amen.
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