Martial problems

[Hiassorrath]

Please pray for my husband and I we are currently living apart due to no one accepting us a a couple. He went to his moms and I went to a friends home. I recently started working and we had a agreement that he would help me get to work and back until I got a paycheck my husband has been so selfish with me for the last past two weeks without giving me any money to get back and forth to work. I feel like the devil is trying to get me down and make me lose my job the one I’ve been praying for a year now and God has blessed me with this job and now it’s hard for me to get there the person I trusted the most let me down. He wonders why I kind of stop talking because of how I’m being treated unfair when I bring up issues that need to be resolved he turns then back on me like it was my fault. I have endured so much of betrayal and pain from him and his family. I’m really messed up in my head to where I want to forgive but I can’t I’m stuck at forgiving them especially my husband because I trusted him I was there for him through a lot but I’m not getting that from him when I need him the most. He makes up excuses to not help me he shifts the blame so he doesn’t have to help me this is the second week in a row he has done this to me. I’m so hurt and confused. Please pray that I find it in my heart to forgive and he finds it in his heart to help his wife. Thank you. In Jesus name I pray Amen.

 

[Articles]

We hear your heavy heart and we join with you in prayer over your marriage and this difficult season of being apart and feeling unsupported. We know God ordained marriage as a lifelong covenant between a man and a woman and what God has joined together, let no man separate, Mark 10:9. Even when housing and circumstances force you to live apart, His desire is for unity, love, and faithfulness between husband and wife, and we pray with you that He will make a way for you to be established together again in a home that honors Him.

We understand how painful it is to finally receive the job you prayed for over a year and then feel that the enemy is trying to steal that blessing by making it hard for you to even get to work. We agree that the devil does seek to discourage and divide, but we are called to put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil, Ephesians 6:11, and to not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good, Romans 12:21. God has blessed you with this work and He is faithful to provide for you to keep it, for our God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus, Philippians 4:19. We pray He opens doors for reliable transportation and provision even when people fail you.

We must speak honestly about what you have shared concerning your husband. Scripture is clear that husbands are to love their wives even as Christ also loved the assembly and gave himself up for it, Ephesians 5:25, and to love their wives as their own bodies, Ephesians 5:28. A husband is also called to provide for his own household, for if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially his own household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever, 1 Timothy 5:8. When he made an agreement to help you get to work until you received a paycheck and then withheld help, made excuses, and shifted blame onto you, that is not loving or Christlike leadership. We gently but firmly rebuke that selfishness and blame-shifting, and we pray that the Lord convicts his heart, softens it, and leads him to repentance, to humility, and to actively cherishing and supporting you as his wife. It is also not right to turn your honest concerns back on you as if they were your fault. We encourage you both to not let the sun go down on your wrath, Ephesians 4:26, but to speak the truth in love, Ephesians 4:15, listening to one another and bearing with one another in love.

We also hear how deeply betrayal and pain from him and his family have wounded you, and how you feel stuck between wanting to forgive and not being able to. Your hurt is valid and the Lord sees it, for Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit, Psalm 34:18. Yet God calls us to forgive even when it is hard, and be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you, Ephesians 4:32. Forgiveness as taught in Colossians 3:13 is not saying the hurt did not matter or that you must ignore ongoing wrongdoing, but it is releasing the debt to God and choosing to not hold bitterness, so that you can be free and healed, trusting God to be the just judge and to work change in your husband. Withdrawing and stopping talking is understandable when you feel treated unfairly, but we encourage you to bring your pain to the Lord first and then to your husband with calm, clear words, seeking godly counsel together, perhaps from a pastor or mature believing couple who can mediate with biblical wisdom.

We thank you for praying in the name of Jesus, for it is only through Him that we have access to the Father and it is in His name that reconciliation and healing come. We will continue to seek Him with you.

We pray together for you now. Heavenly Father, we lift this precious marriage to You in the name of Jesus Christ. Lord, You see this wife's tears, her confusion, her hurt, and her desire to do what is right. Comfort her broken heart, guard her mind with Your peace that surpasses all understanding, Philippians 4:7, and strengthen her to walk in forgiveness as You have forgiven us. Provide for her daily needs, protect the job You have given her, and make a way for her to get to and from work reliably. Convict her husband's heart, Father, turn him from selfishness and excuses, teach him to love his wife sacrificially, to keep his promises, and to be a man of integrity who provides and protects. Heal the pattern of blame and help them both to communicate with grace and truth. Rebuke the work of the enemy that seeks to divide them and cause her to lose hope, and restore unity, trust, and love between them. Provide a place where they can live together again in peace and honor You in their marriage. Give them both humble hearts to seek You first, to forgive, and to be reconciled. We ask all this in the mighty name of Jesus, Amen.

 

[hostadmin]

We were so moved by your note. After praying for a year for this job and finally being blessed with it, to now worry every day about how you will get there, and to feel let down by your husband when you counted on him most, would leave anyone hurt and confused. Living apart while you are both under strain only makes it heavier.

Wanting to forgive and yet feeling stuck does not mean you are doing something wrong. It can help to know that forgiveness often happens in two layers. One is a quiet decision to let go of trying to get even or holding the debt over someone. The other is the slower softening of the heart, where resentment and anger gradually ease and are replaced by more peace. That second part takes time and is different from rebuilding trust in the relationship, which needs consistent actions over time.

For the immediate pressure of getting to work, it may help to build a backup plan that does not rest only on your husband, even as you continue to invite his help. Is there a trusted friend, someone at church, or a coworker you could ask about a reliable ride for these first weeks until your paycheck is steady? Having another option can protect the job you prayed so hard for and take some of the daily tension out of things between you and your husband. When you do talk with him, trying to keep it to one clear request at a calm moment can sometimes keep it from turning into blame.

Father, we lift this wife and her husband to You. You see her hurt, her weariness, and her sincere desire to forgive. Provide for her daily needs and her way to work, give them both wisdom and honesty in how they speak to each other, and bring healing to her heart day by day as she walks this out. Lead them toward care and responsibility for one another. In Jesus' name, amen.

 

[Azoirpaertown]

Praying for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Reborn12345]

Praying for your request and you

Psalm 100:4
4 Enter into his gates with thanksgiving, and into his courts with praise: be thankful unto him, and his name.
Mathew 5:44
But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you
1 Peter 4:8
Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.
Luke 10:27
He answered, Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind'; and, 'Love your neighbor as yourself.
Mathew 7:1-3
7 Judge not, that ye be not judged.
2 For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.
3 And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?
Isaiah 54:17a
No weapon formed against you shall prosper
Mathew 18:20
20 For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.

 

[Violetblue]

Praying for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Spurgeon]

There is a heaviness in your words that has been felt by those who have read them, and your sorrow has not been overlooked. To be joined in the covenant of marriage and yet to be parted in dwelling, to have prayed for a year for honest labour and then to find the very means of reaching that labour withheld by the one who vowed before God to cherish and provide for you, is a bitter trial. That you should feel betrayed, confused and wearied in spirit is not strange, and that the adversary should seek to use this season to cast you down is according to his cruel craft.

Yet hear what the Word of God declares for such an hour as this, There is forgiveness with thee, that thou mayest be feared. This is the first and chief mercy to be sought. Before healing, before the mending of any earthly breach, there must be forgiveness between your soul and God through Jesus Christ. As one has said, believe in the forgiveness of sins for yourself. The Gospel comes to every repenting and believing sinner with absolute forgiveness. The record of debt is nailed to the Cross, and the gifts and calling of God are without repentance. He who said, Man, thy sins are forgiven thee, speaks the same today. If you have come with a penitent heart desiring pardon, know that it is a divine forgiveness, I, even I, am he that blotteth out thy transgressions, surprising in its freeness, complete in its reach, and eternal in its keeping. Whatever your past has been, there is forgiveness with God through the blood of His Son, and it is to be had now, at this moment, by faith in Christ alone who died, the Just for the unjust, that He might bring us to God.

From that fountain of forgiveness received, flows the power to forgive as you have been forgiven. We are taught to be forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven us. It is a joint work of mutual forgiveness among those who have themselves been so largely forgiven. You say you are stuck and cannot find it in your heart to forgive your husband and those who have wounded you. This is an honest confession of the hardness of the heart when it has been sorely tried. Forgiveness in such a case is not a feeling that rises of itself, but an act of obedience wrought in us by grace, because we have first been forgiven so great a debt. To forgive does not declare that the wrong was light, nor does it remove the need for truth and repentance in the one who has done the wrong. But it releases your soul from the prison of bitterness and places the matter in the hands of Him who judges righteously. As you daily receive forgiveness from Christ, you are enabled daily to extend it.

Concerning your husband, the Scripture lays a solemn charge upon him. Marriage is a lifelong covenant of one man and one woman, ordained of God, and the husband is called to love his wife even as Christ loved the church, to nourish and cherish her, to provide and to bear with her in tenderness. To shift blame, to make excuses, and to withhold help from his own wife when she has trusted him for the very means to keep the provision God has given, is to forsake that holy duty. It is right that you should feel this to be unfair, for it is. We will pray that the Lord will work in his heart a godly sorrow and a turning, that he will own his fault and again take up his vow to help and honour you. And we will pray that you may be kept from despair while you wait upon the Lord, that He who has opened the door of employment will also make a way for you to walk through it, and that He will guard your mind and heart with His healing leaves, for the least thing about Christ is healing to the wounded spirit.

Let us pray for you now.

O Lord our God, with whom there is forgiveness, look in mercy upon this daughter who is cast down and perplexed. Wash her in the precious blood of Christ and give her the sure assurance that her sins are forgiven and her debt is blotted out. Heal her wound of betrayal and lift the confusion from her mind. Grant her grace to forgive even as she has been forgiven, not in her own strength but by the power of Thy Spirit. Convict her husband of his neglect and selfishness, turn his heart to love his wife as Thou hast commanded, and make him faithful to his promise to help her. Provide for her daily bread and for her going out and coming in, keep the work which Thou hast graciously given her, and make a way where no way appears. Bring them again to dwell together in peace as becometh a Christian household, and let their marriage be a testimony to Thy keeping power. Keep them both from the snares of the evil one and draw them nearer to Christ, in whose name alone is salvation. Amen.

 

[The Encourager]

May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. God is so in love with you. Be Encouraged!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, wisdom, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. God, bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to know You, the way You want me to know You. So that I will trust You with my life and anyway that You move in my life. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, lean not to my own understanding, acknowledge You in all my ways, and allow You to direct my footsteps and actions. Bless me with knowledge, wisdom, and understanding in all You have called me to do.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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[usha rani]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[Jonathan_M]

Praying for this in Jesus Name. Amen.