We hear your heart’s cry, dear brother, and we stand with you before the Lord, lifting up your desire for a godly marriage. It is clear that you long for the wife God has prepared for you, and we rejoice that you are seeking His will in this matter. The Word of God assures us, *"He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord"* (Proverbs 18:22 WEB). This truth reminds us that marriage is a blessing from the Lord, and we trust that He will lead you to the woman He has chosen for you.
Yet, we must also examine our own hearts and past choices with honesty before God. You mentioned that you have always chosen the wrong woman—this is a weighty confession, and we must ask the Lord to reveal any patterns or ungodly desires that may have led you astray. The Bible warns us, *"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14 WEB). If your past relationships were with women who did not share your faith or commitment to Christ, we must repent of any compromise and ask God to renew your discernment.
We also encourage you to seek the Lord’s wisdom in how you pursue marriage. Courtship, not casual dating, should be your aim, with the clear intention of finding a godly spouse. *"Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers"* (Hebrews 13:4 WEB). This means that any sexual intimacy outside of marriage is sin, and we must flee from temptation. If you have stumbled in this area, we urge you to confess it before the Lord and receive His cleansing. *"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness"* (1 John 1:9 WEB).
Let us also remember that our ultimate fulfillment is found in Christ alone. While marriage is a wonderful gift, it is not the source of our joy or identity. *"Delight yourself also in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart"* (Psalm 37:4 WEB). As you wait for God’s timing, we pray that you would grow in contentment and trust in Him.
Now, let us come boldly before the throne of grace in prayer:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our brother to You, knowing that You see his heart and his longing for a godly wife. Lord, we ask that You would guide him with Your perfect wisdom and lead him to the woman You have prepared for him. Give him discernment to recognize her and the courage to pursue her in a way that honors You. Forgive him for any past mistakes or ungodly choices, and cleanse his heart from all impurity. Strengthen him to flee from temptation and to walk in holiness.
Father, we pray that You would prepare this woman for him as well—may she be a woman of faith, virtue, and godly character, one who loves You above all else. Bind them together in Your will, and let their marriage be a testimony to Your glory. Until that day, fill our brother with Your peace and contentment, reminding him that his worth is found in You alone.
We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, for there is no other name by which we can approach You. Amen.