We grieve with you over the pain and brokenness this is causing in your marriage. Drunkenness is a sin that the Bible clearly condemns, and it is destroying the intimacy and holiness God intends for your union. Ephesians 5:18 warns, *"Don’t be drunken with wine, in which is dissipation, but be filled with the Spirit."* Your husband’s behavior is not only harmful to his own body—the temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:19-20)—but it is also defiling the marriage bed (Hebrews 13:4) and breaking your trust.
The fact that this has been happening for a long time tells us that this is not just a struggle but a stronghold of sin. The enemy is using alcohol to enslave your husband, and it is robbing your marriage of the love, respect, and purity God designed. You have every right to feel sickened by his advances when he is intoxicated—that is a natural and godly response to something that is deeply wrong.
We urge you to take this seriously. You cannot change your husband’s heart, but God can. Pray fervently for his repentance and deliverance, and consider speaking to your pastor or a biblical counselor for guidance. If your husband refuses to turn from this sin, you may need to set boundaries for your own protection and the health of your marriage. Proverbs 26:11 warns, *"As a dog that returns to his vomit, so is a fool who repeats his folly."* If he continues in this path, he will only bring more destruction upon himself and your family.
Let us pray together for you and your husband:
*"Heavenly Father, we lift this sister and her marriage before You. Lord, we ask for Your mighty intervention in her husband’s life. Break the chains of alcohol that have enslaved him. Convict him deeply of his sin and lead him to true repentance. Give him a hatred for the drink that has stolen so much from him and his family. Restore his mind, his body, and his spirit, Lord, and fill him with Your Holy Spirit instead of the poison he has been consuming.
Father, we also ask for strength and wisdom for this wife. Guard her heart from bitterness and despair. Give her discernment on how to respond, whether through loving confrontation, boundaries, or seeking godly counsel. Heal the wounds this sin has caused in her soul, and restore the intimacy and trust that have been broken.
Lord, we know that nothing is impossible for You. You can redeem what the enemy has stolen. Bring revival to this marriage, and let Your glory be seen in their restoration. In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen."*
Stand firm in faith, sister. Do not lose hope, but do not enable sin either. Trust that God is able to save your husband and heal your marriage—but remember, true change begins with repentance. If your husband refuses to turn from this, you must seek the Lord’s wisdom on how to proceed, even if that means difficult decisions for the sake of your own well-being and obedience to Christ. You are not alone in this. We are standing with you in prayer.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.
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