We lift you up in this difficult season, dear sister, and we stand with you in prayer for your husband and your family. The struggles you describe are deeply painful, and we know the Lord sees your heartache over the division and fear this is causing in your home. The Word of God speaks clearly about the dangers of drunkenness and the responsibility men have to lead their families with love, self-control, and gentleness. Ephesians 5:18 warns us, *"Don’t be drunken with wine, in which is dissipation, but be filled with the Spirit,"* and Proverbs 20:1 declares, *"Wine is a mocker, and beer is a brawler. Whoever is led astray by them is not wise."* Your husband’s behavior when under the influence is not only harming his witness but is driving a wedge between him and those he is called to protect and cherish.
We also grieve with you over the impact this is having on your children, particularly your daughter. The Bible instructs fathers in Ephesians 6:4, *"You fathers, don’t provoke your children to wrath, but nurture them in the discipline and instruction of the Lord."* When a man’s actions—especially those fueled by alcohol—create an environment of tension, fear, or estrangement, it contradicts God’s design for the home. Your adult children’s distance is a natural response to the brokenness they see, and while we pray for reconciliation, we also recognize that their boundaries may be necessary for their own well-being at this time.
Yet we cling to hope, for our God is mighty to save and transform! We pray that the Holy Spirit would convict your husband’s heart, not just of his actions, but of the deeper spiritual battle at play. 1 Peter 5:8 reminds us, *"Be sober and self-controlled. Be watchful. Your adversary, the devil, walks around like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour."* Alcohol can be a tool the enemy uses to distort judgment, fuel anger, and destroy families. But greater is He who is in your husband than he who is in the world (1 John 4:4). We ask the Lord to break the stronghold of alcohol in his life, to replace agitation with peace, argumentativeness with patience, and aggression with the fruit of the Spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23).
We also pray for you, dear sister, that the Lord would grant you supernatural wisdom, strength, and discernment. Colossians 1:9-10 says, *"We pray that you may be filled with the knowledge of his will in all spiritual wisdom and understanding, that you may walk worthily of the Lord, to please him in all respects, bearing fruit in every good work, and increasing in the knowledge of God."* You are not powerless in this situation. While you cannot control your husband’s choices, you can stand firm in prayer, set godly boundaries for your daughter’s protection, and seek counsel from mature believers or a pastor. If your husband’s behavior ever becomes physically threatening, we urge you to prioritize safety—yours and your daughter’s—above all else. The Lord does not call us to endure abuse, but to walk in wisdom and trust Him for deliverance.
Finally, we pray for your daughter, that the Lord would shield her heart from bitterness or fear and surround her with godly influences. May she see, even in this trial, that her heavenly Father is faithful and that His love never fails. We ask the Lord to restore what the locusts have eaten (Joel 2:25), to heal the fractures in your family, and to draw your husband to repentance. Remember, *"The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit. A broken and contrite heart, O God, you will not despise"* (Psalm 51:17). Sometimes it takes hitting rock bottom for a man to cry out to the Lord—but oh, how merciful God is to those who turn to Him!
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this precious sister and her family. Lord, You see the pain, the fear, and the division that alcohol and anger have sown in this home. We ask You to intervene powerfully in her husband’s life. Break the chains of addiction and the spirit of aggression that have taken hold of him. Convict him deeply, Lord—not just of his actions, but of his need for You. Draw him to repentance, Father, and fill him with Your Spirit so that he may lead his family with humility, love, and self-control.
Grant this wife wisdom beyond her own, Lord. Show her how to respond in each moment—when to speak, when to be silent, when to set boundaries, and when to extend grace. Protect her heart from despair and her mind from confusion. Surround her with Your peace that surpasses understanding.
We pray for the children in this family, Lord. Heal the wounds that have been inflicted, and restore trust where it has been broken. Soften the hearts of the adult children toward their father, but also give them discernment to know how to engage wisely. And for the young daughter still in the home, Father, be her refuge and strength. Let her see Your love displayed even in the midst of this storm.
Lord, we ask for a miracle. Where there is brokenness, bring restoration. Where there is anger, bring repentance. Where there is fear, bring faith. We declare that no weapon formed against this family shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and we trust You to redeem what the enemy has sought to destroy.
In the name of Jesus, who came to set the captives free, we pray. Amen.
Stay steadfast, sister. Do not lose heart. Keep praying, keep trusting, and keep seeking the Lord’s face. He is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine (Ephesians 3:20). If you haven’t already, we encourage you to reach out to your church for support—you were not meant to walk this road alone. We are standing with you in faith, believing God for breakthrough.
