Marriage Restoration-Update

[jlwoodford]

My husband wants a divorce. I’m committed to my marriage & want it to work. We have been married for 9 years & a couple for 10. I love my husband with all my heart. He’s involved emotionally with a co-worker who herself left her husband. He sends her over 100 texts a day & hangs out with her occasionally in the evenings (with his friends). My husband has rejected Godly counsel & has no Godly men in his life at this time. He’s turned away from God & church right now (he says he still believes but that is the extent of it). He’s stopped wearing his wedding ring & says he “cares†for me. We’re no longer sharing a bed, his choice. He’s closed himself off from me & when we are together he is always texting her so we really aren’t spending quality 1-on-1 time together. Even when we are doing a family thing, with our 8 yr old daughter, his cell phone is always at hand. He says we have no fire anymore but won’t allow us to connect or try to see if there is fire lying underneath that needs fanning. He says he’s doing the best he can. We have seen a counselor 5 times now & only have 1 more visit covered by insurance. He doesn’t want to see him anymore after that. He has only heard what he has wanted to hear from our sessions. When the counselor restates what he is saying directly to my husband, my husband just stares & shakes his head. Sometimes he connects and other times not so much. I don’t know if he is really listening or maybe he is just thinking but not sure how to appropriately act or reply. Also, my husband is having difficulty sleeping & I hope God is speaking to him at this time & perhaps he is listening which is why he is having difficulty sleeping. I know if he tried, together we can make positive Godly changes in our lives & get back on track, doing it right this time. I only want/need that chance because I know in my heart we will succeed if given the opportunity. I don’t know how to help him open his eyes to this possibility or how I can get this other woman to realize the damage she is truly causing. She is not a woman of God so I don’t think she will do the right thing for him, his family or hers. She is not putting her children first either with her behavior & I pray for them as well. I’m praying often, speaking with my pastor & attending church with my daughter. My husband works on Sundays but said he would come to church as he can (hasn’t happened yet but hopefully). I’ve worked through the Save Your Marriage program & I’m consistently & constantly now giving unconditional respect for my husband, as I learned in the book, Love & Respect. This is my great sin, not respecting my husband in the right way he needed which is where his hurt has come from. I respected him but did not show that through my words & actions. I’m ashamed to say for many years now my words have proven disrespect & I know I have gravely hurt him. I have apologized & I am consistently respecting him as he needs and hope in time while we are taking things slowly (going through our things, fixing up our house for sale and becoming financially more stable) that we will reconnect during this time and recover and rebuild. I’m truly trying my best & love my husband very much. I pray as often as I can & have asked as many people I can find to help pray for us. I’m trusting that God will see I’m trying to be the wife he wants me to be. I am trying my best to walk along side Christ. I pray God will hear my prayers & answer them. I pray that God will influence my husband & help to open my husband’s eyes, speak to him & show him the way home. My daughter is really hurting from this also. I have been spending as much time with her as I can, showing her the love & respect I have for her (even when her Dad doesn’t put her needs first when he involves himself with his worker friend & when he spends 2-3 nights a week out at a bar with his friends or her). My daughter has seen him texting often & she is very sad he chooses to spend time with his friends versus us. Please pray for our marriage to be restored, recreated in the way God wants for it to be; for my husband to hear & feel God’s love in his thoughts & dreams & for him to see how his actions hurt what he did & still loves; to bring peace to his soul to help heal his hurt & to rebuild over that hurt positive feelings & a strong foundation based in God, love & respect. For Jennifer, Zach & Emma

 

[The Encourager]

Pray for your marriage. Pray for your mate. No one is perfect…But God will perfect what concerns you and your mate in your marriage. You got to pray, trust God, you have got to line up to God’s Word. Learn to be Patient; walk in Love and Forgiveness. And always remember what drew you to each other. Ask God to show you both how to keep that Love strong and healthy in Christ Jesus. Those of you who are single, pray this prayer for your future mate.

Let’s Pray…God I thank You that I can come to you about anything. I come lifting up my marriage

to You. I place my marriage in Your hands. Knit us and our marriage together, rooted and grounded in Your Love Lord Jesus, so that nothing can destroy it. Bess and heal my marriage. Fix what is wrong in this marriage and make it right. Bless each of us to be totally committed to You and Your plan for our lives. Teach us how to pray and intercede for each other, our children, and love ones. Let love, joy, peace, and faithfulness to You God and each other reign within the walls of our hearts and home. Give both of us patience and a great respect for each other. Help us; teach us how to be gentle, compassionate, courteous, and tenderhearted toward each other. Help us to remember what drew us to each other. Show us Lord Jesus how to keep Love strong and healthy in our marriage. Bless my marriage Lord Jesus. And please do the same for every married couple in my family, all my friends that are married, and the writer of this prayer. Bless our marriages.

Be Blessed Today, Tomorrow, & Always!

Encourager Linda Flagg, LM, CS

Christian Life Coach & Youth Minister

www.theencourager.net www.encourager.us

 

[Eugene]

I so pray for you. I ask the Lord to please make him realise the auwfull concequences of this choice, and make him see the devastation he about to bring on himself and his whole family. Lord, make thing right

 

[hadassah]

You know how God feels about divorce. He says He 'hates' it. So then, we know that a divorce is not God's will for you.

I encourage you to Trust the Lord.

I will not be afraid of evil tidings (husband wants a divorce) my heart if FIXED, TRUSTING in the Lord and when I put my confidence in Him (HIs confidence) I know I will not be disappointed. And this is the confidence that we have in Him, if we ask anything according to His will, He hears us...and if I know He hears us, whatsover we ask, then I know that I have the petitions that I desired of Him.

My heart if FIXED O God, my heart is FIXED, I will sing and give you praise.

Find scriptures that speak of trusting the Lord, no matter what your eyes see or ears hear.

My son and his wife were on the verge of divorce and I saw a teaching on the valley of dry bones in ezekiel. I believe the Lord wanted me to prophesy life into thei marriage and I did that. No matter what my ears heard or eyes saw, my focus was on the prize. REconciliation. Three months later they were back together.

When thoughts of doubts come in, press into God. One night I woke up and saw what my son had written on his web page and i just begin to sing a song to the Lord.

"You are a good God. YOu are a mighty awesome God. You are a good God. You're so good to me. You're so good to me. You are so good to me." and sang it over and over until i fell asleep.

God is calling us all back to our first love, Jesus. I encourage you to forget about your husband, in the sense, instead of looking and dwelling and speculating of 'what could happen' focus your attention on God. Jesus has already won the victory for you, but we need to stand and believe that victory is ours. If we falter and waiver back and forth, we will be like a double minded man who is unstable in all his way. Your sure foundation is Christ Jesus. Set your feet on Him. Get into the word and find every scripture that supports marriage. The first one... God hates divorce.

Death and life are in the power of the tongue, so our words are important. If you look at it this way, God spoke, Light be, and it continues to go forth. We can create our environment by speaking them into existence. People talk about how bad their lives are and bemoan their situation, and don't see a way out so their despair gets even greater. That's not the life that God gave us. Jesus is our example. He only did and said what He saw the Father say and do, and we need to follow suit. He lives in us by Holy Spirit. That resurrection power lives in us...now unto Him who is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think according to the POWER that works in us.

Please read 1 Cor 13 and then meditate on verses 4-8 and ask Holy Spirit to bring this true alive to you. God has shed abroad in your heart and so we pray that His love will abound yet more and more in knowledge and in all judgment. That you may approve things that are excellent. That you may be sincere and without offense till the day of Christ. Being filled with the fruits of righteousness that are found in Jesus Christ, to the glory and praise of God.

Thank you FAther for the covenant of marriage. Thank you that this didn't take you by surprise and what an awesome opportunity to trust you, Lord! Because when we put our confidence in you, we know we will not be disappointed. I pray for this husband, and in the name of Jesus, bind him to your will for his life. I bind his spirit, soul and body to your plans and purposes. I bind his mind to the mind of Christ to the skilful godly wisdom. Lord bring to his remembrance, Prov 1 and 2 and let it speak to him in the night season. In Jesus name, I bless this marriage with restoration and reconciliation. Redeem this marriage not to its former place, but in a righteous holy place, where Christ is the center. I pray for the daughter, that she would fix her eyes on Jesus and not be afraid but rest in assurance that her God fights for her. I bless this wife with the abundance of your love and grace, May she walk in forgiveness, not only towards her husband and this other lady but to each person who crosses her path. I pray blessings upon this other woman of a new job elsewhere in another state.

In Jesus name. Amen.

I encourage you to read Guy Bevington's book, "Remarkable Incidents" and here is the link, it's a free book.

http://wesley.nnu.edu/wesleyctr/books/0001-0100/HDM0015.pdf

I believe it will bless you and open your eyes to things you the goodness of God and His faithfulness.

In Jesus name. Amen.

 

[The Encourager]

I know that this was not your prayer request. But your family and friends need your prayers. Pray for their salvation in Jesus’ name. God desire is that no man shall perish. II Peter 3:9 tells us: The Lord is not slack concerning his promise, as some men count slackness; but is longsuffering to us-ward, not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance.



Let’s Pray Child of God….God I ask in Jesus’ name save my whole entire family Lord Jesus and all my friends. Bless us all to come to know You, love You and walk in obedience to Your Holy Word. May we all do the will of Jehovah our God as Jesus did. Bless Us, Protect Us, Deliver us all from evil. Bless each of us to prosper, be in excellent health as our souls prospers in You. God please do this for me, my family, my friends, and for the writer of this prayer; because heaven would not be the same without them there.



Please pass the prayer on to all your Christian Family Members & Friends...



Continue To Pray For Your Family’s & Friend’s Salvation,

Encourager Linda Flagg, LM, CS

Christian Life Coach & Youth Minister

www.theencourager.net www.encourager.us



PS: If You Truly, Really, Absolutely Want to Be Blessed…Obey God’s Word! Let Your Lifestyle be Shaped by the Word of God.

 

God cares I will pray. Amen.