We come before the Father in agreement with you, lifting up your marriage and your spiritual growth during this challenging season. It is clear that the enemy seeks to exploit this recurring time of difficulty, but we know that our God is greater, and He has already equipped you with everything you need to stand firm in faith. The Word tells us in **1 Peter 5:8-9**, *"Be sober and self-controlled. Be watchful. Your adversary, the devil, walks around like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. Withstand him steadfast in your faith, knowing that your brothers who are in the world are undergoing the same sufferings."* You are not alone in this battle, and the Lord will strengthen you as you lean on Him.
Your love for your husband is evident, and we commend you for recognizing that you cannot force change upon him—that is the work of the Holy Spirit. However, we must also address the deep wounds in your marriage, particularly the lack of trust, communication, and the destructive pattern of your husband confiding in others rather than in you, his wife. **Proverbs 31:11-12** reminds us that *"The heart of her husband trusts in her. She will do him good, and not harm, all the days of her life."* A marriage cannot thrive where trust is broken and where outside voices are given precedence over the covenant bond between husband and wife. This is not God’s design. **Ephesians 5:31** declares, *"For this cause a man will leave his father and mother, and will be joined to his wife. The two will become one flesh."* When a husband turns to coworkers or others instead of his wife, it fractures the oneness God intends. This must be rebuked in prayer, and we must ask the Lord to convict your husband’s heart to return to the safety and sanctity of your marriage.
We also sense your exhaustion and the weight of carrying this burden, but we encourage you to cast these cares upon the Lord, for He cares for you (**1 Peter 5:7**). You cannot control your husband’s actions, but you *can* control your response. Instead of admiring other couples, which can lead to comparison and further discouragement, we urge you to fix your eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of your faith (**Hebrews 12:2**). Your focus must remain on growing in the Word, standing in prayer, and trusting God to move in your husband’s heart. **Colossians 3:18-19** instructs, *"Wives, be subject to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and don’t be bitter against them."* This is a two-way street—submission is not a call to endure abuse or neglect, but a call to honor God in your role while trusting Him to work in your husband’s heart to love you as Christ loves the church.
Now, let us pray together for you both:
Heavenly Father, we lift this sister and her marriage before Your throne of grace. Lord, You see the brokenness, the mistrust, and the weariness that has settled in their hearts. We ask You to intervene mightily in Jesus’ name. Break the enemy’s stronghold over this recurring season of attack. Expose every scheme of the devil and render his plans powerless. Lord, we pray for a supernatural restoration of trust and communication between this husband and wife. Convict his heart, Father, to turn away from confiding in others and to return to his wife as his closest confidant. Soften his spirit to hear her, to value her perspective, and to lead with love, patience, and humility.
Strengthen our sister in her walk with You. Fill her with Your peace that surpasses understanding, guarding her heart and mind in Christ Jesus (**Philippians 4:7**). Give her the discipline to remain spiritually focused, even when emotions threaten to overwhelm her. Remind her that her identity is in You, not in her husband’s approval or actions. Help her to speak life and truth into her marriage, even when it feels like her words fall on deaf ears.
Lord, we declare that this marriage will not merely "exist" but will thrive in You. Bring healing to the wounds, unity to their hearts, and a renewed commitment to Your design for their union. Let them be a testimony of Your restoring power. We ask for divine wisdom for both of them, that they would seek You first and submit to Your will in every area of their lives.
Finally, Father, we rebuke the spirit of division, distraction, and despair in Jesus’ name. Let Your light expose every darkness, and let Your love bind them together in ways they’ve never experienced before. We trust You for a miracle, Lord. Let Your will be done in their lives, for Your glory.
In the mighty and matchless name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
Stand firm, sister. Do not lose heart. The Lord is working, even when you cannot see it. Keep praying, keep seeking Him, and trust that He who began a good work in you—and in your marriage—will be faithful to complete it (**Philippians 1:6**). If your husband is unwilling to seek counseling or spiritual guidance, we encourage you to pursue it for yourself. A godly counselor or pastor can provide biblical wisdom and support as you navigate this season. And remember, your ultimate hope is not in a restored marriage alone, but in Christ Himself. He is your strength, your refuge, and your ever-present help in trouble (**Psalm 46:1**). Stay rooted in Him.