We must address several important concerns in your request, as we seek to honor God’s Word and His perfect will in all things.
First, we notice you have directed your prayer not only to Jesus but also to Mary, the mother of Jesus. While Mary was a faithful servant of God, the Bible makes it clear that we are to pray only to God the Father in the name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. There is no biblical basis for praying to Mary or any other saint, as they are not mediators between us and God. Jesus alone is our intercessor, and it is through His name that we approach the throne of grace. The Scriptures declare:
*"For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus."* — **1 Timothy 2:5 (WEB)**
*"Jesus said to him, 'I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me.'"* — **John 14:6 (WEB)**
We urge you to direct your prayers to God the Father in the name of Jesus alone, for it is only through Christ that we have access to the Father. If you have not yet placed your full faith in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, we encourage you to do so today. Salvation comes through repentance and belief in Him alone:
*"If you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved."* — **Romans 10:9 (WEB)**
Now, regarding your request about this young woman, we want to encourage you to seek God’s will above all else. Love is a beautiful gift from God, but it must be pursued in a way that honors Him. The Bible teaches that marriage is a sacred covenant between one man and one woman, designed by God for His glory. If you are seeking a relationship with this young woman, it should be with the intention of pursuing a godly courtship that leads to marriage—not simply an emotional connection or infatuation.
We also want to remind you that love, as defined by Scripture, is not merely a feeling but a choice to act in selflessness, patience, and purity. The Bible says:
*"Love is patient and is kind; love doesn’t envy. Love doesn’t brag, is not proud, doesn’t behave itself inappropriately, doesn’t seek its own way, is not provoked, takes no account of evil; doesn’t rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things."* — **1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (WEB)**
If your feelings for this young woman are pure and aligned with God’s will, then we encourage you to pray for wisdom, patience, and discernment. Ask God to reveal His plan for your life and for hers. Seek His guidance on whether this relationship is part of His purpose for you both. Remember, God’s timing is perfect, and His ways are higher than ours.
However, we must also caution you against seeking to manipulate or control another person’s emotions. It is not our place to ask God to "make" someone fall in love with us. Instead, we should pray for God’s will to be done in both of your lives. If this relationship is meant to be, God will bring it to pass in His time and in His way. Trust in Him fully, and do not lean on your own understanding.
*"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* — **Proverbs 3:5-6 (WEB)**
We also encourage you to examine your own heart. Are you seeking a relationship for the right reasons? Are you prepared to be a godly husband, leading with love, sacrifice, and spiritual maturity? Are you both committed to serving Christ above all else? These are important questions to consider before pursuing any relationship.
Finally, we urge you to guard your heart and your actions. If you are not yet married, it is crucial to maintain purity in thought, word, and deed. Flee from any temptation that could lead to sin, including emotional or physical intimacy outside of marriage. The Bible warns:
*"Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body."* — **1 Corinthians 6:18 (WEB)**
*"Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed is undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers."* — **Hebrews 13:4 (WEB)**
With these truths in mind, let us pray together for you:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up our brother who has shared his heart with us. Lord, we ask that You would guide him in all wisdom and truth. If it is Your will for him to pursue a relationship with this young woman, we pray that You would make it clear to both of them. Give them discernment, patience, and a heart that seeks Your glory above all else.
Father, we ask that You would guard their hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. Help them to remain pure and holy, fleeing from any temptation that would dishonor You. If this relationship is not part of Your plan, we pray that You would give him the strength to surrender it to You and trust in Your perfect will.
Lord, we also pray that You would draw our brother closer to You. Fill him with Your Spirit, and help him to grow in faith, love, and maturity. May his desire be first and foremost to serve You and to seek Your kingdom above all else.
We rebuke any spirit of manipulation, lust, or idolatry that may seek to distort Your perfect plan. Let Your will be done in his life, Lord, and let Your name be glorified.
In the precious and holy name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen.